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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Do you hold stupid grudges? (longish)
I like my boss. She's an effective boss, typically very professional, and we work well together. My one complaint is that she doesn't handle stress well on occasion, but if you learn to identify when she's got a lot on her plate and just let her get her job done it's usually a storm that passes quickly.
We had a little tiff yesterday. I won't go into details except I was probably 75% right (the other 25% more being my timing and approach of the situation, not that I wasn't correct in the subject matter). She didn't handle the situation very professionally. I felt dismissed and disrespected, which burns more when you know you're right AND you typically respect and work well with someone.
I have a nice Christmas gift and a sweet card for her. Our conversation from yesterday is mostly water under the bridge and should be NBD (an apology would be nice, but it wasn't THAT big of a deal and I know I won't get one). We had our Christmas party last night and I just told her I'd forgotten her gift at home. Which was only half true, I just wasn't feeling it. We all had a nice time, and she got me a cute little set of snowman cannisters with baking mixes in them because she knows I like cooking and food.
I can't bring myself to give her her gift today because I'm still being a child and holding yesterday against her.
Do you hold stupid shiit against people longer than you should?
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Re: Do you hold stupid grudges? (longish)
Yes I definitely do. It's not something I'm proud of and it's definitely something I work on, but I do.
Example: DH's friends never come to anything for us. None of the wives came to my bridal shower or baby shower and none of them came to DDs 1st bday party. The other day we got an invite for one of their kid's 1st bday parties and DH has to work and I'm secretly v excited that I don't have to go. I'm still piiissed that they don't do anything for us and therefore I dont want to go above and beyond for them (the party is far away from us). So, yeah, I do.
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I will say that it has been my experience that women are harder to work for then men.
Generally, I would answer your question as a case by case basis...BUT in the work place it's better to get over things quickly. You could get her a small gift, but nothing beats an apology for bad communication and timing.
Do this on a board however and you'll be flamed for at least 3 months
Yes, I do. I wish I didn't. When DH and I get into a tiff, he's over it immediately and I'm still fuming about it hours/days later.
I would probably feel the same way you do. I would give her the gift regardless though, to maintain the relationship. Hopefully, in a few days, you'll feel less raw about it.