S/O- Why I won't post u/s pics

dogsfornow · January 2012

I don't feel it is fair to start creating my child's digital dossier before s/he is even born. I've worked very hard to keep my own online identity professional and clean. I will hope to work with my child to do the same.

I don't think this is paranoia, I think this is the reality of the world we are living in today.

https://youtu.be/79IYZVYIVLA 

(I have no idea why Chrome won't let me make this link active.)

dogsfornow · January 2012

theresat858:
Because your baby/child will be easily identifiable from an ultrasound picture...?

No, but I want him/her to have the option of whether or not that image is shared all over the interwebz. I get to decide which pictures of me are all over, and I envision my child would appreciate that same privilege.

pickle82 · January 2012

theresat858:
Because your baby/child will be easily identifiable from an ultrasound picture...?

Maybe it's incase our LO becomes President or Miss America or Top Chef? Assuming the world still exists past 2012?

DrRx · January 2012

pickle82:
theresat858:
Because your baby/child will be easily identifiable from an ultrasound picture...?

Maybe it's incase our LO becomes President or Miss America or Top Chef? Assuming the world still exists past 2012?

Lol! I can see the political attack ads now: "Would YOU trust this country to an Internet porn star???"

OP: Although I don't disagree with you, I don't entirely agree either, if that makes any sense. I see your points, and think they're somewhat valid, but I do think this entire thing is just too close to pure ridiculousness.

MrsVonKikabee · January 2012

Eh, I'm cool with posting u/s pics. And normal pics. But not the money shot, it's just NMS.

PunkRockPrincess1313 · January 2012

Interesting youtube video... the book might be a good read. A lot has changed since our lives went online.

Can I ask a dumb question...what does S/O mean when used in the subject line?? I am terrible with abbreviations!

dogsfornow · January 2012

DrRx:

OP: Although I don't disagree with you, I don't entirely agree either, if that makes any sense. I see your points, and think they're somewhat valid, but I do think this entire thing is just too close to pure ridiculousness.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me. In fact, I'd be bored if they did. I know that in my job, my online identity is constantly up for scrutiny. While this seems like not much of a big deal now, I never want my child to feel unable to do whatever s/he wants based on my decisions. For me, it's being thoughtful about what I post as they grow up too.

dogsfornow · January 2012

PunkRockPrincess1313:
Interesting youtube video... the book might be a good read. A lot has changed since our lives went online.
Can I ask a dumb question...what does S/O mean when used in the subject line?? I am terrible with abbreviations!

Spin off or speaking of

jeffsjayme · January 2012

Will you post a family picture or something? Isn't that the same thing? Did your kid get to decide if that gets on the internet?

pickle82 · January 2012

dogsfornow:
DrRx:

OP: Although I don't disagree with you, I don't entirely agree either, if that makes any sense. I see your points, and think they're somewhat valid, but I do think this entire thing is just too close to pure ridiculousness.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me. In fact, I'd be bored if they did. I know that in my job, my online identity is constantly up for scrutiny. While this seems like not much of a big deal now, I never want my child to feel unable to do whatever s/he wants based on my decisions. For me, it's being thoughtful about what I post as they grow up too.

Hmmmm. That's going to be pretty much unavoidable to accomplish. Stick out tongue My husband and I are going to be deciding much of what our LO does or doesn't do as they grow up and start learning about life.

pickle82 · January 2012

Whoops, double post!

dogsfornow · January 2012

jeffsjayme:
Will you post a family picture or something? Isn't that the same thing? Did your kid get to decide if that gets on the internet?

I try never to say never, but there are fewer than 50 pictures of me on FB and even on there I don't use my real name. My husband has even fewer.

This is an issue that has come to my attention in recent years. I acknowledge that I am probably going to be overprotective about it. All that being said, I would rather be too cautious than too liberal.

ETA- Regardless of whether I post kid pics or not, I will say they won't be naked pics or "money shots" of an ultrasound. I think that crosses the privacy line for my child that I was just referencing.

dogsfornow · January 2012

pickle82:
dogsfornow:
DrRx:

OP: Although I don't disagree with you, I don't entirely agree either, if that makes any sense. I see your points, and think they're somewhat valid, but I do think this entire thing is just too close to pure ridiculousness.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me. In fact, I'd be bored if they did. I know that in my job, my online identity is constantly up for scrutiny. While this seems like not much of a big deal now, I never want my child to feel unable to do whatever s/he wants based on my decisions. For me, it's being thoughtful about what I post as they grow up too.

Hmmmm. That's going to be pretty much unavoidable to accomplish. My husband and I are going to be deciding much of what our LO does or doesn't do as they grow up and start learning about life.

I really hope I'm accurately reading this in sarcasm font and that you didn't totally miss the implication that I was talking about life goals not whether they want to eat broccoli or ice cream for dinner.

PunkRockPrincess1313 · January 2012

dogsfornow:
PunkRockPrincess1313:
Interesting youtube video... the book might be a good read. A lot has changed since our lives went online.
Can I ask a dumb question...what does S/O mean when used in the subject line?? I am terrible with abbreviations!
Spin off or speaking of

Thank you thank you! ^_^

AnariaR · January 2012

Moneyshot - I don't think this means what you think it means...

pickle82 · January 2012

dogsfornow:
pickle82:
dogsfornow:
DrRx:

OP: Although I don't disagree with you, I don't entirely agree either, if that makes any sense. I see your points, and think they're somewhat valid, but I do think this entire thing is just too close to pure ridiculousness.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me. In fact, I'd be bored if they did. I know that in my job, my online identity is constantly up for scrutiny. While this seems like not much of a big deal now, I never want my child to feel unable to do whatever s/he wants based on my decisions. For me, it's being thoughtful about what I post as they grow up too.

Hmmmm. That's going to be pretty much unavoidable to accomplish. My husband and I are going to be deciding much of what our LO does or doesn't do as they grow up and start learning about life.

I really hope I'm accurately reading this in sarcasm font and that you didn't totally miss the implication that I was talking about life goals not whether they want to eat broccoli or ice cream for dinner.

Yes I was being sarcastic. Mostly because I think the whole thread is a non-issue. But when you think about it, the day-to-day decisions we make as parents do actually help or hinder our children achieve their goals. But!!!! I do not think posting a u/s pic of 3 lines on the bump is going to keep my child from getting into college or getting a dream job. I just don't.

Going along with your thread's "theme;" do you think you will be giving your LO a cell phone one day? There is so much potential for danger with that kind of technology. I know I made a lot of stupid decisions as a kid/teen/young adult.

I have an idea! Let's quit hassling random internet strangers and go read a parenting book. Seems a lot more productive to me.

dogsfornow · January 2012

pickle82:
dogsfornow:
pickle82:
dogsfornow:
DrRx:

OP: Although I don't disagree with you, I don't entirely agree either, if that makes any sense. I see your points, and think they're somewhat valid, but I do think this entire thing is just too close to pure ridiculousness.

I don't expect everyone to agree with me. In fact, I'd be bored if they did. I know that in my job, my online identity is constantly up for scrutiny. While this seems like not much of a big deal now, I never want my child to feel unable to do whatever s/he wants based on my decisions. For me, it's being thoughtful about what I post as they grow up too.

Hmmmm. That's going to be pretty much unavoidable to accomplish. My husband and I are going to be deciding much of what our LO does or doesn't do as they grow up and start learning about life.

I really hope I'm accurately reading this in sarcasm font and that you didn't totally miss the implication that I was talking about life goals not whether they want to eat broccoli or ice cream for dinner.

Yes I was being sarcastic. Mostly because I think the whole thread is a non-issue. But when you think about it, the day-to-day decisions we make as parents do actually help or hinder our children achieve their goals. But!!!! I do not think posting a u/s pic of 3 lines on the bump is going to keep my child from getting into college or getting a dream job. I just don't.

Going along with your thread's "theme;" do you think you will be giving your LO a cell phone one day? There is so much potential for danger with that kind of technology. I know I made a lot of stupid decisions as a kid/teen/young adult.

I have an idea! Let's quit hassling random internet strangers and go read a parenting book. Seems a lot more productive to me.

We disagree. You're the one freaking out here. I didn't call anyone out or say other people were wrong. I said what I felt about the issue for my child.

I made many mistakes as a teenager too. It wasn't possible for mine to be broadcast on the internet for millions of people to see. Mistakes are important. I hope my kid makes lots and learns from them. You enjoy your parenting book, and I'll keep talking to people who don't feel the need to overreact when people have different ideas about parenting than I do. I'm sure you can find some author who will tell you you're perfect and everyone else is failing at life.

strawberrytree · January 2012

dogsfornow:
jeffsjayme:
Will you post a family picture or something? Isn't that the same thing? Did your kid get to decide if that gets on the internet?
I try never to say never, but there are fewer than 50 pictures of me on FB and even on there I don't use my real name. My husband has even fewer.
This is an issue that has come to my attention in recent years. I acknowledge that I am probably going to be overprotective about it. All that being said, I would rather be too cautious than too liberal.
ETA- Regardless of whether I post kid pics or not, I will say they won't be naked pics or "money shots" of an ultrasound. I think that crosses the privacy line for my child that I was just referencing.

You know what, OP, I think I actually agree with you for the most part, although my reasoning is a bit different. I don't have u/s pics yet (grrr, not until 20wks!) but when I do I'm definitely not going to post them on the Internet. My family all lives pretty far away, so I might email them to family and close friends, but I'm not cool with all my random acquaintance FB friends seeing something so personal to our family.

Same thing when our baby is born. Yeah, I'll probably post a few cute pics of baby and future brothers and sisters as they grow up, but I would definitely never post any naked baby pictures, bath pictures, BF pictures (yeah, I've seen those on FB), etc. Some things are just personal and I'd rather keep them within our family than share them with the whole world via the Internet. Privacy settings mean jack to someone with any hacking skills at all. I'd be completely humiliated if my mother went around showing random strangers my naked baby pictures (I can't believe a pp's parents in the other thread showed random strangers bath pics! Was that for real? Oh, I would NOT be okay with that!). I respect my future child's right to privacy too much to do that to them.

Natalie&Mark · January 2012

I appreciate artistic nudity online, even though pervs might get a different interpretation than I do. I think baby nudity is innocent, but I understand there is a niche of truly specialized freaks that might find fuzzy black and white images erotic. The crotch shot to me is more of a scientific thing than a "share via Facebook" specimen, so I personally won't be posting that one.

JennyJensing · January 2012

Dogsfornow...you are saying that you are just disagreeing and that she is freaking out, however your reply posts are VERY confrontational and snarky/biitchy. She was joking and it was funny. Let it go.

pickle82 · January 2012

We disagree. You're the one freaking out here. I didn't call anyone out or say other people were wrong. I said what I felt about the issue for my child.

I made many mistakes as a teenager too. It wasn't possible for mine to be broadcast on the internet for millions of people to see. Mistakes are important. I hope my kid makes lots and learns from them. You enjoy your parentng book, and I'll keep talking to people who don't feel the need to overreact when people have different ideas about parenting than I do. I'm sure you can find some author who will tell you you're perfect and everyone else is failing at life.

You have to be upset to freak out. I find this thread more humorous than upsetting. I apologize if you feel I attacked you. I just felt like your post was at the top of a rather large hormonal dog pile regarding this topic. As for the bolded text...What? Uh, huhh? I am definitly not a perfect parent and am not pretending to be. I thought we were having a discussion. I certainly wasn't telling you to f%^* off or calling you a failure.

Mainly, I am tired of the constant "dogpile" posting.

adiddy33 · January 2012

I won't post pics of my son naked on FB but yes we have posted ultrasound pictures. It's natural and it's not like you can truly see that much. I think it is going overboard to worry about their privacy based on an ultrasound pic but if you want to reserve this for close ones that's fine. But, if he or she is like the teenagers I know, they'll be hiding their school pics and not even let you give one to grandma because they think they look bad. Where do you draw the line? I really don't plan on having secret, invisible children on FB and I plan to let my parents have pictures no matter how much my kids whine. I know you are talking mainly about the Internet but you also mentioned choices for them.

SGreen0985 · January 2012

lol, I'm sorry but this post made me laugh. It's an u/s pic. You can't tell who is in it. I can't believe that people actually sit around and think about this stuff.
Do what you like. But I honestly don't think an u/s picture matters as long as you black out the mothers name, DOB, ect.

marielovestimothy03 · January 2012

SGreen0985:
lol, I'm sorry but this post made me laugh. It's an u/s pic. You can't tell who is in it. I can't believe that people actually sit around and think about this stuff.
Do what you like. But I honestly don't think an u/s picture matters as long as you black out the mothers name, DOB, ect.

Agreed

dogsfornow · January 2012

JennyJensing:
Dogsfornow...you are saying that you are just disagreeing and that she is freaking out, however your reply posts are VERY confrontational and snarky/biitchy. She was joking and it was funny. Let it go.

I think you need to look up bitchy. Asking for clarification isn't bitchy.

As for my final post last night, I addressed her questions regarding kids making mistakes and her off the cuff comment about reading a parenting book. It was a statement I viewed as directly confronting me.

Please notice that I have always said I. Meaning these are decisions I am planning to make and the reasons for them. Then, like a big girl, I stuck around and answered questions when asked. I happen to disagree with large numbers of girls on this board regarding ultrasounds. It is not because of perverts, which is what the original thread devolved in to, it is because of wanting to control what information is available online of my child. Once that child is born, s/he will be linked to me. If people can find stuff throughr, they will be able to link it to my kid. Again, this is my opinion and how I want to address what I see as the reality of our digital world.

theseaword · January 2012

The ultrasound picture will only reflect negatively on your child in the future if your child looks unattractive or unprofessional in the shot. That's why I'm paying for a specialized ultrasound pic, with professional lighting, makeup, and airbrushing. Only the best for my babe.

Crystalnorris · January 2012

Are you a spy for the CIA? Or a celebrity?

FeistyKoala · January 2012

TwilightMV:
The ultrasound picture will only reflect negatively on your child in the future if your child looks unattractive or unprofessional in the shot. That's why I'm paying for a specialized ultrasound pic, with professional lighting, makeup, and airbrushing. Only the best for my babe.

Bwahahaha!!! This was great! Please let me know where I can have this done! Big Smile

I'm not even sure why this was a post? Who cares what you choose for your child? I don't think it even needed to be posted...it seemed like OP was saying that anyone who posts pics of their kids is wrong and ruining their child's chances of a successful life. I'm not posting my A/S pic because, frankly, I can't see what the heck determined that it is a girl so why would anyone else want to look at a picture I can't even understand? I won't post bfeeding pics because I don't want my boob out there for everyone to see, and I won't post bathtime pics because I have had friends get notices from the facebook gods about them. However, I will post cute pics for my friends to see because that's what we do and I want to show her off in all of her adorable glory. Big deal. Those are my choices. If you disagree, keep it to yourself.

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