? For Those Who've Been Here A While...

LaTi07 · December 2011

Like 5/6 months +.

Do you find yourself posting less and less each month. I'm not sure if I'm in a funk or if I'm just tired of answering the same question over and over, but I find myself posting less as each cycle passes. Curious if anyone else did as well.

KGS2003 · December 2011

Yes, I do. Some days I don't post at all. I'm a night poster so by the time I get around to posting people have said it ten different ways already and I try to only post of if feel like I have something to offer.

I also avoid all of the obvious I haven't read the blog questions.

poohbear033 · December 2011

My posting seems to come in bursts. Sometimes I am having a hard time and need a lot of support, sometimes I just have nothing to say and don't post, and other times I am just too busy to keep up with all of the posts. At times I feel like I only know a few people here, those who I was "close" with on here are on pgal. I just am not on as much as I used to be and wish I could give more support so I can get to know some of you wonderful ladies better.

BarooGirl · December 2011

I admit, I skim a lot and avoid most of the "I havent read the blog yet" posts. I am also admitting that I dont make a huge effort to get to know the new people, most of them will move on quickly (and I am happy for them).

I think I go in spurts when I post, but I love being able to offer some encouragement to my friends over here. Not that I dont with people I dont know, I try too. It is just that I want the girls that I have grown to know and love over the year here know I am thinking about them.

I try and keep posting, because I cant very well say "The board is so slow and no one is posting" if I am not either.

lavril · December 2011

Yes, I feel like I posted a lot for awhile and then as everyone you "know" graduates and new people come flooding in, you sort of get lost on your own board if that makes sense. This week I've been posting more since I'm not at work.

VikingQueen · December 2011

Yeah I have had months were I posted less and then came back and repeated the cycle..

Carolee · December 2011

*Coming out of lurkdom to respond to this*

YES! That's a big part of the reason why I stopped posting over here. I felt like I'd been here forever and everyone I knew had moved on and I was stuck. I keep debating about doing a reintro over here, but I am not sure my feelings will change.

vanessa lynne · December 2011

Yes.. Sometimes I miss a couple days and come on and there are so many new girls it's overwhelming..really sad actually. My posts come in spurts nowadays. Sometimes I just can't find the strength to post and some days I can. I definitely don't have the patience for every post...I think you know what I mean. Confused

mork · December 2011

Yup, I definitely post less as time goes on, but I do have spurts of multiple posts. And, I often talk with the late night ladies.

Like Baroo, I also have to admit that I don't make a huge effort with the newbies because I know most of them will move on quickly (and I am happy for them as well). I guess I just post when I "know" someone, something in the post is interesting to me or strikes a cord, or if I'm having a post happy day. I definitely try to stay away from the repeat question posts, because I know my snarky bitter b!tch will show. Although sometimes I can't help myself anyway.

angielayne926 · December 2011

Like PP's have said it kind of goes it spurts. I've been feeling lately like I'm not really sure where I belong. I feel like I "know" more of the girls on TTCAL 6+, but not really sure if I belong over there yet. If I'm feeling good, I'll post. I've been MIA lately just because it's been super busy with the holidays. I kind of flip flop between here and TTGP a lot.

LaTi07 · December 2011

lavril:
Yes, I feel like I posted a lot for awhile and then as everyone you "know" graduates and new people come flooding in, you sort of get lost on your own board if that makes sense. This week I've been posting more since I'm not at work.

This is pretty much exactly how I feel. I feel like I'm in this limbo stage. I want to be supportive to all the new comers, but on the flip side I know most of them will move on before me so I ask myself what is the point?

Thanks ladies for the feedback. It's nice to know I'm not alone.

csquared426 · December 2011

Absolutely. I've been here over 2 years, and I there are posts that I don't event read any more - in the beginning I read everything.

IEtoLA · December 2011

I also feel the same way. I've been trying to post, which happens in spurts. En I take a break and just lurk.

millejj1 · December 2011

mork:
Yup, I definitely post less as time goes on, but I do have spurts of multiple posts. And, I often talk with the late night ladies.
Like Baroo, I also have to admit that I don't make a huge effort with the newbies because I know most of them will move on quickly (and I am happy for them as well). I guess I just post when I "know" someone, something in the post is interesting to me or strikes a cord, or if I'm having a post happy day. I definitely try to stay away from the repeat question posts, because I know my snarky bitter b!tch will show. Although sometimes I can't help myself anyway.

What she said. It comes in waves. I try to be fairly consistent to show support, but sometimes I'm busy, not feeling it, feeling left behind, or just not able to handle the rampant stupid that rolls through sometimes.

amandachs · December 2011

I did find myself posting less for a while there, mainly the month or two before my EDD. I don't start many threads at all, mainly pages out for others. I find that it keeps my own spirits up if I help encourage others so I do a great many replies. I lurk a lot of places, but primarily Pgal and TTCAL6+, and often throw in the Loss board for good measure. I do feel like I get lost in the sea of newer girls, but I am forever thankful for the rest of you on this thread. I feel like I "know" all of you, and it really makes a world of difference in not feeling so alone.

amandachs · December 2011

KGS2003:

Yes, I do. Some days I don't post at all. I'm a night poster so by the time I get around to posting people have said it ten different ways already and I try to only post of if feel like I have something to offer.

I also avoid all of the obvious I haven't read the blog questions.

I totally do this. It aggravates me to be their personal google, and by the time I get to them another newer girl has normally answered their questions.

mikeANDjen448 · December 2011

I know I haven't been around as long as others, but I completely feel out of sync with the board right now. I get tired of all the new questions. When I was a newbie I took all of yore wonderful advice, bought and read TCOYF, did FF, studied the blog, etc. and I feel so empowered. Now that I've gone through that, I get frustrated with some questions I feel are so obvious and unfortunately don't have a ton of patience to answer and re-answer things

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butterfly843 · December 2011

For me it varies, I went for a few months mostly just posting on ttcal 6+ and not really posting here. It does get frustrating some days seeing the same questions. I also think if the bump made it easier to search it might stop some of the questions.

Cissi64 · December 2011

millejj1:
mork:

Yup, I definitely post less as time goes on, but I do have spurts of multiple posts. And, I often talk with the late night ladies.

Like Baroo, I also have to admit that I don't make a huge effort with the newbies because I know most of them will move on quickly (and I am happy for them as well). I guess I just post when I "know" someone, something in the post is interesting to me or strikes a cord, or if I'm having a post happy day. I definitely try to stay away from the repeat question posts, because I know my snarky bitter b!tch will show. Although sometimes I can't help myself anyway.

What she said. It comes in waves. I try to be fairly consistent to show support, but sometimes I'm busy, not feeling it, feeling left behind, or just not able to handle the rampant stupid that rolls through sometimes.

I think I've been here longer than everyone except Wicked. After a while, you've heard it all and seen most everybody move on. Most days I don't have it in me to be all "P&R" and I try not to unleash the bitter too often.

LaTi07 · December 2011

wickedsugar:
I lurk a lot more than I post now, I have no desire or energy to answer most things these days esp. if in can be found in TCOYF, FF or the blog, I'm tired of being peoples private Google and not getting anything back from them KWIM ? And I'm really bitter & snarky...

Yes! Then there are a couple posters who are active on other boards, but come over here when they have a question. I'm not saying that you can only post on this board, but FFS at least give a little. I find myself just ignoring certain posters threads because there is no way I could answer the question and not be super b!tchy about it.

LaTi07 · December 2011

stlucia_wife:
I feel bad when I don't say anything to the new girls cause I was once one and everyone was so open and loving.

I hear you, but on the other hand a lot of us took our time getting into the swing of things over here. I lurked a lot before I started posting. I had already read TCOYF and had my FF subscription. Nothing annoys me more than someone who just started posting on here freaking out about the 2ww they think they are in because their body is always 28 days. :headdesk:

csuperstar02 · December 2011

stlucia_wife:
I thought it was just me and being pissy about life. Then when you posted this I started to count and New Years day marks 5 months. I've been finding myself only opening threads to people I know. I feel bad when I don't say anything to the new girls cause I was once one and everyone was so open and loving.

What most have said, but especially the last sentence here. I try to pop in, but I just can't get it up for some of these new chicks. And that makes me feel bad; not bad enough to suffer through too much of the whining, but bad all the same.

Manderlin923 · December 2011

(siggy)

Yep, that's me. I wish I could be around to offer more support but we are not even ttc right now so it's almost difficult for me to be around much. I still lurk though and post when I can, and of course wish everyone the best. I just am kind of sad, obviously.

Manderlin923 · December 2011

(siggy)

You know what I just realized? lol...I recognize the vast majority of posters in this thread and just "seeing" someone I recognize makes me feel not so alone. There are tons of wonderful new ladies, without a doubt. But it sure feels comforting to see a familiar siggy.

LaTi07 · December 2011

Manderlin923:
(siggy)

You know what I just realized? lol...I recognize the vast majority of posters in this thread and just "seeing" someone I recognize makes me feel not so alone. There are tons of wonderful new ladies, without a doubt. But it sure feels comforting to see a familiar siggy.

I hear you! I always feel a little better when I see a siggy I know.

amandachs · December 2011

LaTi07:
Manderlin923:

(siggy)

You know what I just realized? lol...I recognize the vast majority of posters in this thread and just "seeing" someone I recognize makes me feel not so alone. There are tons of wonderful new ladies, without a doubt. But it sure feels comforting to see a familiar siggy.

I hear you! I always feel a little better when I see a siggy I know.

Completely this. I felt so good to see all of the ladies in this thread, even if they just lurk most of the time. I have missed you all, and it seems very "homey" to see you all post in this thread.

ufsandra85 · December 2011

Yep. I used to post all day every day. Now it is depressing because most people I knew are gone. I mean I'm happy for them but after 4 losses out just isn't the same for me

BarooGirl · December 2011

amandachs:
LaTi07:
Manderlin923:

(siggy)

You know what I just realized? lol...I recognize the vast majority of posters in this thread and just "seeing" someone I recognize makes me feel not so alone. There are tons of wonderful new ladies, without a doubt. But it sure feels comforting to see a familiar siggy.

I hear you! I always feel a little better when I see a siggy I know.

Completely this. I felt so good to see all of the ladies in this thread, even if they just lurk most of the time. I have missed you all, and it seems very "homey" to see you all post in this thread.

Yes, all of this.

This post has warmed my heart seeing all you girls. --However, it kinda brings me down that we are all still here. But I will stay positive.

Ladies, I love you and your recognizable siggys

Not to say there are some newish people I love to death too.--cause there are!

psychmajormom · December 2011

lavril:
Yes, I feel like I posted a lot for awhile and then as everyone you "know" graduates and new people come flooding in, you sort of get lost on your own board if that makes sense. This week I've been posting more since I'm not at work.

This!! ((((hugs)))) lavril, I was new once (wish2bemommy) and now I would like to think after almost a year, I'm a "recognizable" face now, newbs sometimes overwhelms me too

ktsnshn · December 2011

I post almost daily, but I definitely skim the posts and am pretty selective about who I respond to. I agree with all the PP's, it is nice to see a thread with recognizable siggys although I am sad that we are still here.

poohbear033 · December 2011

who_dat_grl:
lavril:
Yes, I feel like I posted a lot for awhile and then as everyone you "know" graduates and new people come flooding in, you sort of get lost on your own board if that makes sense. This week I've been posting more since I'm not at work.
This!! ((((hugs)))) lavril, I was new once (wish2bemommy) and now I would like to think after almost a year, I'm a "recognizable" face now, newbs sometimes overwhelms me too

This. I feel like this is the only place I belong. We have not been actively TTC for 6 months at a time, but I have been here for about 10 months, I don't feel I belong on 6+. It is so sad to see all of the new faces almost everyday. It makes me more sad that they come and go so quickly.

Smootiepie · December 2011

After reading through this post, I realized I'm a little more than 5 months out...ouch...

I'm really only on here when my job is slow (i.e. right now) because it helps pass the time. I would much rather respond to a "am I preggers?" post (as much as it may hurt) then stare at the walls. But yeah, I have noticed lately trying not to get too "attached" to some of the awesome newbs because I know in a heartbeat they'll be gone.

cmumama · December 2011

MrsErinH:
Manderlin923:
(siggy)

You know what I just realized? lol...I recognize the vast majority of posters in this thread and just "seeing" someone I recognize makes me feel not so alone. There are tons of wonderful new ladies, without a doubt. But it sure feels comforting to see a familiar siggy.
I totally agree. I'm sure that's why 6+ was formed, it can be hard for us to keep seeing new faces and realizing that time keeps marching on. For me, every new month loss badge reminds me of how long ago mine was and the fact that I'm still here and not on PGAL

This. I was at work last night and am just catching up. I skim posts just about every day, but I rarely start a thread...just provide hugs here and there. I just get depressed watching so many newbs graduate before me. And like everyone else has said, it's not that I'm not happy for them or feel they don't deserve it, I just want it to be my turn.

CashewsMommy · December 2011

I still check the board daily, but I skim over a lot of the posts. I often feel bad about not giving support to those who deserve it, but it's just too much for me sometimes. I really have a big case of the "I don't wannas" when I read some of the posts.

hungryhippo · December 2011

MrsErinH:
I am selective about which posts I read and respond to, although I guess I do enjoy responding a lot...I post a good deal too because I feel I still need the board a lot, even though it's been a while since my loss. I guess I just like being around others who understand what it's like. I used to go on FB a lot but now I prefer TB. Although I admit all the questions get old sometimes. I try to be supportive to the new girls. Ecause I really appreciate everyone who gave me support too (and who still do).

This is me too. I've been around for 6 months now and I still really need this board, so I post as much as ever on my good days and step back on my bad days. I certainly don't read every post like I used to. I also post/lurk more and more on PGAL because I miss the ladies who have moved on. It really comes in waves for me. ((hugs)) to everyone on this thread.

BarooGirl · December 2011

LaTi07:

wickedsugar:
I lurk a lot more than I post now, I have no desire or energy to answer most things these days esp. if in can be found in TCOYF, FF or the blog, I'm tired of being peoples private Google and not getting anything back from them KWIM ? And I'm really bitter & snarky...

Yes! Then there are a couple posters who are active on other boards, but come over here when they have a question. I'm not saying that you can only post on this board, but FFS at least give a little. I find myself just ignoring certain posters threads because there is no way I could answer the question and not be super b!tchy about it.

Yup. It would be nice if some people would get involved in other threads besides their own.

This is a good place, be active and not just come and ask questions and run off.

AngnShaun · December 2011

Yes... the constant errors dont help either.

amyrdz522 · December 2011

I have found myself posting less and less and sometimes lurking for the most part. I still do the weekly newbie check in although I am far from a newbie anymore.

yuengling58 · December 2011

I used to be very active here but now I'm mainly on 6+. I can't bring myself to get to know the new girls when they leave to pgal so quickly. I mean, good for them but I only have so much "yay for a stranger's bfp" ya know?

It's just hard when the people who welcomed me on mc/pl and ttcal are giving birth this month to their take home babies (FX). I'm so happy for them but then it just reminds me of my empty ute and I get upset. I'm pretty bitter lately and don't want to push that on other people.

LaTi07 · December 2011

yuengling58:
I used to be very active here but now I'm mainly on 6+. I

Yeah, I'm kind of in an awkward phase right now. I've been here for 9 months +, but we were on a hold for 7 of them so I really haven't been TTCAL 6+. When I hit that mark though I'm moving over.

Don't get me wrong, there are some ladies who join and who are awesome. They don't act like a typical "newb" and I have zero problems giving them support, but quite a few of "newbs" just drive me BSC.

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