misbehaving at school

Re: misbehaving at school

• shouldbworkin

  November 2011

  I would talk to the teacher about it.  Maybe create a positive reward system to try to nip this behavior in the bud in school.  This also helps the teacher see her doing good things vs. only bad.  I think sometimes it's a downward spiral with kids.  they start getting in trouble and start to think they shouldn't bother trying to be good b/c the teacher only sees the bad.  Disciplining it at home is kind of pointless, IMO.  It's so far after the fact and doesn't help her think about what she's doing when she's doing it.  But, I would make sure she's getting plenty of sleep and I would remind her of expectations every morning before she leaves in a positive way.  I tell my DS every morning before school to have a great day and that I want to hear good things when he gets home.  We've talked about it so much that he knows exactly what I'm getting at.  If there is specific behavior we're working on, I will highlight that in a positive way, e.g. show Ms. Teacher what a great listener you are today by not shouting out in class and raising your hand first. 
  

  DS1 age 7, DD age 5 and DS2 born 4/3/12

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• StacyADampf

  November 2011

  I have to speak on this from the teacher's perspective.  The behaviors you listed are the ones that are the main causes for a poor learning environment because of disruptions.  I teach jr high where i still have to deal with these same behaviors from 12-14 year olds on a daily basis just with more rudeness behind this.  It bothers me to no end when I call a parent on these behaviors and nothing happens.  My suggestion, tell your daughter was is acceptable and what is not in school and nip it in the bud now.

  

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• MesmrEwe member

  November 2011

  I think your best bet is obviously to be working WITH the teacher on this in order to nip it in the bud early.  Like you said, it's likely tied to the fact that DD is adjusting to a new sibling and trying to find her way in the world and negative attention is better than no attention that she may be perceiving even if you're going overboard to include her in everything for the changes as a family.

  OTOH, you don't want to deal with the type of over-reaction that I had from DD's school at the beginning of the year for some behavior issues that have since resolved themselves or are at the point that the school isn't letting me know...  Either way, I went from "supporting the teacher 99.888% of the time" to "that's your problem" type of parent for what they pulled on me.. 

  

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• babyAutumn member

  November 2011

  Thank you for all your advice.  Being a teacher at the school where my children attend can make it a little tricky.  I have been working with the teacher and things have been improving.  Part of the problem, the teacher noticed, was that my daughter was more disruptive when she was bored.  She is a high achiever and could do the work even when she hadn't listened to the instructions.  The teacher has since given her more challenging work at school and the problem is slowly tapering off.  I have a hard time reprimanding her for talking in class given that it was one of my biggest obstacles when I was in school.  At least she comes by it honestly. 
  

  

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