TTC 7 mths. Frustrated!

cherimartin86 · December 2011

Hi,

My name is Cheri and I have been married for 6 years now. We decided to TTC in June after me being on birth control for 10 years. I have been doing the OPK and checking the position of my cervix and checking cervical fluid. After all of that every month, still no pregnancy. I am getting really discouraged and when AF does come, I just cry for a day and am pretty sad for a few more days. Everyone I talk to says, "It will happen when it is going to happen...be patient." I am so tired of hearing that. I have waited a long time to even be able to TTC because I wanted to finish college, have a good job, and buy a house first. Well, I have done all of that and now I am still waiting after 7 months. It becomes extremely hard to be happy for other people who are pregnant when I am so sad. My sister-in-law is pregnant with her second and I am doing her baby shower next Saturday...torture! I am excited for her and it is not her fault or anyone else's, but I can't help to be jealous. Well, anyway, I know I am not the only one going through this, but just wanted to share and get it off my chest. I go to see my doctor January 17. Thanks for listening .

cherimartin86 · December 2011

I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

ricecakes1216 · December 2011

LindsRockies:
Welcome.

TTC is a gut-wrenching process sometimes. I hope it happens for you soon, but please try to remember you're still well within the 1 year mark.

Is there a reason you're going to see the doc now? It can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive.

I am wondering this too.

Welcome to the board. If you don't chart, we recommend you start. Fertilityfriend.com is what most of us use. You'll learn a lot on here. Just keep an open mind and be willing to listen to everyone's opinion.

GL and I hope your stay is short!

KdgTeacher · December 2011

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

[Deleted User] · December 2011

KdgTeacher:
cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

ncbouchard · December 2011

auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:
cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.
This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.
I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

Well said

KdgTeacher · December 2011

MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

That's one bad choice of words after another.

larhun3 · December 2011

auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:
cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.
This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.
I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

This! Also I just ordered opk and pregnancy tests off amazon and will start checking for positive ovulation. Have you tried this? I have heard that this also helps TTC. Try to stay positive but believe me I have days when I too am frustrated (I'm a control freak and we can't control getting KTFU!) but I try to remember that the best things in life are the things we have to work for and the things that don't always come easy! Smile GL with your Dr appt!

PenelopePond · December 2011

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

I'm not sure a "pre-conception" check up are necessary. You sound like you have a good idea of what to do. Like previous posters said, look in to Fertility Friend and have patience. I know it sucks, but it's part of the process.

[Deleted User] · December 2011

auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:
cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.
This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.
I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

I wasn't trying to do that, and I apologized if it came off that way. What I was trying to say, is you have a lot to be thankful for. Maybe I should have left it at that. OP, I apologize for being harsh.

RumbleLina · December 2011

auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:
cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.
This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.
I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.

Yes Yes

OP, You can have your down days but remember to keep moving forward as it can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive. As others have suggested, sign up for Fertility Friend and stick around here. The ladies around here have some great information.

CMSullivan326 · December 2011

auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

I agree with ALL of the bolded part and couldn't have said it better myself.

OP, I know it's aggravating having to wait, but for some woman, that's just how it goes. Going to see your Dr. at this point may be a little much. I know you just want reassurance, but some doctors (not all) don't even consider looking into "issues" unless you've been trying for at least a year. Just relax, breathe and try not to stress. There are women on here that have been trying for YEARS and there's nothing wrong with them at all. Imagine how frustrated they must be?!?!....Hopefully you get your BFP in the next 5 months so you won't even need to talk to you doctor.

[Deleted User] · December 2011

CMSullivan326:
auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

I agree with ALL of the bolded part and couldn't have said it better myself. I lost twins, doesn't mean that I'm going to try and make someone feel like they can't express their frustration with TTC...

OP, I know it's aggravating having to wait, but for some woman, that's just how it goes. Going to see your Dr. at this point may be a little much. I know you just want reassurance, but some doctors (not all) don't even consider looking into "issues" unless you've been trying for at least a year. Just relax, breathe and try not to stress. There on women on here that have been trying for YEARS and there's nothing wrong with them at all. Imagine how frustrated they must be?!?!....Hopefully you get your BFP in the next 5 months so you won't even need to talk to you doctor.

I apologized, no need to keep attacking, ladies. OP, I wish you the best and I was NOT trying to make you feel like you couldn't express yourself. I understand where you are coming from, I just think you are jumping the gun a bit on going to the doctor's. Again, I apologize for coming off harsh. I wasn't trying to start any drama.

KdgTeacher · December 2011

CMSullivan326:
auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

I agree with ALL of the bolded part and couldn't have said it better myself.

OP, I know it's aggravating having to wait, but for some woman, that's just how it goes. Going to see your Dr. at this point may be a little much. I know you just want reassurance, but some doctors (not all) don't even consider looking into "issues" unless you've been trying for at least a year. Just relax, breathe and try not to stress. There are women on here that have been trying for YEARS and there's nothing wrong with them at all. Imagine how frustrated they must be?!?!....Hopefully you get your BFP in the next 5 months so you won't even need to talk to you doctor.

There is something wrong with us. It is called infertility and frustrating doesn't even begin to describe it.

MrsP1511 · December 2011

auroraloo:
I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

Yes

OP, We have just recently started TTC a few months ago. We all know TTC and the 2WW can be a very frusterating time. As frusterating as this advice is: try to just stay positive. I hope this is your month for a BFP GL!!

Just be careful with the way stuff comes across on here, there are a lot of ladies on here who have been TTC a lot longer than us and when they see you're frusterated after 7 months, I think it offends some of them. Although I think everyone on here should understand and be sympathetic to where you are in your TTC journey, we still have to be sensitive to where they are. If you ever want to talk you can always PM me. GL

CMSullivan326 · December 2011

MrsNorry:
CMSullivan326:
auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

I agree with ALL of the bolded part and couldn't have said it better myself. I lost twins, doesn't mean that I'm going to try and make someone feel like they can't express their frustration with TTC...

OP, I know it's aggravating having to wait, but for some woman, that's just how it goes. Going to see your Dr. at this point may be a little much. I know you just want reassurance, but some doctors (not all) don't even consider looking into "issues" unless you've been trying for at least a year. Just relax, breathe and try not to stress. There on women on here that have been trying for YEARS and there's nothing wrong with them at all. Imagine how frustrated they must be?!?!....Hopefully you get your BFP in the next 5 months so you won't even need to talk to you doctor.

I apologized, no need to keep attacking, ladies. OP, I wish you the best and I was NOT trying to make you feel like you couldn't express yourself. I understand where you are coming from, I just think you are jumping the gun a bit on going to the doctor's. Again, I apologize for coming off harsh. I wasn't trying to start any drama.

I wasn't attacking, I was simply agreeing with what she said to you....and I think I was responding at the exact same time as you were with your apology but I wasn't finished and didn't post until after you did. :-)

[Deleted User] · December 2011

CMSullivan326:
MrsNorry:
CMSullivan326:
auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

I agree with ALL of the bolded part and couldn't have said it better myself. I lost twins, doesn't mean that I'm going to try and make someone feel like they can't express their frustration with TTC...

OP, I know it's aggravating having to wait, but for some woman, that's just how it goes. Going to see your Dr. at this point may be a little much. I know you just want reassurance, but some doctors (not all) don't even consider looking into "issues" unless you've been trying for at least a year. Just relax, breathe and try not to stress. There on women on here that have been trying for YEARS and there's nothing wrong with them at all. Imagine how frustrated they must be?!?!....Hopefully you get your BFP in the next 5 months so you won't even need to talk to you doctor.

I apologized, no need to keep attacking, ladies. OP, I wish you the best and I was NOT trying to make you feel like you couldn't express yourself. I understand where you are coming from, I just think you are jumping the gun a bit on going to the doctor's. Again, I apologize for coming off harsh. I wasn't trying to start any drama.

I wasn't attacking, I was simply agreeing with what she said to you....and I think I was responding at the exact same time as you were with your apology but I wasn't finished and didn't post until after you did. :-)

I thought of that, after I posted. Sorry for the misunderstanding!

RumbleLina · December 2011

KdgTeacher:
CMSullivan326:
auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

I agree with ALL of the bolded part and couldn't have said it better myself.

OP, I know it's aggravating having to wait, but for some woman, that's just how it goes. Going to see your Dr. at this point may be a little much. I know you just want reassurance, but some doctors (not all) don't even consider looking into "issues" unless you've been trying for at least a year. Just relax, breathe and try not to stress. There are women on here that have been trying for YEARS and there's nothing wrong with them at all. Imagine how frustrated they must be?!?!....Hopefully you get your BFP in the next 5 months so you won't even need to talk to you doctor.

There is something wrong with us. It is called infertility and frustrating doesn't even begin to describe it.

I took that as she meant nothing wrong with them as unexplained infertility meaning their isn't anything medically found wrong.

CMSullivan326 · December 2011

KdgTeacher:
CMSullivan326:
auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

I agree with ALL of the bolded part and couldn't have said it better myself.

OP, I know it's aggravating having to wait, but for some woman, that's just how it goes. Going to see your Dr. at this point may be a little much. I know you just want reassurance, but some doctors (not all) don't even consider looking into "issues" unless you've been trying for at least a year. Just relax, breathe and try not to stress. There are women on here that have been trying for YEARS and there's nothing wrong with them at all. Imagine how frustrated they must be?!?!....Hopefully you get your BFP in the next 5 months so you won't even need to talk to you doctor.

There is something wrong with us. It is called infertility and frustrating doesn't even begin to describe it.

Actually, my best friend tried for a little over 2 1/2 years with no luck. She thought something may have been wrong so she talked to her doctor. After digging into her & her husband's medical history and running the tests needed on them both, everything came back perfectly fine and normal. She had been on BC for about 10 years and it threw her cycle off track (not too bad though, just gave her 40ish day cycles with short periods)...she didn't chart, didn't temp, didn't use OPK's, didn't check CM, nothing..she just went with the flow and her doctor honestly told her they just had "really bad timing"...Her doctor suggested she chart and do everything I named above and she got pregnant her 2nd cycle after she started charting....

CMSullivan326 · December 2011

RumbleLina:
KdgTeacher:
CMSullivan326:
auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:

cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.

This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

I agree with ALL of the bolded part and couldn't have said it better myself.

OP, I know it's aggravating having to wait, but for some woman, that's just how it goes. Going to see your Dr. at this point may be a little much. I know you just want reassurance, but some doctors (not all) don't even consider looking into "issues" unless you've been trying for at least a year. Just relax, breathe and try not to stress. There are women on here that have been trying for YEARS and there's nothing wrong with them at all. Imagine how frustrated they must be?!?!....Hopefully you get your BFP in the next 5 months so you won't even need to talk to you doctor.

There is something wrong with us. It is called infertility and frustrating doesn't even begin to describe it.

I took that as she meant nothing wrong with them as unexplained infertility meaning their isn't anything medically found wrong.

This is exactly what I meant....

cherimartin86 · December 2011

Thank you to those of you who are understanding and supportive. I do understand being bitter, but they don't have to take it out on others. Anyway, I do the OPKs every month and every month I get a positive for 2 days, but still no luck. I iwill keep you guys posted on my Dr Appt. My doctor actually recommended me come see him after 6 months of trying because he didn't expect it to take me this long either. It becomes extremely hard when my sister-in-law is pregnant with her second, my three younger sisters just had babies, one had an abortion, and one of my close friends just found out she is pregnant as well. Thanks again, I will try to stay positive. Smile

Shayliz · December 2011

cherimartin86:
Thank you to those of you who are understanding and supportive. I do understand being bitter, but they don't have to take it out on others. Anyway, I do the OPKs every month and every month I get a positive for 2 days, but still no luck. I iwill keep you guys posted on my Dr Appt. My doctor actually recommended me come see him after 6 months of trying because he didn't expect it to take me this long either. It becomes extremely hard when my sister-in-law is pregnant with her second, my three younger sisters just had babies, one had an abortion, and one of my close friends just found out she is pregnant as well. Thanks again, I will try to stay positive.

Bitter? lol. are you over 35? otherwise, your doctor is stupid.

jeng507 · December 2011

auroraloo:
MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:
cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.
This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.
I'm very sorry for your losses. Truly. I've had a loss and I know how it cuts. But you DO NOT get to throw your hardships out at someone and imply their feelings aren't as valid because they haven't experienced the same things as you.
OP, it can take a normal couple up to a year to conceive, but it does get frustrating. Stick around, lurk, and you'll learn a lot.

THIS!! EXACTLY!!

sweetpea2003 · December 2011

OP,

I agree with the advice to not go digging for trouble before you have to. I was given that advice years ago when after my first loss I wasn't getting pregnant. It had been something like 7 months (a year total when you count the TTC, pregnancy, and m/c) and I was really sad and frustrated and wanted answers.

I ended up waiting until a year after my loss to get tested, and I am thankful I did. Testing SUCKS. It makes you overanalyze everything. You end up getting poked and prodded, get intimate with the vag cam, and are just basically a naked specimin week after week. I ended up needing several ultrasounds, 2 HSGs, an SHG, and a zillion other things only to be told it was "a lot of little things making it hard". Nothing concrete except for a higher than average FSH score that sent the REs into a frenzy about doing IVF before it was too late (and I was 26 at the time)...

My point: You aren't outside of the average range for TTC yet. There is NO REASON to put yourself and your husband through the stress and physical hardships of IF testing. It SUCKS. Why people wnat to jump into it early for "reassurance" is beyond my comprehension.

Just try to enjoy TTC while you still have a 90% chance of being normal and healthy. BFNs suck. The 2ww is hard. But laying on a cold table while they shoot dye into your fallopian tubes is a lot harder and more painful. JUST WAIT.

Impatience =/= infertility.

magdalina.h · December 2011

MrsNorry:
KdgTeacher:
cherimartin86:
I know it could take up to a year, but I want the reassurance that there is nothing wrong. I have had heavy, painful periods all of my life and was on bc for 10 years before ttc, so just want to make sure everything is working properly. When I decided to ttc, I went to the doctor, but it was just a consult, I didn't get a pre-conception check up.

Enjoy 5 more months of TTC. Don't go looking for trouble. Patience.
This. You have a lot to be thankful for. You haven't had any losses. Talk to me after you've lost three babies. Then you may start to think there's a problem. 7 months isn't that long.

Really?!?

KdgTeacher · December 2011

GhostMonkey:
CMSullivan326:
KdgTeacher:
There is something wrong with us. It is called infertility and frustrating doesn't even begin to describe it.

Actually, my best friend tried for a little over 2 1/2 years with no luck. She thought something may have been wrong so she talked to her doctor. After digging into her & her husband's medical history and running the tests needed on them both, everything came back perfectly fine and normal. She had been on BC for about 10 years and it threw her cycle off track (not too bad though, just gave her 40ish day cycles with short periods)...she didn't chart, didn't temp, didn't use OPK's, didn't check CM, nothing..she just went with the flow and her doctor honestly told her they just had "really bad timing"...Her doctor suggested she chart and do everything I named above and she got pregnant her 2nd cycle after she started charting....

The more I think about this, the more it pisses me off. You have to be a damn moron to compare someone trying with no clue how their body works and poor timing to someone who has been doing everything you have listed and has been properly diagnosed with unexplained infertility. That isn't something where they look at how long you have been trying and just slap the label on you. You go through the entire infertility workup only to come away with zero answers. Your friend got answers- her timing sucked ass because she had a longer cycle and wasn't smart enough to educate herself or she would have learned years earlier that she didn't ovulate on CD14 when she had a 40 day cycle. She was not diagnosed with unexplained infertility. There was a perfect explanation why she wasn't pregnant.

Your example is insulting and downright rude. To claim that those with unexplained just need to chart and use OPKs. I did that for years. Just because they can't determine to cause immediately and you begin treatments with an unexplained tag doesn't mean there isn't an issue somewhere. Your friend's issue was simple to spot and was not fertility related at all. Just due to ignorance.

You need to shut up about things you are completely clueless about.

Thank you GM. I read that reply and kept thinking, "THAT SH*TTY timing not infertility."

Andplusalso, even if your sister/sister from another mother/friend/sister's boyfriend's cousin's daughter has suffered from infertility you still have NO clue what it is like unless YOU have been there. Otherwise it's called sympathy!

ACOOK · December 2011

GhostMonkey:
CMSullivan326:
KdgTeacher:
There is something wrong with us. It is called infertility and frustrating doesn't even begin to describe it.

Actually, my best friend tried for a little over 2 1/2 years with no luck. She thought something may have been wrong so she talked to her doctor. After digging into her & her husband's medical history and running the tests needed on them both, everything came back perfectly fine and normal. She had been on BC for about 10 years and it threw her cycle off track (not too bad though, just gave her 40ish day cycles with short periods)...she didn't chart, didn't temp, didn't use OPK's, didn't check CM, nothing..she just went with the flow and her doctor honestly told her they just had "really bad timing"...Her doctor suggested she chart and do everything I named above and she got pregnant her 2nd cycle after she started charting....

The more I think about this, the more it pisses me off. You have to be a damn moron to compare someone trying with no clue how their body works and poor timing to someone who has been doing everything you have listed and has been properly diagnosed with unexplained infertility. That isn't something where they look at how long you have been trying and just slap the label on you. You go through the entire infertility workup only to come away with zero answers. Your friend got answers- her timing sucked ass because she had a longer cycle and wasn't smart enough to educate herself or she would have learned years earlier that she didn't ovulate on CD14 when she had a 40 day cycle. She was not diagnosed with unexplained infertility. There was a perfect explanation why she wasn't pregnant.

Your example is insulting and downright rude. To claim that those with unexplained just need to chart and use OPKs. I did that for years. Just because they can't determine to cause immediately and you begin treatments with an unexplained tag doesn't mean there isn't an issue somewhere. Your friend's issue was simple to spot and was not fertility related at all. Just due to ignorance.

You need to shut up about things you are completely clueless about.

I think this best describes you

09babymama · December 2011

GhostMonkey:
CMSullivan326:
KdgTeacher:
There is something wrong with us. It is called infertility and frustrating doesn't even begin to describe it.

Actually, my best friend tried for a little over 2 1/2 years with no luck. She thought something may have been wrong so she talked to her doctor. After digging into her & her husband's medical history and running the tests needed on them both, everything came back perfectly fine and normal. She had been on BC for about 10 years and it threw her cycle off track (not too bad though, just gave her 40ish day cycles with short periods)...she didn't chart, didn't temp, didn't use OPK's, didn't check CM, nothing..she just went with the flow and her doctor honestly told her they just had "really bad timing"...Her doctor suggested she chart and do everything I named above and she got pregnant her 2nd cycle after she started charting....

The more I think about this, the more it pisses me off. You have to be a damn moron to compare someone trying with no clue how their body works and poor timing to someone who has been doing everything you have listed and has been properly diagnosed with unexplained infertility. That isn't something where they look at how long you have been trying and just slap the label on you. You go through the entire infertility workup only to come away with zero answers. Your friend got answers- her timing sucked ass because she had a longer cycle and wasn't smart enough to educate herself or she would have learned years earlier that she didn't ovulate on CD14 when she had a 40 day cycle. She was not diagnosed with unexplained infertility. There was a perfect explanation why she wasn't pregnant.

Your example is insulting and downright rude. To claim that those with unexplained just need to chart and use OPKs. I did that for years. Just because they can't determine to cause immediately and you begin treatments with an unexplained tag doesn't mean there isn't an issue somewhere. Your friend's issue was simple to spot and was not fertility related at all. Just due to ignorance.

You need to shut up about things you are completely clueless about.

Thank you, that bothered me as well. Too bad all of our problems weren't as simply as "really bad timing" because then we would be getting KU within 2 cycles.

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