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Why do I get insanely jealous of mothers?!

sarah.scholzsarah.scholz
in July 2012 Moms

I've been having a rough first trimester with lots of bleeding, cramping, terror and uncertainty.  So today I was out for a walk and a lady came out of a store holding her itty bitty newborn and I just hated her to the bottom of my soul.  I was so jealous that she had come out of pregnancy with a happy and whole baby while I was still slogging through the uncertainty of weeks 10-12.  I hate all of the false alarms, the bleeding and the elevated chance of miscarriage.  I just want to BE HER and be on the other side and know that I carried a baby to term.  Is this normal?

 *side note* I don't actually hate that woman.  I don't even know her.  It was just an irrational flash of emotion.

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Re: Why do I get insanely jealous of mothers?!

  • PLS2010PLS2010

    I'm sorry pregnancy has not been going smoothly. I understand the uncertainty part.

    With our first pregnancy after our sudden m/s I was horrible jealous of other mothers. I would cry when I had to go to baby showers and was uneasy when I saw babies with their parents. I still do have anxiety about this pregnancy and pregnant women make me nervous when they are further along than we are. I had nightmares the week before our first u/s. OB appointments are still scary because our first m/s we had no warning the baby had no heartbeat so I am very pessimistic every time we go in. 

    I would talk to your doctor if these feelings becoming concerning to you or interfere with normal life. That is the one thing I regret with our m/s is I was a wreck for months and never got any help. I hope things start to look up for you. 

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  • Charlotte648Charlotte648
    When you have a thought like that, recognize it and turn it around to be positive. Maybe something along the lines of, "Seeing that woman with her new baby gives me hope that that will be me someday. Maybe she struggled like I did and ended up with a healthy baby." Easier said than done, I know, but give it a try.
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  • masurweddingmasurwedding member

    Stay positive.  It's ok to have those emotions (I like that you pointed out you don't actually hate her haha).  Week 13 will be here before you know it and you can really start to enjoy your pregnancy.

     This is my first but from what I hear-after you have the baby some mothers are jealous of pregnant women and wish they could go back!  Grass is greener I guess!

    Best of luck! 

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