My husband is a United States Marine currently deployed in Afghanistan
he first got deployed when i was 6 months pregnant, and he was able to be at the hospital the day our daughter was born. He surprised me and showed up at the hospital a few hours after she was born. that's probably the best surprise in the world, i was very upset that i didn't think he was going to be there. this leaves me a single mother home alone with my 6 month old daughter. Its starting to get more and more lonely. I miss him oh so much. I used to get to talk to him all the time pretty much daily, but he has been very busy lately which means i don't get to talk to him as much as i have came a custom to.
Re: Hubby deployed
Idk if you have a way to get a hold of them or if you are already friends with some, but before my husband's unit deployed, all of us wives set up a support group on FB. In fact there is one for the whole unit and another one for just his company. The one for the unit includes other wives, fiances, and gfs. The one for his company is for all family members. My husband ended up in an accident during training and didn't deploy, but the wives have regular outtings together, playdates with their kids, and do a party every month as a so many month down, so many to go party.
I know that if my husband was gone, this would be a TREMENDOUS help for me. My friends (other wives) are 100% there for me with my husband being here, so I know it'd be the same if he wasn't here.
Maybe you can do something similar. Maybe not on such a large scale (each of the groups have 100+ people), but setting playdates and just time for you to get together with other people going through the same thing. Also, I know they often babysit and such for each other so that if they need some alone time they can get it.
This. It honestly bugs me when people assume having my husband deployed is equal to me being a single mom. I've been a single mom before and it sucks far more knowing that I am completely on my own and have no one to support me. Your H is still involved in your lives, he's just far away. Do you have to woman up and take care of everything at home on your own? Yep. It sucks, but it's what we do.
My best advice is to build a support system around you. Make friends with ladies who have kids the same age as yours and older than yours. My friends are my life line. We lean on each other. We vent to each other. We help clean others houses. We play Dance Central until late at night.
You can do this. Ask for help when you need it. Don't feel sorry for your self. Mope around here and there, but don't wallow in it. Pick your self up and drive on. Your H is missing you. He's missing watching his baby grow. When I say he's in a world of crap, I mean he reall is surrounded by crap. It's on the walls of houses. It's on the street corners. The whole place smells like crap and dirty butt. He needs to know that you've got this at home. Be strong. If you don't think you are, fake it till you make it.