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Has your husband ever hurt your feelings?
I am still amazed by that comment below. Do I have low expectations or what?! My feelings are not often hurt by DH but it happens for sure.[Poll]
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Re: Has your husband ever hurt your feelings?
He threw a dildo at my head.
Need I even answer.
But did that hurt your FEELINGS? lol
Actually, Z, I posted that and thought "hell, that didn't even really hurt my feelings!" He was SO mad at me but I was at a "matter of fact" place at that point and my feelings weren't hurt. I was angry though!
He has hurt my feelings before though. Of course he has. So has everyone else that I've had in my life for any great length of time. It happens.
then why fight if your feelings aren't hurt? To me, being ANGRY means my feelings are hurt, no?? My feelings are feelings of anger....which hurts?? Or is hurt feelings something different??? I don't get it.
well 25% of people in my other poll said that they rarely fight (fewer than a few times a year) b/c they have such great relationships.
The nest is really a very unique place.
"The nest is really a very unique place."
You know that alternate universe I often feel like I am from when I am here? Yup, that one. THIS is why!
Well the reason I post anon polls in every post is because I feel like people are talking out their asses all the time! Do people lie even in anonymous polls?!
Well the reason I post anon polls in every post is because I feel like people are talking out their asses all the time! Do people lie even in anonymous polls?!
To me, hurt feelings means that he said or did something that makes me sad or otherwise unhappy. Not necessairly angry, although sometimes I do get angry when I'm sad. Because it's easier to yell than cry.
We fight and we hurt each other's feelings. My kids may be a breeze for the most part, but my marriage? Nope. I just don't ever post about it because it's just too private, IMO. I do my best not to speak poorly about my dh to others, even when I'm about ready to walk out the door.
I'll probably even dd this in a bit because it still feels like I said too much.
FWIW, you do a good job of keeping it under wraps because I would have NEVER guessed. EVER!
Sans the MIL, I think this happens to so many couples. And then they wake up one day and they are like "HUH!? How the eff did we get here? And who are you? Better yet, who am I?!"
So common. The 20's are a whirlwind. Graduate, date, get engaged/married, get a pet, get a house, have some kids. It's really A LOT of milestones jammed in to a 10 (give or take) year period. And then the mundaneness of life settles in. And.....what now?!
That's where it's important to be friends. To laugh together, take time for each other (and yourself) and to find some common ground. It has to be priority #1 because all that other stuff has a way of taking over.
There's my Ms. Jodi Therapy session for the day!
I think Devon and I are married to the same man.
MH never gets angry - it's just not his personality. I can't even think of a time he's said something ugly to me that hurt my feelings b/c honestly he just doesn't operate like that. It's kind of hard to have a one sided fight, kwim?
He tends to be oblivious which bugs me but doesn't hurt my feelings. On top of that, I'm virtually unoffendable in the sense that very little hurts my feelings. It might annoy me, or make me mad, but I'm not hurt by it.
I don't know - I'd never survive a marriage to someone like me - it'd be WWIII every day, which is why I ended up with MH, I think. And if he was with someone like himself, he'd probably float on through life oblivious to everything, haha.
Ditto to all the bolded parts. We are both passionate tempered people, so when there's things going on individually, or with each other, it almost always spills over.
ha, I said the same thing to Devon. Maybe we are all married to the same man. dun-dun-dunnnnnnnn.
All of this. ALL OF IT.
The lack of make up sex kind of blows though, lol!
This makes me sad
Are you still married?
We are in the process of divorcing. He left me and the kids to be with another woman back in October and is currently living across the country from us. It was crushing, but looking back, the VERY BEST THING that could have happened to me. Before we got married I was confident and successful, and after 9 years of trying so freaking hard to impress him, I was left with zero self confidence. Somehow having to pull myself up by the bootstraps has brought that mojo back, so it's going to work out in the end. Plus, even though it sucks not to have him around to help with the kids (5.5 and 21 months), since they are boys I am SO GLAD they're not going to see that as an example of how you treat women, especially the one you are married to. I was no saint in my marriage, but I can honestly say I gave it my all and put up with way more than I ever should have. Closing that chapter will be a huge relief.
If we are giving out an award for the douche of the year, I think my H is going to be a contender.
I just spit out my soda.
{Ava 5.16.06} {Ella 12.29.07} {Drew 2.9.10}
::eyeroll::
I'm pretty sure no one said their husband was perfect or the Stepford version.
ITA with Andrews that there is a negative flip side to a man who is so calm. MH is so logical, that feelings and getting excited are not his strong suit. While 99% of the time, his personality is the best match for me - it can be very frustrating when I feel like he isn't excited about something or doesn't like something I've done that I thought he would love. We joke that he is an emotional robot, and for someone who is high strung, that can be really hard to deal with, even though when I'm outside the moment, I know that it is best that I am married to someone like that.
There's got to be someone, right? I know someone said they've never had their feelings hurt by their H. Plus, I'd like to see what attachments they come with.