GYN offices need a separate area for us infertiles; plus DH funny

tapnpsych · December 2011

I had my annual gyn appointment today. First, I had to wait for the dr. to return from delivering a baby. I don't mind waiting, but waiting in a room full of pregnant ladies and pictures of babies was hard. Then I was taken to my exam room. The walls are extra thin. I could hear my doc next door with a lady talking about finding the heartbeat, blah blah blah. That's when I finally started crying.

To top it off, as my doc was doing my pap, he let's me know "Yep, you're getting your period today." I figured, considering my temp drop, but man what a tough appointment to get through. (My doc is super nice and understanding of my getting a bit teary eyed during my appt.)

I texted my husband about being an infertile in an office full of pregnant ladies. This was his response: "You're not infertile, you're hypofertile. You're fertile lite. Still fertile but zero calories." Way to put a smile on my face, DH. I love that man.

MsGMChick · December 2011

Awwww.. That was sweet of him to get you to smile

Sorry about the sucky apt. I hate going to my OBs because EVERY.SINGLE.TIME I can hear them doing dopplers and I can hear the beautiful swoosh of baby heartbeats. Sigh.

buckeyebaby814 · December 2011

I hate the GYN office for the same reasons. At least with my new one the u/s rooms are across the hall from the exam rooms, so I don't hear heartbeats on the dopplers and such. How sweet/ cute about your DH though, what a good man Smile

kellyrn9956 · December 2011

My last yearly exam was HELL. I was just a few weeks from my miscarriage. I was sick and tired of being at the OB/GYN just for Pap smears. And then I heard all the dopplers through the walls.

By the time the doctor came in, I was a sobbing mess.

erockmomma · December 2011

When I went to my OB/GYN's office for my m/c follow up appt there was a girl getting the "I just found out I'm pregnant" book and folder which I recognized from just a few weeks prior. I totally lost it. I definitely think we should have separate waiting areas! Sorry you had such a bad visit. Wishing you much happier visits to come!

tapnpsych · December 2011

Thanks ladies! I'm sorry to hear that you've all had similar experiences. I was thinking I'm the only one to have heard that swooshing through the walls. Maybe we should start a movement for separate areas, or at least thicker walls!

bostonbluejay · December 2011

I feel ya. When I was going through my second loss, I went for a follow up and I could hear the doppler in the next room and everyone laughing and celebrating hearing the heartbeat. By the time the doctor came in, I was in tears. She was really supportive, which was nice.

kz's_girlygirl · December 2011

I'm so sorry

At least it's only once a year! And I definitely agree- baby related appts to one side, yearly pap's to the other!

pulga131 · December 2011

Ugh I'm sorry you had such a rough appointment. That makes me really appreciate how my gyn is only a gyn now so no babies around there. But you're right. As common as if is ob offices should be more sensitive to us. And YH seems awesome. What a sweet thing to say

Blueyed228 · December 2011

The women who go to my RE clinic need to get this memo too. I swear the last 4 or 5 times I have gone there has been some jerk in there with their kid. There is a separate area for kids but they all ignore it. You would think that since they are going through something similar, they would understand that there might just be some of in there who dont have kids yet and who dont want to see your bouncing baby crawling all over me right before I have my u/s telling me im being cancelled due to cysts.

/rant

JMay · December 2011

I

your DHs text - that's awesome - "fertile light" LOL!!!

CousinVicki · December 2011

Blueyed228:
The women who go to my RE clinic need to get this memo too. I swear the last 4 or 5 times I have gone there has been some jerk in there with their kid. There is a separate area for kids but they all ignore it. You would think that since they are going through something similar, they would understand that there might just be some of in there who dont have kids yet and who dont want to see your bouncing baby crawling all over me right before I have my u/s telling me im being cancelled due to cysts.

/rant

I have brought my son to the RE for bloodwork appts, i do not always have childcare for the unending appts. And doesn't maybe seem like something positive like "hey this Dr got them pregnant before!" ??

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