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February 2012 Moms
Melzig76
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"The next baby" When are you planning for?
Melzig76
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DH and I were talking about this the other day of when we want our "next baby" which will also be our last. He jokingly said as soon as we can, and I looked at him with a very straight face and said "Yo buddy, I'm not a vending machine. " We both cracked up for a while, but we are planning on when DD is about 1.5. What about you ladies?
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Re: "The next baby" When are you planning for?
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We were originally planning to have 3 kids close in age. However, we got pregnant a lot faster than we thought we would. So, we'll probably wait until LO is 2.5 to start trying for number 2. Then, the plan is to try to have baby #2 and Baby #3 within 2 years of each other.
FWIW to PP, I was an only child until I was 18 (when my mom and dad adopted 2 babies)...and DH is an only child with his mom (has a half sister from his dad). I know you're thinking about possibly having only one, but being basically an only child, it was rough. I had everything I could ever ask for...except for siblings. I always wanted a brother or sister, didn't care which...same for DH (hence the 3 kids that we want). Thankfully, I have 18 cousins, and 4 are around my age, so I had friends around my age.
This is our first and we are planning to have at least three. I think we'll wait until this baby is 1.5-2 years before we start trying for a second. We live in a small condo, so it will be cramped for a while with just one and even more cramped with #2. Hopefully we can get a bigger place before we have #3!
Well, DH is already planning baby #2 and I had to tell him to slow down and let's just get baby #1 out of my belly first, please! I really want to see what life is like with one little one before deciding if we are ready for a second one. If we do have a second, we would like to try and do it within a couple of years so they are close in age (plus, I am almost 34 now, so I don't want to wait too long).
I really like the idea of our little guy having a sibling. I think there is so much value in growing up with a brother or sister, even if they are the brattiest little brother in all the world (just like mine was....who is still a brat, but will always have my back). It is nice to have that tether to another person who lived your life experience as a child and can totally relate when your mother is being crazytown.
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MH has said that we will have as many kids as we can before I turn 35 (I'll turn 31 in Feb) and that I need to go back to work pregnant. He says it jokingly, but I know he's only half joking. It took us 2.5 years to get pregnant with this baby, so I'm not sure if we shoud start right away or what. Guess we'll see what it's like with one first!!
Married August 5, 2006
Baby girl born February 15, 2012
Expecting baby #2 in July!
Because of my age, if we decide to have another, we'll probably start trying when this one is 18 months - 2 years. We got pregnant super quick this time around, so hopefully we can give ourselves a little break in between without me falling into the high-risk category because of age.
After 2 1/2 years TTC, 3 IUI's, endo, and a lap, a surprise BFP brought us Alexandra Marie!
We disagree on this, I want one more after this one, hubby says he's done. He said he was done after our daughter and here I am, pregnant again.
This will be the fourth in our family, our boys are 13 and 11, and our daughter will be 2.5 when this one is born. We'll see what happens, if we have one more or not, even though he says no more, neither of us are willing to use any birth control or go to a permanent solution, so I hope for another surprise, like this one was
We haven't talked about it, but DH was ready for this one when DD was 16 months. Looking ahead, I can't imagine myself ready for another until this one is more like 2.5 to 3, but wouldn't want them much further apart than 3.5 years.
Since we're having twins, we don't have to worry about maybe having an only child. But we did IVF and have 2 more embryos "in the freezer". We're going to wait and see how we manage with two before we decide on trying again, but I am already over 35 so we don't want to wait too long. A big question for us is whether to try transferring both embryos again and maybe have a second set of twins!
This! I am not doing the pill you can be on while breastfeeding because I am convinced that dried up my milk last time. Realistically, I will stop breastfeeding at six months. I'd love to get pregnant when LO is nine or so months old so they're about 18 months apart total. I am ready to knock out the third and be done! Though, I think the age DS is at now is so great for adding another baby! He's just becoming independent enough that I feel like I could do two no problem.
If it was up to ME, I would add a fourth to the mix. DH swears and tells everyone he IS getting snipped when I am pregnant with the third. Too bad you can't get a vasectomy without the wifeys consent. Atleast that is what our friends that just got one done told us! She said they had to interview her and she had to sign a paper. Maybe that is office to office though? Idk.
BFP 2/25/09
HCG 3/6=518 3/8=1230
1st Ultrasound 3/18 FHR=103
2nd U/S 3/20 FHR=118!!
3rd U/S 4/1 FHR=169
BIG U/S 5/22=IT'S A BOY! FHR-148
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BFP 5/27/11 Stick baby, stick!
HCG 5/31=140 P=9 HCG 6/2=292 P=11
1ST Ultrasound 6/15 FHR=109!!
U/S 8/18=IT'S A BOY! FHR-141
We debate this a lot. It took longer than we anticipated to get this BFP and had to do Eastern & Western fertility treatments to make it happen... I know I don't want to go back on hormonal bc after LO is born, but I also don't want to be one of those women who did fertility treatments for #1 and got a surprise #2 super soon after the first child is born.
Ideally, I'd like them to be 2-3 years apart, so I'd like to actively start trying when LO is around 1.5 or 2. H wants to start earlier in case it takes a while.
It isn't set in stone, but we're pretty sure that this one will be our one and only. Hubster is an only child and never wanted a sibling. I have a brother and have always wished I were an only child (long story). We're not the most well-off couple financially, so we'd like to make sure that all our attentions and finances are able to go to our daughter.
But, like I said, it's not set in stone. Who knows - we might have this little one for a while and decide we can't live without another.
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Baby N conceived after 1 miscarriage and more than 2 years of TTC. Diagnosis was low sperm count. We found success after 3 months of anastrozole to increase DH's testosterone and one IUI.
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A+S | Met 8/24/06 | Married 9/27/08
Started TTC 12/2008 | dx PCOS 5/2009
6 failed clomid/femara/TI cycles, 1 failed clomid/ovidrel/IUI cycle
Successful Cycle: 5/12/11 - 1000mg Metformin + 100mg Clomid(late response) + TI = BFP
2/13/12 - We proudly welcomed our daughter, Hadley Teresa!
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Pregnant after 4 losses via IVF/FET with daughter "Gamma" (EDD Oct 2, 2019)