Just a vent/rant because of RL friends complaining about my 'easy' baby

huber22 · December 2011

old_time_girl:
So, what everyone is saying is that there are no bad parents. KIds don't need guidence and dicapline because no matter what you do, you will either have a brat or an angel.

So, forget about sleep training, or feeding them healthy foods, time outs... if you have an easy kid, great, if not, you'll end up with a rude, fat, insomniac.

Thanks for clearing that up.

BTW, Sailor, I think you DH is on to something.

At five months old,no discipline does nothing. Guidance also does nothing. All this post did was further your asshattery.

old_time_girl · December 2011

I see no reason for name calling. This post was not an attack on anyone. But it got turned around on me. Thanks guys. You all are great.

katie4253 · December 2011

old_time_girl:
I see no reason for name calling. This post was not an attack on anyone. But it got turned around on me. Thanks guys. You all are great.

Yup. You're the victim. You're right.

You'rethebestmomintheworld!!! Yayyyy! Go youuuuu!

huber22 · December 2011

old_time_girl:
I see no reason for name calling. This post was not an attack on anyone. But it got turned around on me. Thanks guys. You all are great.

You are welcome. It seems to be you are happiest when things are about you. (See OP)

Jaylea · December 2011

old_time_girl:

So, what everyone is saying is that there are no bad parents. KIds don't need guidence and dicapline because no matter what you do, you will either have a brat or an angel.

So, forget about sleep training, or feeding them healthy foods, time outs... if you have an easy kid, great, if not, you'll end up with a rude, fat, insomniac.

Thanks for clearing that up.

BTW, Sailor, I think you DH is on to something.

Your 5 month old "easy" baby is not currently benefitting from time outs, "discapline" or healthy foods at the moment. Likewise, my 6 week old colicky baby #1 wasn't suffering from a lack of discipline, she was suffering from stomach pains.

He hasn't even hit teething yet.

Slow your roll, there, Mother of the Year.

DruidPrincess · December 2011

I think I actually heard the theme to Braveheart while I was reading that.

cmeinla · December 2011

old_time_girl:
Wow, people are totally mis-reading this.

Let me try again.

My LO and I have found a good thing that works for us. We are in tuned to each-other and it helps us both be happy. But don't say that the ONLY reason my baby and I get along is because he's 'easy'. That's putting my parenting skills down. It's not easy. Being a parent is not easy. Getting up 4 times a night is not easy. So don't tell me that the only reason my baby isn't crying during the hour or 2 you see him means he's an easy baby.

Does that make better sense? I'm not trying to put anyone else down and their parenting. I'm just defending myself to RL friend...

Is this RL friend on the Nest/Bump? I'm confused why you would try to defend yourself here, when the person who "insulted you" is not. That's like holding a shield in front of you because you're getting shot in the ass.

Also it is a bit twatwaffley to come to a board full of mothers, all of whom are having at least as hard a time as you are parenting, being completely aware that some have it much harder, and say "you just don't know how hard it is, to be the parent of a baby who doesn't cry or fuss as much as other babies. And further more, the reason my baby is better than yours is because I have mastered what you may still be struggling with. And, now don't get insulted, but the reason that I'm the bestest mommy ever is because I put way more effort into meeting the needs of my child, than you do."

pinkeggs · December 2011

old_time_girl:
So, what everyone is saying is that there are no bad parents. KIds don't need guidence and dicapline because no matter what you do, you will either have a brat or an angel.

So, forget about sleep training, or feeding them healthy foods, time outs... if you have an easy kid, great, if not, you'll end up with a rude, fat, insomniac.

Thanks for clearing that up.

BTW, Sailor, I think you DH is on to something.

Pssst...snark goes much further on the boards if you know how to spell and use proper grammar. You know, for future reference when you're letting everyone know that you skipped the tantrum phase because you heard your toddler before he got so angry!

toriwc · December 2011

This OP is the most ridiculous I've read in months. And if you check my track record, I do not snark or participate in pile ons, or anything like that. But to the OP, what was the point of this? My baby is also so easy that everyone comments on her. My response? "I know! We are so lucky because we sure as hell had nothing to do with it."

EastCoastBride · December 2011

old_time_girl:

So, what everyone is saying is that there are no bad parents. KIds don't need guidence and dicapline because no matter what you do, you will either have a brat or an angel.

So, forget about sleep training, or feeding them healthy foods, time outs... if you have an easy kid, great, if not, you'll end up with a rude, fat, insomniac.

Thanks for clearing that up.

BTW, Sailor, I think you DH is on to something.

Yes, that's exactly what we're all saying....

Confused

+diana82+ · December 2011

old_time_girl:
So, what everyone is saying is that there are no bad parents. KIds don't need guidence and dicapline because no matter what you do, you will either have a brat or an angel.

So, forget about sleep training, or feeding them healthy foods, time outs... if you have an easy kid, great, if not, you'll end up with a rude, fat, insomniac.

Thanks for clearing that up.

BTW, Sailor, I think you DH is on to something.

::Pats OP on the head:: FTMs can be so cute.

For the record, I was supermom at 5 months too. And then he hit about 14 months and I wanted to sell him to the freaking circus. Your time will come.

JennyAnne022776 · December 2011

+diana82+:
::Pats OP on the head:: FTMs can be so cute.
For the record, I was supermom at 5 months too. And then he hit about 14 months and I wanted to sell him to the freaking circus. Your time will come.

Yeah, please don't go there and blame this on "first time mom" syndrome. You give the rest of us relatively normal FTMs a bad name. I know just as many douches that are second and third time moms.

lyse2143 · December 2011

I get what you're trying to say, but you kind of suck at saying it. That said, I still don't understand your beef. I was told all weekend what a good baby I have. Guess what, we have reflux issues, and lately he hates eating because he outgrew his meds and we are working on a new dose. Oh and don't forget how he still wakes up a couple of times a night. But you know what? I don't focus on that. I focus on the fact that they like my baby, they gave me and my baby a compliment, and while things are not always smelling like roses, it could be A LOT worse, and I don't NEED people to praise me for my mothering skills. It sounds like you want credit for all you've overcome to have what people consider an "easy" baby, when reality, just take the compliment and move on.

Samandis · December 2011

firewiferut:
I get what you're saying I think.

Your friend/s say that you have an "easy" baby because they see him happy most of the time. But really, he hasn't been all that easy- to you- because he has his moments of unconsolable crying and what not. You attribute him being happy to the hard work you put in to being a mother- not saying that people with babies that cry a lot aren't putting in hard work.

I also think that genetics has a lot to do w/ a baby's predisposition on life in general. If that baby will be tempermental or easygoing. Like a previous post said, my baby takes after my husband and is more even-tempered and easygoing. But I also think that I serve her needs when I see she is getting fussy.

I think whatever you said just probably didn't come out the way you wanted it to.

I agree. When I first read this, I thought, wow she's cocky. But I think part of what you are saying is that it feels like people are saying you are less of a mother because you have an "easy" baby. But those people don't see the hard times and think you aren't putting in the kind of work they are. Next time though, I would re-read your post from a critical stand point because it does kind of come off like you are a better mom than most. Which I don't know if that was how you really intended it to come off.

MamaC2b2011 · December 2011

Yikes. At first reading your original post, I tried to give you the benfit of the doubt, then I read your other responses... and this is just a big fail mixed with ugly righteousness.

I'm a FTM of a very easy, sweet 5 month old girl. I would NEVER attribute it to my parenting, or that I stay home with her so we're "in tune" more than other moms and their babies.

This was pretty insulting to moms of babies who aren't so "easy". I have lots of friends of babies at the same age who are just non-sleepers or criers. It's NOT because they're not hearing them. By any means.

Karma is going to find you in about 8 months. Good luck lady.

laurakaz13 · December 2011

old_time_girl:
I actually find it insulting that people think that I have an easy baby.

If I would ignore his wants/needs he would be considered a difficult baby, always screaming, never happy, mad, frustrated child.

I take this as him being good at letting me know what he wants. "Mama I'm hungry/wet/don't want to play with this toy/want you to rock me/want you to wear me in the sling/I'm tired/bored/need yo...u to help me fall alseep 'cause I'm too little to do it on my own" I hear all of this before it becomes a screaming "Please help me mama!" Because my baby rarely cries does not mean he's easy, it means I'm listening to him and we are getting along.

It's not a power struggle, it makes me happy to make him happy.

Becoming a mother does put you in a role of servant for a while. I am happy to do this. And I hope, that when he gets older and I start asking him to do stuff for me, "Pick up your toys/set the table/take out the trash/sweep the floor/feed the dogs...ect" That he will do it with a willing servants heart as I have modeled for him.

Will he be perfect? No. I'm not a perfect Mother so I cannot model perfection. What I DON'T want to model is hard, unflexible, scheduled individual that connot be bothered or 'put out' by her child.

My baby still wakes up 2-4 times a night because he needs me. Is it tiring? Yes. But it's a wonderful feeling when my baby wakes up, reaches his arm out and pats me, sighs and snuggles in close to me. He feels safe knowing I am there for him.

I will not leave him alone to cry it out, because it might inconvience me and my sleep. He's only a baby for a short time. I can live through it. And if I feel like I just cant, My husband will.

The way I feel, NOTHING is so important that it needs to sacrifice my child.

All I have to say is that anyone who does not vaccinate their child is a horrible parent. That is all. I don't care if I get flamed. It's true.

damabo80 · December 2011

HappyAardvark:
Here... I brought something to help clean up this mess of a post...

lol!

Can I just say that I was very sad you didn't come to play with us on TTCAL/PGAL? I like your gifs and posts. Smile

And on a side note, to the OP. I have a high needs baby. My friends don't comment on how "easy" she is....rather the opposite. I wear her at least 8 hours of the day, we BF on demand, and she sleeps right next to me. The only time I'm not holding her is when I'm pooping. And even then, I wear her probably half the time while I poop. So, yeah, I'm pretty much doing all the same things you are. It doesn't make DD look like an "easy" baby. Nor, am I under the delusion that she'll be a super compliant kid, begging me to set the table when she's 6 as a "thank you" for doing the AP thing now. That is just funny.

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