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February 2012 Moms
AndieM
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Shower Invitees
AndieM
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My MIL and SIL are throwing me a shower on Jan 21st (yikes, I hope I don?t go into labour early!). I told them I didn?t really want one, but they insisted from the beginning that I MUST have one.
Anyways, my MIL was reading off the list of invitees to me last night, and, just like my wedding shower, there are a lot of her friends on there, and people I don?t know that well, or haven?t seen since my wedding shower. I asked them to try and keep it low-key. I?ve got my female friends, but not a lot of female family where we live, and I hope she?s inviting these people basically for her, because they're her friends, rather than just so the shower isn?t ?too small?. She also tends to invite people just because we?ve been invited to their functions in the past.
We don?t need a ton of stuff (or want a ton of stuff we don?t need). Should I just go along to get along or should I broach the subject with her?
Married August 5, 2006
Baby girl born February 15, 2012
Expecting baby #2 in July!
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Re: Shower Invitees
I have had an issue like that with my MIL. She wanted every person she ever spoke to invited to my bridal shower..and then some! My mom is throwing my shower and only invited a few of her friends. When it comes down to it, it's about you and your LO being surrounded by the people you care about the most. I would mention something to her if it makes you feel uncomfortable. It can't hurt.
I'd probably just go along with it. Your MIL probably invited those people because she felt like they'd want to come.
Save the confrontation for another time.
I am in a similar situation with my aunt. But here's the thing. I encouraged her to invite her closest friends - even if I don't know them well. This baby is a BIG deal in my teeny tiny family and I want the (co-ed) shower to be a celebration of Baby. To me that means that everyone gets to celebrate - not just me and DH. Since she is the hostess and extra guests are at her expense - I can't see one reason for her not to invite her closest friends.
I wish more of mine could come but they are all overseas....
My family is a Foreign Service family. Families like mine are posted in every corner of the globe. We live our lives away from family, friends and the conviences and comforts of home. We often live and work in dangerous places among those that misunderstand our intentions and purposes. Sometimes members of our ranks sacrifice our lives to further diplomacy. Please remember that we serve too. And I'm always open to questions.
I think you're entitled to the type of shower you want and I don't think it would hurt to have a conversation with MIL about it. Keep in mind there might be some people on her list that don't mean much to you but would be very offened if they weren't invited so it might be worth letting them slide just to keep the peace for your MIL's sake.
IMHO I do think it's rude to not invite someone to your function if they invited you to theirs. The only time I would think this would be ok if you had a falling out or if they had a huge shower at a restaurant and you were just having a few people at someone's house and couldn't physically invite all that invited you. Just my opinion though.
This pretty much sums it up.
Crossing fingers that anything you get that you don't want/need can return and get a credit at a useful store!
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Married August 5, 2006
Baby girl born February 15, 2012
Expecting baby #2 in July!
TTC #2 since 10/2013
BFP #1 (4.14.14) ~ CP (4.18.14)
BFP #2 (6.27.14) ~ EDD 3.7.15
She is the one inviting them, I would just enjoy!