Terrified by a miscarriage..

Cdienst · December 2011

This is my first pregnancy and I am 5 weeks along. I want this baby more than anything ever in my whole life! My sister had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and has not been able to get pregnant again, my husbands sister also had several miscarriages. Looking online at the statistics they seem low - 10% or less now but I know SO MANY people who have had them. How to deal?

daniellelovesjacob · December 2011

My sister and law and a few friends have had miscarriages as well. I am 5 weeks today and just as terrified.

Ladiebug710 · December 2011

There isn't anything you can do or not do to change what will happen. Try to relax and enjoy the process. FX all will be well.

aspensonj · December 2011

Cdienst:
This is my first pregnancy and I am 5 weeks along. I want this baby more than anything ever in my whole life! My sister had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and has not been able to get pregnant again, my husbands sister also had several miscarriages. Looking online at the statistics they seem low - 10% or less now but I know SO MANY people who have had them. How to deal?

All you can do is take it day by day. I had a miscarriage in October and was pregnant again by the end of November. I am terrified every single day that something will go wrong--every twinge in my stomach sends me into a straight panic. Obviously, I can't go the next 9 months with this much anxiety, so I decided to take my doctor's advice--go with the 90%. I'm still only allowing myself to be cautiously optimistic, but I'm trying to stay as positive as possible and not worry about things that are completely out of my control. There is an overwhelming chance that you will carry your baby to term and everything will be just fine. The calmer you are, the better things will be for you and your little one. Smile Best of luck to you!

Zoey1309 · December 2011

Ladiebug710:
There isn't anything you can do or not do to change what will happen. Try to relax and enjoy the process. FX all will be well.

Yes

lovin life23 · December 2011

well...I had a missed miscarriage back in July of this year at 11 wks 4 days and I can tell you that worrying will certainly get you nowhere... while it is natural to worry about your child let a lone unborn child stress is NOT good for you especially during pregnancy. There are some things you cant control and a miscarriage is one of them...while pregnancy can be scary try to relax.

This is where my faith helps me out, God is in control and I know no matter what happens in life I will be alright We all want our babies...everyone has fears....try to think positive cause again...stress wont help.

ludwig06 · December 2011

First- STAY AWAY FROM THE INTERNET! It is NOT your friend during this time. You will search everything and anything and it caN all Be pointed to m/c. Second- This is completely out of your control. If you are religious or not, this is not up to you. If something does happen to this baby, then it wasnt meant to be on this earth. I know that's a hard concept, but it helps. Third- Just breathe

Instead of freaking out for the next 4-5 months, just enjoy this happy time, b/c nothing is guaranteed. Even if you make it to 6 months, something can happen (my sister lost Kourtney at 6 months b/c the umbilical cord wrapped around her) So nothing is guaranteed. I am in your shoes, and all this advice has come from EVERYONE! I know this sounds harsh, but at some point you are going to hurt this baby with the stress. I think it's safe to say that every new mom goes through this, adn the more stress we put on ourselves, the worse we can do for our growing babies. We need to just breathe

ebt1978 · December 2011

me too. i think the percentage is more like 20% and i read that if you have had a previous miscarriage, its 25%. i had a miscarriage over 2 years ago. i went in for the 8 week appt. and there was no heartbeat. the baby measured around 7.5 weeks. i decided to not have a d&c and it took 4 weeks for it to pass. it was horrible. i have not been able to get pregnant since until now, 2+ years later. i just keep telling myself that if it is a healthy baby and meant to be, it all will work out. but it definitely doesn't make it any easier to deal with.

WilsonN10 · December 2011

I know what you mean...I am 5 weeks and I have had a miscarriage before and every little thing is freaking me out! If I feel something I panic, if I am not feeling anything I panic. I decided this morning that it is out of my control and to take it one day at a time. So far this plan is working and I am much more relaxed then the days before.

Kasi80 · December 2011

I had a miscarriage in September and was pregnant again in November. It is very hard not to worry. I completely understand but I have learned through this pregnancy that there really is nothing I can do if I were to miscarry again. It can happen regardless of what I do or think. I have finally come to terms with that and am now just happy that I know I can get pregnant (took 2 years initially) and am pregnant right now. It's really all you can do, just be happy about it.

Juicer82 · December 2011

Try not to stress!! That's not going to help anything!! I know it's easier said than done however.

I had a miscarriage in June, and I'm scared about this current pregnancy. I'm trying to stay positive and I'll learn more from my doctor's appointment on December 27th.

Stay positive, and try not to stress!!

AGove22 · December 2011

lovin life23:

This is where my faith helps me out, God is in control and I know no matter what happens in life I will be alright We all want our babies...everyone has fears....try to think positive cause again...stress wont help.

That was exactly what I was going to add to the conversation. I have my fears as well but I am just praying every day... okay 10 times/day and just have faith that if something happens, it will be part of His plan and that the this baby would not have been healthy and safe alive. God's got it. :-)

maxsom · December 2011

Trust me, I know the feeling. It's so hard to have so little control over what's going on inside your own body. I m/c in October and got pregnant with my first official cycle after that and this time, I have a much different outlook. Before, it was always in the back of my mind. This time, of course, it's still there in the back of my mind, but I'm feeling much more in control of that. Sure, I get a little panicky before going in for bloodwork (third and final beta tomorrow before my 12/29 appt), but all we can do is take things day by day. I've come to trust in the PgAL mantra: Today I am pregnant and I love my baby.

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