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Can I vent? (long, sorry)
I'm frustrated and I know this time next week none of this will matter but I need to vent.
In July, about a month before I had DD, I was up for a promotion/new job. I got offered it over other co-workers who were technically "above" me so it made a few waves, but things got sorted out pretty easily. I was not excited about being a WM but my DH wasn't working for a great company at the time so we had no choice financially. Well, about a week later he got a great job offer, and he started that job before I had DD. He made more money, but we still weren't thinking I'd be able to SAH. While I was on leave, he got an unexpected raise...this made me not having to work possible, but tough. I was relatively excited about my new position and we weren't sure exactly if we could make it work so I came back to work at the end of October. Pretty quickly I realized I 1) had no desire to be away from DD if I didn't have to and 2) while it would be tough, with daycare and gas costs, it's definitely possible for me to SAH. I knew that my one coworker who applied for my new job and didn't get it in July would apply again and likely get it. So I put in my notice last Monday. I knew my boss would be sad/upset, but I thought he'd kind of understand. He doesn't. At all. He won't speak to me, he keeps sending his secretary as a messenger, he wouldn't even give me the time of day when I was putting in my notice and made some smart remark about how he "had" to do interviews now, and seemed upset I was "only" giving him a little more than 2 weeks notice, etc. Also, today I found out the higher-ups are "placing" someone in this position w/o doing interviews so I'm bummed for my other coworker who I thought they'd give the job to, but she seems ok with it. Anyways, I just walked by my mailbox and someone deliberately ripped my name off my mailbox. 
The only person I know who is upset by my leaving is my boss, who has been acting so immature lately. Literally every single other person (I mostly work with moms and grandmas) has come up to me and said they'll miss me but I'm doing the right thing. My boss's behavior just reiterates that this is not a place I want to work while I have a young baby anyways, but I'm hurt. He's always given me great reviews, seemed to really like me, etc. and now I feel like it's come down to I'm choosing my baby over my job. Of course I am! Ugh. Anyways, I just needed to vent..I don't really know how clear I'm even being, there's lots of stuff he has said and done before I was even pregnant that made it clear he's not a family man and has his priorities in the wrong place...but I hate that after spending the last 3.5, almost 4 years here that this is how I'm being treated. I don't feel like I did anything "wrong". I know they're upset I'm leaving, but I couldn't of anticipated any of this happening when I accepted this new job in July. Sigh.
Did I mention I can't wait until the middle of next week when I get to be a SAHM?! 
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Re: Can I vent? (long, sorry)
That sucks and it's incredibly petty on his part.
Do you have the kind of relationship where you'd be able to talk to him and confront him on his behavior?
I turned in my notice yesterday and I'm sort of bracing myself for any backlash. My boss has been great, but I'm worried about other people in my dept.
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people are such assholes.
Just as a "not burning bridges" exercise, I'd probably go up to him privately - at the end/beginning of the day and w/o making a big production about it, say you are sorry to be leaving them and leaving them in the lurch, but really want to be at home w/ your baby right now.
Yeah that's exactly what I did/said when giving him my notice, and I left a really nice resignation letter too. And on my last day since I doubt he will speak to me, I'm going to suck it up and be the bigger person and go into his office and thank him for all the opportunities and blah blah blah.
Thanks for the feedback though guys, at least I know I'm not being overly sensitive about it. I seriously want to cry! I have never loved my job but for the most part have enjoyed my workplace, so I'm sad that this is the way it's coming to an end.
My manager was pretty upset when I turned in my notice (while on leave) but had anyone treated me in this manner I would have pulled them aside or said something to HR. Anyway, you have a few more days and then you can be with you sweet girl! SAH is awesome! Can't wait til I can do it again.
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I am so sorry- and I think it's total BS how your boss is reacting.
As far as burning bridges, I think your boss is the one who should be concerned about that, not you.
Since I've gotten the new job, I moved offices and have kind of determined that the general consensus around the building is that he is a d-bag. I'm trying to get over it, I care too much about what he thinks...And I won't have to be here soon enough.
Also, I just re-read my posts and man did I use quotes a lot...I was reading them as finger quotes in my head. lol.
miscarriage on 11/26/09 at 5w6d