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Update for d&c at 12-13 weeks

javanutjavanut member
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I had my d &c yesterday after learning our baby died between 12 and 13 week. The miscarriage just a week after having an perfect nt scan complete with crazy movements, good measurements and a strong heartbeat.

As an reply to my earlier post was correct, it was actually a d&e because of gestational age.physically, the process was not as bad as I was fearing. Im glad I went that route although emotionally it was very rough.

We arrived at the hospital and all I could think is I should be coming here in June to have my baby. Got checked in and waited for a long time in a crowded waiting room. I kept trying to tell myself  not the worst tragedy here today.  My husband overheard a woman saying she was there for a second opinion on whether her breast cancer tumor was operable and if there was a chance to save her life.my tears flowed almost constantly all day. I was also scared of surgery since I've never had general anesthesia before. The worst was I had to tell the anesthesiologist why I has there and how far along I was. I broke down. A sweet nurse confided she had two miscarriages but WARNING DD MENTIONED added that my daughter needed a sibling. SHUT UP LADY.

I have vague memories of saying something insulting about the OR not being impressive looking as they put me under. Oops. Sorry.

The next thing I member is waking up in post op. my uterus felt like it was angry and burning. The nurse put morphine in my IV and it went away. After an hour total in recovery I was able to get up get dressed and leave. I haven't needed pain medicine since. I think I'm just lucky in that regard.

I was looking forward to crashing last night, but I've been struck with insomnia. I don't know if it is mental or physical. Tried to numb my brain with tv but kept stumbling across baby shows. Even Friends was the one where Rachel gives birth.

I go back to work tomorrow. My husband worked today. I feel bad for him because one of his work friends is pregnant. She announced her pg the second it happened and it has been a topic at lunch conversation in his group. No one knew we were pregnant. She is due about seven weeks after what was to be our due date.

I did tell my mom and she was a godsend. At first i didnt want to burden her. But she had 3 miscRriages herself and knew what not to say. I know the coming weeks will be a roller coaster of emotion. Today I just cant figure out what to do with myself. Nothing feels right. Can't sleep. Don't feel like cleaning. Can't concentrate enough to read a book. 

Sorry to ramble. 

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Re: Update for d&c at 12-13 weeks

  • katharine25katharine25 member

    I'm glad things went well with the D&E. This is a very difficult time, but truly it does  get just a bit better each day. I'm so glad your mother was there for you, I know I never would have made it through mine without her by my side.

     

     

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    BFP#2 3/13/12 Weird CP/Possible EP @ 6w0d
    BFP#3 5/28/12 CP @ 5w0d
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  • itsmevkbitsmevkb member

    I'm so sorry for you loss and hope your return to work isn't too bad.  I experienced a loss at 14 weeks, after a strong heartbeat and a great nuchal scan, and I was actually induced as my doctors refused to perform a D&E. 

    Losses are hard.  Be kind to yourself.

    Kelly, Mom to Christopher Shannon 9.27.06, Catherine Quinn 2.24.09, Trey Barton lost on 12.28.09, Therese Barton lost on 6.10.10, Joseph Sullivan 7.23.11, and our latest, Victoria Maren 11.15.12

    Secondary infertility success with IVF, then two losses, one at 14 weeks and one at 10 weeks, then success with IUI and then just pure, crazy luck.  Expecting our fifth in May as the result of a FET.

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  • A2010BA2010B
    I am so sorry for your loss but glad that it is behind you. It is very hard to focus or concentrate. Just do what you can. For me getting out of the house to run a few errands helps, but I can only do 2-3 before wanting to be home again.
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  • javanutjavanut member
    Thank you very much for your kind words. This board has been a blessing.
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  • bananersbananers member

    I am so sorry for your loss. Even though our loss was much earlier than yours, I could relate to so much of your post, right down to the June baby, nurses saying stupid things, babies/pregnancies on every TV channel and the pregnant coworker (my coworker's due date is 5 days after what would have been ours and they announced way early too - just two days after we found out our baby died around 8 weeks).

    I really hope you have a quick recovery, both physically and emotionally. It's not an easy thing to deal with, to state the obvious, but you're in good hands here. This board has been so helpful for me. ((Hugs))

    BFP #1 10/6/11 | EDD 6/15/12 | MMC 11/7/11 @ 8w3d | D&C 11/14/11

    BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13

    BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15

    BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d

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  • miso879miso879
    so sorry to hear for your loss. i also had a dnc, today has been 6 weeks since, and my experience was very similar. it was so hard to tell the drs at the hospital why i was there, and how far along i should have been, and when we lost the baby. i think they ask that to make sure you understand what is going on. my family was so supportive, and it was hard since my sister is preg with her 3rd baby, and i also had a friend just give birth a few weeks ago. it will get easier, you just have to keep on going through your daily routines. soon, the bad days will turn into just bad moments, and for me i have found that this board, and close friends, have really helped. although i am not ready to consider trying again in the near future, the thought if it isnt as painful as it was.
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