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Liz342
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Anyone with younger LOs that fight constantly?
Liz342
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My LO's fight ALL THE TIME. I seriously mean all the time. DD will be 3 next week and DS just turned 1 1/2. I would say they are both very high energy kids and both quite difficult even by themselves. DD is in the awful stage of age 3 that everyone talks about being a nightmare. DS is 18 months and just in that phase of doing what he wants despite us trying to correct him. (I know this is normal).
These 2 phases do not mesh well at all for us. It started getting bad when DS was starting to be mobile and started taking DD's toys. They both play pretty well separately but together is a nightmare. It's more DS taking DD's toys but DD has quite the attitude and that doesn't help at all. Whatever one has, the other wants. They take each others toy (or ruin the others' block tower or whatever), run away, and the other one screams. This scenario plays out every few minutes in our house. I am dreading DD's bday and Christmas because they will probably fight over all the new toys.
It's gotten so bad I have just had to separate them and make DD play upstairs in her room more often. I honestly see this as the only solution right now. We have tried everything and I mean everything. I cannot reason with either one of them, although DD will listen if I tell her to stop (but then she will eventually go right back to fighting with her brother). DS doesn't listen at all. We do 123 magic with DD and although I'm not sure I believe in time out yet for DS, we have done this a few times with him as he will actually stay put for the entire minute. And of course, we try redirecting first. I have tried talking to DD but it doesn't change anything.
I am at my wits end and it is only getting worse. Anyone else in my boat or have any advice?
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Re: Anyone with younger LOs that fight constantly?
My twins are 5! My baby is 3!
DS#2 - Allergic to Cashew, Pistachio, Kiwi
DS#3 - Allergic to Milk, Egg, Peanut, Tree Nuts and Sesame
Ok, I don't really think this will help you now but maybe latter. My mom was telling me the other day about my brother, sister and I fighting and what she would do. We were all born one right after the other and we never got along or 2 of us would but not with the other. She would have us sit on the coach looking at each other and say 3 or more things nice about each other or something we liked about the other one and then give each other a hug. (We couldn't say anything like you have nice hair, or stuff like that.) So I couldn't be more helpful. I wish you luck.
If it's any consolation, they'll grow out of it... when one or the other moves out of the house!!!
Whatever you do, resist the urge to throw in the towel. Both need to know that you're in charge and that the fighting behavior isn't acceptable for either one of them and they need to learn to get along.