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January 2012 Moms
Scared :(
Scheduled C Section because LO is still in Breech...I was getting prepared but I "googled' way too much and freaked myself out.
I am scared there is something wrong with him and the doctors missed it on the ultrasound, and that's why he hasn't flipped... 
How do I know he is okay? How do I know that he hasn't flipped just because he's 'stubborn', and not because something is wrong??
I am scared when I read some of the stories on here like how 'wrists have to be tied down' during the surgery, that I will freak out in the middle of it and won't be able to handle it.
I am scared that too many people will visit me and all I will want is to be left alone with my baby and DH and I won't know how to tell them that or take that away from them.
I am scared that I will feel completely useless and 'stuck' during the first few weeks and joy will be taken away from me. I am scared that others will bond with him before I do (
I am such a baby and I didn't think this will be so hard near the end (
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Second, stop googling.
Talk to your doctor about your concerns, specificially how you will feel during the operation. If you feel that you need more one on one time to bond with your baby, then tell people that you aren't accepting visitors right now. The nurses and your DH can make sure that you are comfortable and have the time you need to bond. Anyone who would have a problem with that can piss up a rope and really aren't friends if they only care about their own need to see the baby.
I think recovery after any delivery requires a lot of help from other people. Just be as straightforward with those around you about your needs and wants because if there is a time in your life you are entitled to that, it is now.
I hope everything goes smoothly and/or that baby flips around.
I would be anxious, too, but I agree with previous posters - stop googling and try to talk to your doctor.
I'm all for welcoming family right away at the hospital, but if I had a c-section I wouldn't hesitate to tell them I needed time with baby first and that they were welcome to come later on. I already told DH that if we were to have an unexpected c-section, no one is allowed to hold the baby before I do except him.
Oh I know not to take everything in from 'google'...Ive done good so far so I dont know why I just gave in and broke down to it.
I guess I need to get the tears out of the way and grasp on for a few weeks..
I completely share your fear about freaking out during the procedure. I feel like I would have to be completely put under if I had to have a c-section because I wouldn't be able to keep it together.
Also, I don't care how many people want to visit right after LO's birth, they are just going to have to wait. I will get at least 1 hour with just LO and DH for bonding and BF'ing. I also may want some rest after that. Who knows. Therefore no one is visiting until I give the ok, even if it's not for hours. If you are worried about visitors, then you should adopt the same policy even though it wouldn't go over well with everyone. You're sanity is way more important than everyone else's feelings.
I had a csection with DS. It wasn't bad at all and I'd had a vaginal birth with DD. my arms weren't tied down at all, my anestethiologist worked really hard to make sure i was as relaxed as possible. We told family that we didn't want any one at the hospital until we knew we were in our post partum room. No one besides dh would have been allowed anywhere else anyway. That allowed us to call when we were settled and ready. We also wanted dd to be the first to meet DS, but that won't be an issue for you. It helped for us that I went into labor before my scheduled date and I wasn't sectioned until 8:30 pm. So by the time we were in our room it was late so we just asked people to wait until the next morning.
Now I didn't have a breech baby, I ended up with a csection for different reasons, so I can't speak about your fear for that. But most people I know who had scheduled sections didn't think they were bad. Make sure you get up and walk as soon as you're allowed no matter how much pain you're in. Stay on top of your pain mess, and take gas x for the gas pain you will get in your shoulders. Good luck!
I'd be like you, unable to keep from googling. I think everything you're feeling and thinking is normal hon.
((Hugs)) I think its normal to feel scared. If its of any consolation, I know MANY MANY babies who were breech (including myself), and many more who were born by emergency c-section at the last minute and all of them turned out to be perfectly healthy!!
As far as bonding goes, I think (or at least hope) people will understand and not smother you guys in the first few weeks. I know I wouldn't feel comfortable visiting a new mother unless I was invited by her. Is there another place you can go besides your house (like maybe a close relative's house) to "hide out" for a while? I plan on spending a lot of time at my mom's house the first week or so, at least then she can do the cleaning and entertaining if anyone does show up, and my parents work during the day so that will give us some alone time
If anything, you can always turn off your phone and lock your doors, close the blinds. In the hospital, you can ask the nurses to turn people away if you are sick of visitors, then you don't have to. This is YOUR time, no one else's, so don't feel bad about putting yourself first!!
ok. Babies dont flip for lots of reasons, I would just take it easy and realize that Drs dont usually miss something bad in the U/S's.
Now... I had a CS with DD, my wrists were not tied down. They just settled my arms on the positioned rests for easy access to viens of needed. If they did tie my arms down, I never noticed, niether did my DH so obviously it isnt a majorly confining thing, and if it is needed, I am sure theres a great reason for it.
Next, one of the things I enjoyed about my recovery was specifically that I couldnt do much besides spend time with DD. Being on restrictions allowed me a good reason to let someone else do laundry and clean up. I was able to let DD practially live in my arms. Granted, lots of sitting and laying down, but still great bonding.
finally, being scared is natural. This is #2 for me in about 3 weeks and I am getting very very nervous. Its o.k. Talk to your S/O, DH, or whoever is your support about your concerns.
"Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you but if u turn your attention to other things it will come & sit softly on your shoulder."
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Thank you.
https://www8.albertahealthservices.ca/assets/files/caesarean birth.pdf
I found this for you to read too. Some handy information and explanations to hopefully ease your mind a little. Actually, this whole site has a lot of good information!
I'll be having an Alberta babe too (Medicine Hat)
Thank you this helped a lot as well !