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January 2012 Moms
UO Thursday anyone?
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Re: UO Thursday anyone?
I was one of the ones who asked for a FB invite recently and didn't get one. Fine, whatever. Not the first time in life I've been told no and it won't be the last. Do I think that the situation could have been handled differently, of course. But I think thats besides the point. I'll continue to lurk and post here. No biggie.. I like this group of ladies even if I'm not considered one of the regulars or whatever. I read through the posts I want and just ignore the others. To each their own whether it be TB, FB or even a book outside!
The choice was given months ago and those people chose not to join at that time. Just like I choose to post and comment on a public forum.
I still post over here sometimes because this is where we all started out and I do still keep up with some of you ladies that I remember reading about when I first joined. Despite what you think, I feel that a lot of the FB girls still do care about TB girls and we still consider ourselves Bumpies. It's how we met.
BFP #1 5/07/11, DS 01/19/12
BFP #2 08/09/12, M/C 08/10/12
BFP #3 10/30/12, EDD 07/11/12...please stick!
Everyone here had a choice to join. And please don't generalize, if you go back and re-ready my post you will see that I was not "talking crap on" anyone. I post a sunday ticker change post every week and participate when I feel like I am helpful. As for the PP who said we write on each other's walls, it doesn't work that way. It's a private group, like a message board, no one but the members of the groups can see the posts and none of us have to be friends with each other so we can't see any kind of private information, other than our names.
THe reason I post there more often is because it's easier to do it from my phone. If I am no longer welcome here, then please tell me so and I won't post here anymore. There are other bump boards I still post on and will continue to post on but I certainly wouldn't want to feel like I'm intruding on this board.
You said it sister!! My god, this is sooooo lame. If you wanted to join the group and didn't and now they won't let you, get over it and just post on here. I personally think there are many wonderful women here and I frankly didn't even notice that all these people stopped posting on here so they couldn't have been that great to begin with.
And in reality, once LO gets here, you aren't going to have enough time to spend on these websites to really care if your part of some group or not.
I think its time for everyone to go to their separate corners and leave well enough alone. This stupid argument is way too high school for a bunch of soon-to-be mothers to continue.
You are still welcome here! And I'm not even a FB group member!
BFP #2- 2/1/11,bleeding- 2/6/11, natural m/c @ 5wks
BFP #3- 4/29/11 - DS born 12/31/11
TTCAL buddies with LilMaggs and psumel13
Mrs.Leanna - You are most definitely not intruding and please continue posting here. I don't think its fair to generalize everyone based on the 2 or 3 people who stirred this sh!t pot. I do sometimes wish people put this much effort into a real argument though, something more controversial like vaccinations, home births, etc... than to which "he-man woman haters club" people belong to.
I didn't mean to imply that the facebook group wasn't private or secret. I was just commenting on/agreeing with the previous poster on how I don't like facebook in general because I believe the privacy settings definitely give people a false sense of security. On that side ticker thing, it doesn't show your own activity, but if I comment on "Bruce Bigalow's" status or write on his wall and he hasn't changed his privacy settings, every one of my friends can see his wall and what I wrote no matter how private my settings are. I was ok with it until that stupid live ticker thing. Nothing to do with the Jan 2012 group, just why I hate facebook and think its stupid in general. Also (I know its my fault) but I have 632 "friends" who can see this, and out of those, I maybe care about 30 or 40 enough to actually keep in touch with them, but I don't want to delete anyone because I'm afraid I'll hurt their feelings.... Yes... I am pathetic like that
I'm the one who posted on your "FB Group" request threads that we didn't want to take on any new members, so you've all been b!tching to the wrong person. We saw your requests and decided as a group that we didn't want to have any new people on our board. The past 4 or so months we have all grown to know each other, we have become a big group of girlfriends. We talk about everything and it is very comfortable (in my opinion to post on there versus this board simply because ANYONE in the world can see what I post on here). And since it is more comfortable for us to post on there we have opened up to one another. The past two months I have noticed that TB has been slow and that there were a lot of people posting that I didn't recognize since I joined here in May. I haven't posted on here in a long time because of that.
So, basically, if you guys really want to be part of a FB group then create one. They are relatively easy to create and very private. You all seem to have a good relationship with one another already. Don't gang up on our group because you are jealous that you aren't part of it or that you were "too busy" to join. I'm not speaking to all of you TB posters, just the ones who requested to join and are now b!tching about not getting in. Oh, and we have NEVER, EVER deleted someone from our group who isn't an active poster. We do have some lurkers on our FB group and it kind of stinks but whatever.
Dr. Oz is the biggest pot-stirrer EVER! I seriously can't stand that man. I'm sure that some of the information he gives out is important but probably only about 10%. The rest is just making people paranoid and crazy. I guess that's television for you.
I haven't read through all the drama but I feel like I've been a pretty active poster and I think it would sting a little if I asked to join the FB group and was denied. I'm not gonna get all butt-hurt about it though and I haven't asked or tried before this or now so it's my own fault, really. I think the reason a lot of people are trying to join is because things have gotten slow here and we miss you ladies. I will have to say that there seem to be a lot more new faces posting these days! If you guys want to have your own private group then go for it! It's a free internet! But I, for one, miss seeing some of the familiar faces.
ETA: I especially miss seeing all the growing bumps on HDBD
You care so you're denying all the people who ask to join.. makes sense. I guess all of us on TB aren't qualified to be January Moms because your little clique won't accept any one else. I'm over this conversation.
Seriously this has gotten effing (If I was on FB I could actually say the F Word) ridiculous. Really it has.
Not that anyone gives a sh!t but I find it so offensive that anyone here has an issue with a private group. We still post here. People come, people go, but I think the regulars are still here. There is no clique, there is no exclusivity. Whatever. No one from the FB group has ever come over here exclaiming to be wonderful or better, it's people from here who have posted repeatedly about that group and have brought it up. I still consider myself part of this board but the way that I'm reading through all these posts it seems like I am not because of the wording used, I'm not quoting directly but I keep reading things like "we're fine here, and we're a great group we don't need them" I don't understand when this because us versus them. As for pointing out 2 or 3 people, we're a group, so it's not 2 or 3 people who make decisions. As for any pot stirring, start from the beginning of this thread to see how the pot was stirred.
I think if you are due in January you are January mom. I have nothing against anyone due in January or any other month for that matter. This is the first time I've ever seen any drama on this board or any resemblance of sides being taken. I would like to point out that it was people on TB, not from the FB group, who started this us against them idea. I think you've seen several posts from fellow FB'ers who have stated that they still come over here and post. So to us it's not us against them it's just Jan moms. We're not drawing the line in the sand, you are.
Frankly, I take offense to the fact that you think that I do not care about people on here. First off, you don't know me. You've never taken the time to get to know me so what right do you have to comment on who I care about. Secondly, I think you have the misconception that I was the one that decided that the FB group would no longer accept new people. It was not solely me, it was a group decision.
Just because we decided not to accept lurkers or people who previously stated they wanted no part of FB does not mean we don't care. I think the fact that we are still discussing this matter shows that we still care. If we didn't we'd just ignore the posts and not feel the need to comment. We're not stirring the pot, we're not trying to keep up drama, we're trying to get the point across that we still care.
I hope that you and everyone else is done with this. I am tired of constantly defending the FB group while some posters on here attack it and us personally.
BFP #1 5/07/11, DS 01/19/12
BFP #2 08/09/12, M/C 08/10/12
BFP #3 10/30/12, EDD 07/11/12...please stick!
Apologies MrsLeanna. That sounded bad. It was not directed at you in any way, I should have had a space after the first period. I know you're an active poster on this board, and your input is most definitely valued. The only thing I meant to say to you was please continue to post, and you are always welcome here. Period.
Its an open public board, anyone is free to join, post, lurk whenever they want!! This is why I chose this board, and really have no interest in the facebook one.
By the 2-3 people, I meant that a whole entire group (bump, fb, whatever) shouldn't be generalized by the comments of 2 or 3 people. I did, unfortunately, read it from the start and it seriously made my head hurt so I skipped over a lot. As for the pot stirring... at least a few people were trying to stir the pot to get a rise out of everyone, to get attention from other sites.Mission accomplished
Personally, I much prefer the skittles and unicorns that this board is usually made up of, but if something like this has to come about once in a while, so be it.
I'd say most of the complaints about the facebook group last week were from people who were a part of the group and just didn't like the way it is formatted or something. I don't even remember anyone complaining about not being a part of it until today. I've been here since May, changed my sign in name this summer to remain anonymous. I remember the first facebook idea post, and had no desire to join then, no desire to join now. Never had anything against anyone who is part of the group. Anyways, I really don't care and I'm just happy that today was my last day of work and I have all sorts of time on my hands now!!
I'd just like to throw out there that I agree with Tracilaroo. My biggest "complaint" about the FB group is that it's taken away a lot of posts that used to be here (posts, not postERS) and now I feel out of the loop with women that I felt a bond with. I haven't heard how Legal's LO is doing, and I don't know if it's because she's on FB or if it's because she is busy. How are all the women with GD or pre-e handling things? Wasn't there a big scare with Kaydee? That type of thing. I also miss seeing the growing bumps.
And FWIW, I think the line was drawn in the sand when the FB group was closed off to January 2012 bump members. Does it bother me? A little. But I used to be a part of the group and couldn't keep up, so I made the decision to leave. Was it stupid? Maybe. But I always assumed I could join back up if the TB ever became that dead. The reality that I can never be a part of the group again is a bit to take, but I assume it's the hormones!
To all the FBers- I hold nothing against you. I hope you continue to post here... and for pete's sake- LET'S SEE THOSE BUMPS NEXT WEEK!
I post actively on FB, and occasionally on TB, but i'm staying out of this argument. I did want to respond though and tell you that Legal is not on the Facebook group, but she does occasionally give updates on the Preemie Board. Between the FB moms and the TB moms (since I guess there's a divide) there have already been about 22 biths. Crazy, right?
Totally understand
And thank you for letting me know! I am always thinking about the January mama's who have already given birth. I didn't realize it was 22 already. Wow!
It's pretty crazy! It started with ChenoaF, May524, and Jho, and then they just kept on comin'. :-)
This X 10,000!!!!
Nicely said