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So I'm 11 weeks pregnant now, and was planning to "announce" to extended family/friends after my 12 week appointment next week, on our Christmas cards. I took a picture of our stockings (five!) and came up with this cute little rhyme, etc etc.
Anyway. So my mom asked me (again) last week when we're planning on telling people and I told her (again) at 12 weeks and filled her in on the card thing. She loved it.
Fast forward to today. I just got an email from an old acquaintance back home, congratulating me on my pregnancy. The only person that could have told her is my mom. My dad doesn't even know yet. Or at least I hope he doesn't, because this person is connected with him too. Frankly, knowing my mom, everyone knows. I was so excited to do something cute to announce this (which we have never done before), and of course she had to ruin it.
Selfish. Narcissistic. Obnoxious. Thanks for proving it all again mom! YAY.
(I realize this post probably makes me sound totally immature and petty, I'm venting here. Please don't judge my character based on this, lol)
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UGH. That is beyond maddening. I'm so sorry. I found out after we announced my pregnancy with Vivi that a family member had been telling everyone despite being told 100x that it was NOT OKAY to tell people. Sucky feeling.
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I called her and she didn't answer.
Another thing beyond even just totally ruining my surprise, is that I've felt really nervous during this pregnancy for some reason. I really really wanted to wait to tell a huge number of people until after the 12 week appointment, just to be sure everything is going ok. If, heaven forbid, it's not and now I have to deal with random emails from people I rarely talk to, I am going to be....what's another word for furious, but times ten million?
OMG I'd be so pissed. My mom actually did the same thing, except I wasn't even late for my period yet with DS and my aunt was calling to tell me congrats.
She knows better now, but I felt the same as you.
that is flipping lamer than lame. I'd be livid. That's why we didn't tell A SOUL - neither of us - until 9 weeks. That was our parents and our siblings. That's it. Thankfully, none of us was on FB at the time...but I have a feeling my mom wouldn't have said anything anyway, no matter how thrilled she was. Everyone else found out around 12 weeks.
That is just so rude of your mother, like it's even her news to share, that's just not right. I'm so sorry Rach.
Thank you guys.
Part of me just feels like an idiot for telling her. I actually wasn't going this time until 12 weeks, but then she visited in November and I thought it'd be kind of hard to hide. My mistake I guess. Next time I won't let her visit.
GRRRR I'm so MAD!
When I saw you at book club, I forgot you were pregnant. You hide whatever bump you may have very well. You looked skinny to me! Must have been that sweater you were wearing.
lol, well thank you!
I actually meant with the nausea and exhaustion and the hormonal emotional basket case type stuff. And the not drinking. That woman is a wine pusher like you wouldn't believe.
This. :-(
Oh no! Not at all. Pretty much all of my friends already know, I think I texted pictures of my positive test to every mom in a 10 mile radius, lol.
Also I talked to her today and she swears she hasn't told family, so hopefully the surprise will still be fun. I think she's been telling people at work, and that's how it leaked to this old friend (she used to work at my mom's firm). Of course you never really know with her, but I'm choosing to believe this so I still get the excitement of sending out the cards
Thanks everyone! I appreciate having a good place to vent