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XP: guests at kids parties

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OK- so I love birthdays and I throw L a big party (and I'll do the same for X)- now I invite my family and friends- even those without kids...since life is so busy - sometimes the only time I see these people are at the birthday party (i invite them to other things or text or email but usually this is the only "party")...an aquaintence said this sounds gift grabby to them...

what do you ladies think? I'm just happy to have people come and celebrate my son- so how do I make it sound not about the gifts (and I'm not putting "all we request is the pleasure of your company" - I dont want to deny him ALL gifts)

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Re: XP: guests at kids parties

  • SeptemberBride'08SeptemberBride'08 member

    It's a fine line to walk but I don't think most people look at kids birthday parties as gift grabby. If I got an invite from someone who barely reaches out to me I would probably just not go or send a gift.

    As life changes it's hard to keep certain relationships on the same level due to different responsibilities etc Sometimes a big party like this is the only way to see people because it's the one time they make sure to defiantly attend because it's a birthday and they see that as something not to miss. You can't control them not accepting other invitations to hang out.

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  • ArcticFoxArcticFox member

    I think it depends... it's like if you have a mutual interest in keeping in touch or seeing each other - like pp said, if the host/ess has reached out otherwise. 

    We only invite family and our closest friends to intentionally keep it small, so I end up 'having' to invite people (ILs) that I have practically nagged to get together throughout the year and they don't respond, so I don't really want to invite them to the party because obviously they don't want to make the effort on the other end of the relationship 99% of the time.

    but in reality, if people feel like you're soliciting for gifts, they don't have to come.  You obviously put a lot of effort into your party so its not like you're being cheap, if that makes sense.

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  • jnk062602jnk062602
    imageArcticFox:

     if people feel like you're soliciting for gifts, they don't have to come.

    This is my thought too.  It's an invitation - they can say no. 

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