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Pregnant after a Loss
sgb721
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Encouragement please
sgb721
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Tomorrow we have our second appointment for this pregnancy and I'm nervous to tears.
Quick back story- this is our 4th pregnancy. 1st ended with mmc no heartbeat, 2nd at almost 15weeks due to cystic hygroma and fetal hydrops (discovered at 12week nt scan) and 3rd at 9weeks due to cystic hygroma and fetal hydrops.
Genetic testing says all babies were fine. Cystic Hygroma is 1-100,000 chance per pregnancy- yet we've fallen into that category twice.
As our 1st appointment has always gone well, its the second appointment that goes south, I'm nervous.
I'm stuck in a guilt cycle. I"m afraid to get my hopes up and then I'm upset because I don't want to not be excited and positive for my baby, but I'm afraid. I was in tears about an hour ago because I'm so conflicted.
I know I'm not a 'regular' on here, and I don't comment a lot but I could really use some positive thoughts if you have any to spare. I don't comment a lot because as with most of you, there's a part of my soul that doesn't want to be a part of this board, doesn't want any of us to be a part of this board.
Thanks ladies!
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Re: Encouragement please
BFP #2 11/3/10; BO at u/s 10w6d 12/16/10; Natural MC 1/7/11; D&C 4/21/11
BFP #3 10/27/11 Please stick, LO!! 2/6/12 It's a Girl! Alexis Grace born 6/29/12
BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!! 8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15
"Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow, that is patience." Let it Be (blog) ♥ My BFP Charts
This time I'm not leaving without you.
~Started TTC 2/09. BFP #1 11/09. EDD 8/7/10. DS born 8/7/10.~
~Surprise BFP #2 5/11 while still BF'ing. Natural M/C @ 7w3d.~
~BFP #3 8/11. EDD 4/24/12. Heavy bleeding episodes from a lost twin. DD born 4/14/12.~
~Started TTC 2/13. BFP #4 3/13. EDD 11/8/13. Hoping for smooth sailing!~
Suddenly the world seems such a perfect place.
Suddenly it moves with such a perfect grace.
Suddenly my life doesn't seem such a waste,
It all revolves around you.
Child #1 June 2012
Child #2 Feb 2014
Child #3 Feb 16
BFP 3/9/17
Sending thoughts and prayers your way (((HUGS)))
T's and P's for your appointment and for your nerves too.
I can assure you that you aren't the only one in this wonderful group of women that would give the world not to be a part of it. We all would. And we all understand the different levels of guilt too.
I am so sorry for all of your losses I can not imagine how nervous you are for this upcomming appt. I truly hope this LO is your take home baby.
And just remember, just because you are scared to get your hopes up or not excited doesn't mean you are ab ad mom or that you don't love your LO's. You are scared and that is normal!! I mean I cried and my knees shook on my way down the isle but it didn't mean I didn't love and want my husband to be. It mean I was scared of the unknown. So are you and that is ok. FX for an amazing appt. and please update us!!