Maybe there should be a rule.....

keft514 · December 2011

That there are no BFP announcements at all on this board since some people don't take the time to read the guidelines.

lizmitchell15 · December 2011

That would be a sad measure to have to resort to. This is after all TRYING TO CONCEIVE AFTER A LOSS. While yes, the losses are hard, we are still trying to get that next BFP and it should be celebrated when achieved. Just my thoughts.

keft514 · December 2011

I agree with you, but there are the drive-bys that make days more painful, ya know?

ckoch77 · December 2011

lizmitchell15:
That would be a sad measure to have to resort to. This is after all TRYING TO CONCEIVE AFTER A LOSS. While yes, the losses are hard, we are still trying to get that next BFP and it should be celebrated when achieved. Just my thoughts.

Agree

keft514 · December 2011

ckoch77:
lizmitchell15:
That would be a sad measure to have to resort to. This is after all TRYING TO CONCEIVE AFTER A LOSS. While yes, the losses are hard, we are still trying to get that next BFP and it should be celebrated when achieved. Just my thoughts.
Agree

I'm not trying to be an a$$, but the two people who think this have fewer than 100 posts still. Not that you guys won't be really supportive, etc., but you are still SUPER new.

keft514 · December 2011

MissMheMhe:
keft514:
I agree with you, but there are the drive-bys that make days more painful, ya know?
Those drive-bys will most likely still ignore the blog and post...

You're right, I'm just mad right now. Mad at all the new people who don't even get to know us all before slapping us in the face.

Bizzy98 · December 2011

MissMheMhe:
keft514:
I agree with you, but there are the drive-bys that make days more painful, ya know?
Those drive-bys will most likely still ignore the blog and post...

I agree. I think it's a good thought but you are still going to have people that don't know the rules and/or read the blog and just do drive-by's anyway because they don't know any better or take the time to learn the rules.

ckoch77 · December 2011

keft514:
ckoch77:
lizmitchell15:
That would be a sad measure to have to resort to. This is after all TRYING TO CONCEIVE AFTER A LOSS. While yes, the losses are hard, we are still trying to get that next BFP and it should be celebrated when achieved. Just my thoughts.
Agree
I'm not trying to be an a$$, but the two people who think this have fewer than 100 posts still. Not that you guys won't be really supportive, etc., but you are still SUPER new.

Im sorry that I am still "new". But I do try and offer support, feedback, etc when possible.

CnAnA · December 2011

It absolutely infuriates me that this is even needed. I mean really. Would you walk into a mc support group and on your second visit stand up and say "omfg I'm totally pregnant!!!!!!!!!" No. Same effing principle here. I hate people.

keft514 · December 2011

mrs.ike:
It absolutely infuriates me that this is even needed. I mean really. Would you walk into a mc support group and on your second visit stand up and say "omfg I'm totally pregnant!!!!!!!!!" No. Same effing principle here. I hate people.

Exactly mrs.ike!!!!!!!

lizmitchell15 · December 2011

keft514:
ckoch77:

lizmitchell15:
That would be a sad measure to have to resort to. This is after all TRYING TO CONCEIVE AFTER A LOSS. While yes, the losses are hard, we are still trying to get that next BFP and it should be celebrated when achieved. Just my thoughts.

Agree

I'm not trying to be an a$$, but the two people who think this have fewer than 100 posts still. Not that you guys won't be really supportive, etc., but you are still SUPER new.

What does being "new" have to do with what this board is intentioned for? That made absolutely no sense to me. I'm sorry I don't have more than 100 posts...but I guarantee that my losses and grief are not "new" and I still desire that next BFP as much as anyone else on here and desire to see all the ladies on here achieve theirs as well.

lizmitchell15 · December 2011

mrs.ike:
It absolutely infuriates me that this is even needed. I mean really. Would you walk into a mc support group and on your second visit stand up and say "omfg I'm totally pregnant!!!!!!!!!" No. Same effing principle here. I hate people.

So it's better to keep it to yourself and be scared and excited alone? What am I missing here? I'm truly trying to understand all this.

keft514 · December 2011

lizmitchell15:
keft514:
ckoch77:

lizmitchell15:
That would be a sad measure to have to resort to. This is after all TRYING TO CONCEIVE AFTER A LOSS. While yes, the losses are hard, we are still trying to get that next BFP and it should be celebrated when achieved. Just my thoughts.

Agree

I'm not trying to be an a$$, but the two people who think this have fewer than 100 posts still. Not that you guys won't be really supportive, etc., but you are still SUPER new.

What does being "new" have to do with what this board is intentioned for? That made absolutely no sense to me. I'm sorry I don't have more than 100 posts...but I guarantee that my losses and grief are not "new" and I still desire that next BFP as much as anyone else on here and desire to see all the ladies on here achieve theirs as well.

Let's speak about wastonnichole for a sec. The fact that she had less than 100 posts IS relative because that meant that she has not given support here and become a part of our community. If you don't get this, I will not try to explain it further. If you don't get it, you never will, so I'm done.

ToiKenne · December 2011

lizmitchell15:
keft514:
ckoch77:

lizmitchell15:
That would be a sad measure to have to resort to. This is after all TRYING TO CONCEIVE AFTER A LOSS. While yes, the losses are hard, we are still trying to get that next BFP and it should be celebrated when achieved. Just my thoughts.

Agree

I'm not trying to be an a$$, but the two people who think this have fewer than 100 posts still. Not that you guys won't be really supportive, etc., but you are still SUPER new.

What does being "new" have to do with what this board is intentioned for? That made absolutely no sense to me. I'm sorry I don't have more than 100 posts...but I guarantee that my losses and grief are not "new" and I still desire that next BFP as much as anyone else on here and desire to see all the ladies on here achieve theirs as well.

Perhaps but remember, it goes back to the whole "give support to get support" thing. I feel like we're beginning to chase our tails here ...

benoitfan · December 2011

that would be really sad, IMO. I have been here for 2 months already and it looks like I have to TTA this cycle. Who knows if I will get lucky next time out, but of course I hope to and if/when I do, I want to be able to share that news (sensitively and respectfully) with you ladies that helped me during my time here. I think I am pretty active on the board and hope if/when I do get my BFP that I can share it with you without hurting any of you in the process. If the time comes though and the board has had alot of drive bys, heavy mood, etc, then I will probably refrain and move right on over the PGAL,

ChloBub · December 2011

lizmitchell15:
mrs.ike:
It absolutely infuriates me that this is even needed. I mean really. Would you walk into a mc support group and on your second visit stand up and say "omfg I'm totally pregnant!!!!!!!!!" No. Same effing principle here. I hate people.

So it's better to keep it to yourself and be scared and excited alone? What am I missing here? I'm truly trying to understand all this.

You can be scared and excited on PgAL. No need to be alone. It's been said countless times that the ladies there will welcome you with open arms.

JulesDiane · December 2011

I look forward to seeing the BFP announcements from the ladies on here! It gives me hope! I just don't appreciate the fly bys from people I have never seen around here.
and for whatever it's worth, I recognize ckoch77 and have seen her posting around here.

CnAnA · December 2011

lizmitchell15:
mrs.ike:
It absolutely infuriates me that this is even needed. I mean really. Would you walk into a mc support group and on your second visit stand up and say "omfg I'm totally pregnant!!!!!!!!!" No. Same effing principle here. I hate people.

So it's better to keep it to yourself and be scared and excited alone? What am I missing here? I'm truly trying to understand all this.

no. Its better to take it to pgal where more people are in that situation. Nobody here is pg. Pgal women are pg. Thats your support group once you get your bfp. Not us.

keft514 · December 2011

JulesDiane:
I look forward to seeing the BFP announcements from the ladies on here! It gives me hope! I just don't appreciate the fly bys from people I have never seen around here.
and for whatever it's worth, I recognize ckoch77 and have seen her posting around here.

If she is a regular and I have made a mistake, I do apologize. I just do not recognize her at all.

ChloBub · December 2011

lizmitchell15:
keft514:
ckoch77:

lizmitchell15:
That would be a sad measure to have to resort to. This is after all TRYING TO CONCEIVE AFTER A LOSS. While yes, the losses are hard, we are still trying to get that next BFP and it should be celebrated when achieved. Just my thoughts.

Agree

I'm not trying to be an a$$, but the two people who think this have fewer than 100 posts still. Not that you guys won't be really supportive, etc., but you are still SUPER new.

What does being "new" have to do with what this board is intentioned for? That made absolutely no sense to me. I'm sorry I don't have more than 100 posts...but I guarantee that my losses and grief are not "new" and I still desire that next BFP as much as anyone else on here and desire to see all the ladies on here achieve theirs as well.

There are posts here every day about how difficult it is to see our own sisters and cousins and best friends announcing a pregnancy. It is even more difficult to muster up excitement for someone we barely know. Yes, that might be selfish of us, but it still stings to see any pregnancy announcement, and it's even harder if it's someone we haven't formed a relationship with.

Cherry1111 · December 2011

lizmitchell15:
mrs.ike:
It absolutely infuriates me that this is even needed. I mean really. Would you walk into a mc support group and on your second visit stand up and say "omfg I'm totally pregnant!!!!!!!!!" No. Same effing principle here. I hate people.

So it's better to keep it to yourself and be scared and excited alone? What am I missing here? I'm truly trying to understand all this.

The PGAL board will welcome you with open arms and will try to comfort your fears nd will celebrate with you.

CashewsMommy · December 2011

keft514:
That there are no BFP announcements at all on this board since some people don't take the time to read the guidelines.

Please please please! Let's NOT go back there!!!! NO NO NO NO NO!

Reason #1 - If you've been here for months, people care for you are are rooting for you, I want to know about your BFP!!

Reason #2 - My last BFP came during a time that "there were no BFP posts allowed on the board. I got about 15 different shout outs in 1 day congratulating me. Those 15 posts hurt more than one stinking post.

I don't care if i'm just one stinking person. I will NOT ALLOW this board to go back to that. Sorry.

CashewsMommy · December 2011

lizmitchell15:
mrs.ike:
It absolutely infuriates me that this is even needed. I mean really. Would you walk into a mc support group and on your second visit stand up and say "omfg I'm totally pregnant!!!!!!!!!" No. Same effing principle here. I hate people.

So it's better to keep it to yourself and be scared and excited alone? What am I missing here? I'm truly trying to understand all this.

That's what PGAL is for. They know what it's like to be scared and excited. Some of us on TTCAL don't know what that feels like yet.

CashewsMommy · December 2011

JulesDiane:
I look forward to seeing the BFP announcements from the ladies on here! It gives me hope! I just don't appreciate the fly bys from people I have never seen around here.
and for whatever it's worth, I recognize ckoch77 and have seen her posting around here.

But one or two people recognizing someone =/= giving support and being a regular member of the board.

angelsnight · December 2011

Since I am new, can someone point me to specific guidelines for this board? I clicked on community rules but that seemed to be general rules for TB. I may be absolutely blind, but I cannt find them. Thanks in advance.

cg0112358 · December 2011

lizmitchell15:
mrs.ike:
It absolutely infuriates me that this is even needed. I mean really. Would you walk into a mc support group and on your second visit stand up and say "omfg I'm totally pregnant!!!!!!!!!" No. Same effing principle here. I hate people.

So it's better to keep it to yourself and be scared and excited alone? What am I missing here? I'm truly trying to understand all this.

umm, there is a board called PgAL where there are people who would be more than willing to except and support those people with open arms.

SoCoGirl · December 2011

mrs.ike:
It absolutely infuriates me that this is even needed. I mean really. Would you walk into a mc support group and on your second visit stand up and say "omfg I'm totally pregnant!!!!!!!!!" No. Same effing principle here. I hate people.

This...and I also don't like people!

CashewsMommy · December 2011

angelsnight:
Since I am new, can someone point me to specific guidelines for this board? I clicked on community rules but that seemed to be general rules for TB. I may be absolutely blind, but I cannt find them. Thanks in advance.

Check out the blog. The link is in my siggy.

Bizzy98 · December 2011

angelsnight:
Since I am new, can someone point me to specific guidelines for this board? I clicked on community rules but that seemed to be general rules for TB. I may be absolutely blind, but I cannt find them. Thanks in advance.

The link is in Cashews Siggy just above your post.

LaTi07 · December 2011

Am I the only one who is on the verge of saying "peace out" and GTFO of here?

ckoch77 · December 2011

Im sorry that I havent been here as long as other have. Like I said before, I do try and give support, advice when possible. I may not post everyday but I do not have time to post every day. It doesnt mean I dont grieve or want to offer support like others....

LaTi07 · December 2011

ckoch77:
Im sorry that I havent been here as long as other have. Like I said before, I do try and give support, advice when possible. I may not post everyday but I do not have time to post every day. It doesnt mean I dont grieve or want to offer support like others....

Call me a b!tch, whatever, but if you don't have time to support others, I don't have time to support you. If you are so busy that you can only get on here when YOU have a problem, then you are just as selfish as the AW who started this bull$hit this morning.

CashewsMommy · December 2011

ckoch77:
Im sorry that I havent been here as long as other have. Like I said before, I do try and give support, advice when possible. I may not post everyday but I do not have time to post every day. It doesnt mean I dont grieve or want to offer support like others....

I don't have time to post all of the time either. I haven't been on as much a lot lately..... but... NOBODY SAID you don't have the right to grieve or give support. However, there's a point of losing common sense about things.

Coming on here and giving us all a spanking with your 101 posts about how we should behave??? Seriously????

BarooGirl · December 2011

CashewsMommy:

keft514:
That there are no BFP announcements at all on this board since some people don't take the time to read the guidelines.

Please please please! Let's NOT go back there!!!! NO NO NO NO NO!

Reason #1 - If you've been here for months, people care for you are are rooting for you, I want to know about your BFP!!

Reason #2 - My last BFP came during a time that "there were no BFP posts allowed on the board. I got about 15 different shout outs in 1 day congratulating me. Those 15 posts hurt more than one stinking post.

I don't care if i'm just one stinking person. I will NOT ALLOW this board to go back to that. Sorry.

True!

There are people on here that I cant wait to see their BFPs. I would be hurt if they moved on and didnt post it.

However, I really only want to see the one of the people who are actually a part of TTCAL. Not the drive bys, not the phishers, not the "I think I am so I better be supportive this week"s, not the "googlers". Just the people who are actually a part of this community. I would hate to exclude some of the "newbies" I can think of a good handful of them that are so supportive and part of this group too.

CashewsMommy · December 2011

LaTi07:
Am I the only one who is on the verge of saying "peace out" and GTFO of here?

Naw. This comes and goes. In a week things will be back to "normal". I kind of like it when these days come around. It gets my frustration about other things out and I feel better.

mbpandjf · December 2011

ChloBub:
lizmitchell15:

mrs.ike:
It absolutely infuriates me that this is even needed. I mean really. Would you walk into a mc support group and on your second visit stand up and say "omfg I'm totally pregnant!!!!!!!!!" No. Same effing principle here. I hate people.

So it's better to keep it to yourself and be scared and excited alone? What am I missing here? I'm truly trying to understand all this.

You can be scared and excited on PgAL. No need to be alone. It's been said countless times that the ladies there will welcome you with open arms.

this exactly.

If you're really trying to understand then here's my 2 cents.... This board is for those who are TRYING to conceive. Honestly, when I have days where I feel like it's not gonna happen for me, I lurk over on PgAL. Seeing women pregnant - especially those further along in their pregnancy IS sometimes helpful. However, when I come to this board because I'm having a crappy day, I don't want to see some random person saying "yo - I'm KTFU - in your face!" thus- the PgAL board is around. We can go there and get support and celebration when we DO get our BFPs, you know?

When the women who are on here ALL the time and have been for awhile get their BFPs, I'll be excited for them... (at least a part of me will be- the rest of me will still be jealous if I'm honest). this is why those who AREN'T an active part of the community shouldn't say anything...on THIS board... because ALL we'll feel is pain when we see that. they haven't been around long enough to become "part of the family".

I really hope that helps. And I didn't read all the other responses so I hope I didn't steal anyone's thunder.

LaTi07 · December 2011

CashewsMommy:

LaTi07:
Am I the only one who is on the verge of saying "peace out" and GTFO of here?

Naw. This comes and goes. In a week things will be back to "normal". I kind of like it when these days come around. It gets my frustration about other things out and I feel better.

Hmm, good point. I think I'm just wound up today due to my own thing.

CashewsMommy · December 2011

BarooGirl:
CashewsMommy:

keft514:
That there are no BFP announcements at all on this board since some people don't take the time to read the guidelines.

Please please please! Let's NOT go back there!!!! NO NO NO NO NO!

Reason #1 - If you've been here for months, people care for you are are rooting for you, I want to know about your BFP!!

Reason #2 - My last BFP came during a time that "there were no BFP posts allowed on the board. I got about 15 different shout outs in 1 day congratulating me. Those 15 posts hurt more than one stinking post.

I don't care if i'm just one stinking person. I will NOT ALLOW this board to go back to that. Sorry.

True!

There are people on here that I cant wait to see their BFPs. I would be hurt if they moved on and didnt post it.

However, I really only want to see the one of the people who are actually a part of TTCAL. Not the drive bys, not the phishers, not the "I think I am so I better be supportive this week"s, not the "googlers". Just the people who are actually a part of this community. I would hate to exclude some of the "newbies" I can think of a good handful of them that are so supportive and part of this group too.

This!!!

I hate it when people are extra supportive for a week or two, even a month, and think it's been "long enough" and okay enough to post a BFP.

And to answer the question on "am I regular enough to post?" If you have to ask... you're not.

ShellBear+ · December 2011

No that is dumb. I personally love to see a bfp on this board because it is to be celebrated. I understand that people hate drive-bys but really I couldn't care less. I realize that thousands of people get pg everyday so it doesn't bother me and I just ignore it. Yes its annoying but hurtful, no.

angelsnight · December 2011

CashewsMommy:

angelsnight:
Since I am new, can someone point me to specific guidelines for this board? I clicked on community rules but that seemed to be general rules for TB. I may be absolutely blind, but I cannt find them. Thanks in advance.

Check out the blog. The link is in my siggy.

Thank you!

alaskabride2be · December 2011

This makes me sad. I understand that there are ladies that have been on this board for a long time, and to see people pop on here post a couple of times and then announce a BFP can be hard. But it is also possible to just not open the post.

I have been posting on here since my MC in early November and have no idea if people remember who I am around here. I am not able to post everyday, so therefore sometimes feel like I would be treated badly if I was to get a BFP soon. How many posts does one person need to be "allowed" to share her good news that she has gotten the one thing that she most desires and that is another chance at a take home baby?

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