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I cant even concentrate....Please Help

mikesmommy06mikesmommy06
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Hello Ladies,

I have been cruizing the message boards here for a couple of weeks and really need to hear some encouraging words from others that have been where I am. A little history about me...I am 29 years old, I have a beautiful 5 year old son named Michael from a prev marriage. I am currently re-dating the love of my life (Jason). Long story short, we were engaged 7 years ago, we both made some mistakes, after a year we went our seperate ways and I went on to get married and live my life. After 6 years my marriage was over. Eventually, I looked Jason up, we started to hang out and just took it slow. About a month later, he told me that his feelings came flooding back, that he had never stopped loving me and that now that he had me back he was never going to let me go ever again. So I have this wonderful man in mine and my sons lives and things are great. To our surprise, Jason and I got pregnant in June 2011, I was over the moon excited and so happy to finally be doing this with my best friend. We told the world. Sadly at our worlds crumbled at our 8 week visit, there was no heartbeat (they called it a missed m/c). The baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. My body did not natrually pass it and I went on to have a D&C on July 11. I grieved and cried so much, went through all of the motions and eventully started to feel ok. Well to come current, I am 6 weeks 2 days pregnant. I got a BFP on Nov 23, EDD Aug 4-2012 I couldnt believe it. So as of now we havent told too many people, just my parents and some close friends. I am too scared to tell anyone else. My bbs are huge and I have alot of baby bloat and cant even fit in my jeans anymore. Still not telling people at work, but they are starting to notice. My doctors office was drawing my betas/thyroid (Hypothyroidism) every week and they have been going up great, but I am still terrified. On 11-23-9po (BFP) Betas 28, Prog 19.0 11-28 Betas 229 12-2 Betas 865 12-7 Betas 4436. I know my numbers look good but I am still worried. The office said they were going up fine and that we arent going to check them again until my first OB appt on 12-20! I am freaking at every pull and pain, and I actually feel like am going crazy...I can't concentrate at work much less eat. I don't know what to do. I know I have typed alot and I am so sorry, I babble when I'm worried. Please someone set me at ease...

 Melanie  

 

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  • karma79karma79 member

    Congrats on your BFP and welcome to the board!

    First off - what you are feeling is completely normal. After a loss everything changes and once your preg again you will notice nothing will be the same. I found this board really helps with my anxiety as the women here are going thru the same thing and we are a great support to each other.

    Your numbers do look great! And I wish you all the luck with this preg!

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  • candacek31candacek31 member

    Congrats on your BFP!

    And welcome the the crazy world of PGAL.  We have all felt freaked out about subsequent pregnancies and have needed to be talked down here.  This is a great place to be and to have your questions answered. 
    In my experience with this pregnancy, the further along I got, the less anxiety I had.  Now I don't even get nervous before my doctors appts!  Trust that your dr is telling you the truth and try (as hard as it may seem) to enjoy the fact that your jeans don't fit!

    GL and keep us updated on your appt on the 20th!

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  • mikesmommy06mikesmommy06

    Karma,

     

    Thank you so much, that means so much...I guess some days are just worse than others.

    Congrats & Good Luck to you too...I pray the rest of the way is easy sailing for you too Smile

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  • mikesmommy06mikesmommy06
    candace,
     
    You are so right, I think this will be my go to place when I cant go see my doctor every other day lol....I will keep being extatic that my jeans dont fit Big Smile Thank you for the encouragement. I will keep with the PGAL motto as well! I will gladly keep you all updated of course. Thank you
     
    Thanks again for ll the support & many prayers for you on your journey
     
     
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  • BbMang12BbMang12

    Melanie, welcome, and congratulations! I was first pregnant in March - and went in for a early ultrasound at 6w4d, only to be told that my dates could be off because there was only a sac. I miscarried 2 days later...

    I am now 12w4d with another pregnancy and have been suffering lack of concentration too for the past 3 months. I had hoped that it would get easier when they did the early scan at 7w4d.. and we saw the embryo and heard the heart beat! but, i hate to admit it, the worry just hasn't gone away. (i have another scan tomorrow morning... i hope that maybe THIS time, i will be able to trust my body and relax!).

    My advice - easier said than done - relax and remember that THIS pregnancy is in no way connected with your last one. Your numbers look good, and you don't have "logical" reason to worry (like i said - easier said than done!!!). Some tips: concentrate on what is different this time - despite my constant worry, i feel stronger this time, i am calmer. Tell yourself every morning, I AM STILL PREGNANT, and smile - even if that little part of you doesn't believe it yet. do it any how. Before you know it, you will be hearing the heart beat!

    hugs.

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  • chusumchusum member

    Congratulations! We've all been in your place. The only things that kept me sane was just trusting that everything was working appropriately. I knew I had zero control. I know that isn't the best advice, but it was all I could do in my situation.

    Good Luck 


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    2nd BFP 06/26/10 | EDD 02/25/11 | Natural  M/C 07/17/10 | 8w 1d
    3rd  BFP 12/17/10 | EDD 08/24/11 | Natural M/C 12/31/10 | 7w 4d
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  • mikesmommy06mikesmommy06
    I cannot thank you enough for this advise, I am going to take it to heart and use it! I promise. Thank you so much for the encouragement. I will keep you in my T&P as well, my PGAL friends. I will pray for all of you gals to have continued peace as we all go on our own journeys.
     
    Hugs right back at you
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  • mikesmommy06mikesmommy06

    You are right, I have to trust that my body is doing as it should. Just like it did before. I hate not having control! But as you said, its all we can do.

     Thank you so much...Good Luck to you as well

     

     

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  • mikesmommy06mikesmommy06
    BbMang12
     
    I am replaying your message and Im going to try my best to focus on this pregnancy and not the last. I will live by the PGAL motto. Please let me know how your scan goes...I hope it sets you at ease a little more, even its only a little bit.
     
    BIG HUGS
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  • Eris-AlexisEris-Alexis

    Welcome and congratulations!  What you are feeling is totally normal and we have all been there.  Just keep reminding yourself that everything looks great and there is no reason to suspect that anything is going to go wrong with this LO.  Tell yourself "Today I'm pregnant and I love my baby".  And when you have a really hard day, remember that we are all here for you and have been there.

    I hope you find lots of comfort and support here, and am wishing you a happy, healthy and uneventful 9 months. 

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