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Had a Total Breakdown Last Night
So yesterday was a very bad day. Things have just been building and building in my life and finally I lost it. I ended up sitting on my floor crying as hard as I think I have ever cried for about 20 minutes. It takes me a lot to get to this point, but things just got there. Bascially I have had a horrible sinus headache for almost 2 weeks now and no matter what home remedy I try nothing is making it go away, Advil masks the pain for about an hour and then it returns. My washing machine broke about 10 days ago, the parts finally arrived to fix it and the repair man showed up and opened the boxes and one of the parts was damaged by UPS, so now another part has to be shipped and will not arrive until Tuesday because of the holiday and my girls and I have been trapped in the house for the past 2 days because on Monday we had to wait all day for UPS to show up with the parts, they had to signed for and then Tuesday waiting all day for the repair man to show up to install the parts. So again I have to spend another day at a friends house washing my clothes and waiting for them to dry before I can go home. Stressing me out because my potty trained girls (trained with like almost no accidents for 6 months) have picked this time to regress and going through about 6 pairs of panties a day plus new pants each.
Most of you probably have heard me mention that my DH is military and is only home 3 days a month, his position requires 90% travel. But as time has gone by I have gotten used to it because as the girls have grown up and have gotten easier to handle on my own I guess I have just adapted and dealt with the day to day stresses on my own. Anyway, I have a hard time asking for help from my friends and family. They are all busy leading their day to day lives and I feel like I am imposing to ask for them to come give me a break some evening. Usually my SIL gives me a night out with my friends all by myself at least once a month, but she has been traveling this past month and hasn't been able to do it, so I guess I have gone way past my point of needing a break. Last night I called my BFF because she and her DH are off work this week and I told her I needed her to come to my house because I couldn't deal with the girls anymore for the day and I was just done. She came over and took over and got them calmed down (they were bouncing off the walls for hours) and put into bed. Then we had a really long discussion about asking for help. And I agree with her that I do need to ask for help more and to stop taking on the role of the dutiful military spouse that can handle the stress of life alone most of the time without any help.
Don't really know the point to this post, I guess other than needing some encouraging words from my fellow MoM's. And to say it is ok to cry some days because it is a relief and that is why our bodies do it and to ask for help. Today is looking up, DH comes home this afternoon and is here until Monday, although I still have a raging sinus headache and a broken washing machine. But at least I am not sick with the flu or something on top of everything right?
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Re: Had a Total Breakdown Last Night
Oh my! You are dealing with a lot.
*hugs* It's okay to vent and to ask for help. I know, I'm terrible at asking for help!! I just expect others to see me struggling and jump in.
I hope your machine gets fixed soon and you don't catch the flu!
I'm right there with you hon. ((((((HUGS)))))) I get it and empathize..
Have you tried Excedrin Migrain? I rarely have headaches but, man when I do, it wipes them out. Don't take it after about mid afternoon or you'll have a hard time sleeping.
Oh and ask for help! You're probably a great mom but, not superwoman.
Everyone thanks the military service people all the time, but I think we so often fail to acknowledge what the spouses go through here at home. You deserve a big 'ol hug dear! I'm sorry things are rough right now but it sounds like you do realize how much worse it could be (I always tell people not to say it can't get worse - it can ALWAYS get worse!). We all know that life as a MoM is stressful enough, to add on doing it alone and running into other problems certainly doesn't help. I'm glad you called your friend and I hope you are able to realize when it's time to ask for help again, before you get to another breakdown. I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum...I feel like I ask for help too much!!
I hope you have a wonderful thanksgiving with your H home!!!
Oh my Lord, I cry nearly every day, and I don't have nearly as much to deal with as you! I think you are a rock star! I couldn't imagine having DH gone that much. You are certainly one strong woman. Maybe while DH is home, you can go to a laundry mat by yourself and read magazines? I did that when our washing machine was broken last month.
Hugs to you - I hope it gets better!
Oh my! That is quite stressfull and you have handled it a lot better that I would have. I suppose you are used to it like you said bc of your DH travelling.
We all have our moments of breakdown. I had one this past wknd when one of the boys refused to sleep and everytime I thought he was out and I'd put him in crib, he'd wake up again. It was torture for me (I need my sleep). Dh eventually found me on the nursery floor crying while woken baby was crying. Not good.
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