I'm not military but my husband works a job that he's away more than he is home. One of those jobs where the time of year, births, even planned vacation are made to take a back seat. (He missed DS's birth and may family vacations.) But... um... may I join you ladies? He's not home for Christmas and I'm having a really hard time with it. I thought that out of anyone, you guys may understand my stress. How do you guys do it????
Re: Not military but...
Of course you're welcome to join us!
My H hasn't had to miss too many big events, though he's almost always working at least part of the day on major holidays. We realized last week that today is the fist Christmas he's had completely off since we've been married (going on 9 years). When he is gone for a long time I find ways to keep me and the kids busy, and always get out of the house at least once on any day he's not home. We do crafts, play games, and have webcam chats whenever possible with H and our extended family. It does get lonely, which is hardest this time of year, but it usually helps a bit to remember that everything is temporary.
I feel for you. DH was deployed half of the first 3 years of our marriage but then he was considered undeployable because of his health and I'm so grateful. I'm sorry he's gone but welcome!
I am sorry. My husband is not home for Christmas this year either. It sucks. I just put the kid to bed so I am having a big tub of fudge and a glass of wine. It sucks but you are not alone.
How long will your H be gone?