Tuesday Confessions?
bostonbluejay
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Friday seems so far away...
Mine is that I think the Great Sperm Race is...I don't know how to say it. Fear mongering? Or has that effect on people. Or is used in that way a lot of times here on TB. People always say, "Oh just make your husband watch The Great Sperm Race and he'll understand how difficult it really is or how long it can take to get pregnant."
I'm not saying the video isn't true or scientific or factual. But, I feel like it gives people the notion that TTC in general is more difficult than it truly is. For some it truly IS difficult, but I'm talking about the people who are on month two and watch the video and are all "ZOMG, how does anyone ever get pregtastical?!?! I gotta talk my husband into ditching the BC early because it is going to take forevar to get KU!" I think it scares perfectly healthy people into believing that it is harder than it is. The video makes it kind of seem like our bodies are working against conception from the get go.
Just my two cents...
Re: Tuesday Confessions?
"Pregtastical" is my new favorite word. This is the closest I could come to finding an image of a pregnant unicorn (that wasn't some how softcore porn) to proper honor this word.
I don't disagree.
Curiosity: Conception to Birth on Discovery Health did the exact same thing. Spent the first 20+ minutes talking about how the vagina & cervix was like the bowels of hell to sperm. Made me feel like I had a war going on between my legs. My vagina armed with flame throwers and machine guns while poor unsuspecting sperm were picked off by the 1000s.
I'll play
When I buy clothes now, I will only get them if I think I can still wear them when I'm pregnant.
LMFAO. I just got a glorious mental picture.
There's a My Little Pony I don't think I'd ever want to buy my kids.
I intentionally didn't watch TGSR because of that very line of thought while we were first TTGP. I watched it after I got KU and was in awe that I was ever able to conceive. And then I m/c, and really wished I hadn't watched it, because I definitely feel far more paranoid about our odds.
I can haz a confession too? I'm already planning my hair and makeup for my BIL's wedding. I don't like his fiancee and I want to look hotter than her. *hangs head in shame*
I may get flamed for this, but I don't think temping/charting is necessarily helpful. Yes, it is a good way to understand your body in general, but I don't know if it actually is helpful in getting pregnant. I've seen quite a few people on here say that in their BFP cycle they stopped temping and just used OPKs. For some, I think it leads to over-thinking and over-stressing, which can lead to difficulties.
I didn't chart at all during my BFP cycle, just used OPKs. Granted, that one didn't stick, but I don't think in the future I'm going to chart unless my cycles are wonky for a while. Then, I'll stop once they seem to have stabilized. For me, it just isn't worth it.
And I agree with The Sperm Race viewpoint.
Dx: Feb '13 - HSG shows clear tubes but minor diverticulitis; Borderline DOR; Low DHEA and low testosterone.
Moving on to IUI or IVF.
We've got a peen.....it's a boy!
Little man born 11.17.2013 via c-section
I might have also been doing this the past few months. I think about 1/2 the clothes I got since TTC were once I though I could wear until at least mid 2nd tri.
HAHA it's like the Hunger Games.
Falling in Love! November 2014
Omg I'm the same way!! Seriously. I just bought 2 pairs of pants for work.... From Thyme Maternity.
On the flipside: we tried for about 5 cycles with no luck at all. I started temping and got three BFP's in 5 cycles/charts. It made a difference to me. Now, charting didn't help me stay pregnant at all...but it helped me to get pregnant.
Oh please say it can so I have some hope haha. I have a similar confession - I googled "Can you still get a BFP after getting a BFN at 12dpo"
Falling in Love! November 2014
Hahahaha. I love it.
My confession is I'm pretty sure I made the wrong career choice but now feel like I'm stuck with it. I think I'd be happier doing something else (although I know the grass is always greener on the other side), but I don't even know what. All I know is I need to make some sort of change. Everything just seems very uncertain right now.
First round of Clomid in May 2012= BFP #1, DD born January 2013
BFP #2 in January 2014, DS born September 2014
haha...love this!!!
No flames. I've done this twice. I spray tanned & drove into the city to a makeup artist to make sure that I looked tip top. I also stuffed my dress to make sure I had some boob.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one. I'm planning to do false eyelashes and go buy some new makeup from the MAC counter so that I can do it up big. Might even break out the pushup bra. Haha.
I probably didn't articulate what I said too well, but this is what I was alluding to. I guess I meant that once you can tell if you O around the same time, continuing to temp may not be the deal breaker in getting pregnant moving forward. I totally agree it gets you to see what is happening, but after a certain point, I'm just not sure it matters unless things start to seem off. I don't think it is a bad thing at all, just seems like another layer of anxiety/stress - that is my personal experience/opinion.
Dx: Feb '13 - HSG shows clear tubes but minor diverticulitis; Borderline DOR; Low DHEA and low testosterone.
Moving on to IUI or IVF.
We've got a peen.....it's a boy!
Little man born 11.17.2013 via c-section
I am so in the same boat. Today was my FF test date but because of my dip I didn't test today. I am driving myself crazy by looking at my chart a million times. I am even to the point of wondering was my O date actually 3 days later? I guess I just have to wait and see. FX for you ladies.
According to my makeup girl MAC #10 eyelashes are the most versatile & natural looking. I wear them every time I need to get my pic taken & love them to pieces.
UGH this is the worst part of the cycle. I'm afraid to use the bathroom! FX for both of you as well!
Falling in Love! November 2014
Haha everyone's responses are good. I am guilty of a lot of them including that TGSR scared the crap out of me & I kind of wish I didn't watch it. I am also guilty of getting on this site & FF entirely too much at work and obsessing over my chart. This cycle I had a huge temp dip & am guilty of praying it's an implantation dip even though I know it probably isn't!
My Ovulation Chart
DX: DH (30) severe MFI, severely low count & low motility
Me (32): all clear
Appt with Urologist 5/21/12: exam, ultrasound, bloodwork all normal.
Testicular Biopsy with TESE on 6/8/12. good sperm found! (left side only) froze sperm, failed thaw test
Orientation for IVF/ICSI on 6/13/12. Waiting for the green light following biopsy results...results show adequate sperm production both sides.
2nd SA 6/18/12: sample is "adequate for ICSI"
Plan: IVF/ICSI July 2012!
ER: 7/26/12. 15 eggs retrieved, all mature.
TESE/TESA/aspiration from epididymis, no motile sperm found
froze all eggs, the saga of praying for good sperm continues.
8/3/12: 2nd opinion from MFI uro on biopsy slides. Suspects "partial late maturation arrest."
Plan: more SAs, third biopsy/TESE with frozen back-up either from DH or DS.
SA 8/17/12: Zero sperm
SA 8/23/12: Zero sperm
9/26/12: SPERM FOUND! 15 eggs thawed, 12 survived and were ICSI'd, only 3 fertilized normally. Refrozen as embies and will thaw in Nov. Please survive and grow!
All 3 survived the thaw on 11/15/12!
FET 11/17/12: transferred 2, one 4B, one 4C. Beta 11/30:BFFN
moving on to DS
DIUI#1 2/18/13,50mg Clomid cd 3-7, Ovidrel trigger, Beta 3/4/13: BFN.
DIUI#2 3/19/13, 50 mg Clomid cd 3-7, Ovidrel trigger, Beta #1 (14dpiui) 4/2/13: BFP!!!! 150. Beta #2 4/4/13: 420 Beta #3 4/8/13: 2691. Beta #4 4/15/13: 15,086
1st u/s 4/8/13 shows one gestational sac
2nd u/s 4/15/13 shows yolk sac, fetal pole and early heartbeat
3rd u/s 4/25/13: measuring right on track. Heart rate 148 bpm
A/S 7/22/13: IT'S A BOY!!
PAIF/SAIF Always Welcome
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This morning I actually stashed a tampon in the shared work bathroom for this very reason.
Our Baby Boy is due September 8, 2012
Pretty much all of this. I'm stuck because I eventually want to be a SAHM and don't know if that will be practical depending on when I get KTFU. I also don't want to change jobs because I don't want to go somewhere else and possibly not have maternity benefits (since I haven't been there for a year). I know we all wish that we could just push a button and see into the future.
9.6.12 - Crazy J entered the world
4.30.14 - Sweet Angel Micah John lost to T18 at 7 months pregnant
2.8.16 Miscarriage at 6 weeks
4.30.16 BFP *stick baby stick*
My Age - 41, DH's Age - 42
Dx: Endometriosis, Stenosis of the Cervix, Uterine Polyp, Hostile CM and Borderline PCOS
Stage 1 Endo and Uterine Polyp removed and Cervix widened on July 9, 2012.
IUI #1 Clomid 50 mg - 3/6/13 BFN
IUI #2 Clomid 50 mg - 4/3/13 BFN
IUI #3 Clomid 50 mg - 10/4/13 BFN
IUI #4 Clomid 100 mg + HCG trigger - 11/2/13 BFN
Cycle #28 - Clomid 100 mg + HCG trigger + TI (IUI #5 cancelled) - 2/5/14 BFN
IUI #5 Clomid 100 mg + HCG trigger - 3/5/14 BFN
Hahahaha I think that is awesome!
I confess that I do not think I'm going to chart anymore. I'm obviously not the type of person who can chart and then forget about it. I'm a psycho in the 2ww. I wonder if "this is our month!" the entire. two.weeks. It's exhausting and not doing anything for my mental well being. I've been doing it for 15 cycles now. I know around when I should ovulate and will still do OPK's.
Ok, enough of me trying to talk myself into quitting...
IUI #1=BFN
IUI #2=BFP! Beta#1:87 Beta #2:1050
~It's a GIRL!~
"Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength."
Our Baby Boy is due September 8, 2012
my currently-reading shelf:
I confess that I've been stalking you ladies for the exact same reason. I'm 13dpo and no sign of AF or BFP. I had two BFN but I haven't lost hope. I had a slight temp dip the last two days but nothing below the CH. I googled and read that it can take anywhere from 6-12dpo for implantation and it takes 2 days after for HCG to build up enough in the urine to show on the test.
I confess that I've promised myself that I will not test again until Monday if AF doesn't show.... but I'm already silently planning in my head to test this Friday. I'm WEAK!
Harper Grace 08.31.12 Sibling Expected 08.30.15
Aug 2015 - January Siggy Challenge - Fav mean girl from TV/Film
Ellie from CougarTown
I never quite understood the reasoning behind waiting to TTC again. I have yet to start bleeding from this loss but our RE said he saw no reason to delay TTC. We will likely jump right in again. I am 7w.
"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies."- Aristotle
Hugs. I am sorry you are having a rough day. CD1 sucks.
I hope you're hanging in there. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Our Baby Boy is due September 8, 2012
We just found out how much our Christmas Bonuses will be and while we're not allowed to talk about the number, I am dying to know what other people got. At the same time though, it would kill me to no end to hear of those who got more (or much more) than me.
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
I have also done this, I even bought a pair of maternity jeans the cycle before I got pg last time because they were so flipping cute and I didn't want to not be able to find them again after.
Well, I just went to the bathroom and guess who showed up? Oh the irony...