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AlwaysSunny925
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who caused a scene in NICU this morning?
AlwaysSunny925
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I did! I did!
I had to. Baby boy Aiden was desatting for what felt like 20 minutes. He was crying up a storm. He has a bad temper like his daddy, and all the nurses know that he doesn't like being messed with too much. Instead of letting him calm down for a moment, the nurse kept messing with him. As a result he was crying more and more and couldn't catch his breath. Which made him desat even more. When asked by other nurses if she needed help, she said no three times! Clearly she needed help. What made me snap was the last time another nurse asked her what's wrong, she said, "I don't know". Under her breath. I'm sorry but when it's my baby in your hands, do not say "I don't know". If you don't know, ask for help.
So I went outside and got the doctor. I told her my baby is desatting and the nurse isn't asking for help when she clearly needs it. The doctor intervened, along with a few other nurses who saw I was unhappy with what was going on. Aiden is fine and we left to go to work. You better believe I am going to call every two hours to make sure my baby is ok.
I felt bad initially, but you know what? Aiden can't speak up so I have to.
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Re: who caused a scene in NICU this morning?
GOOD FOR YOU!
You did 100% the right thing and don't feel bad at all.
Are you asking for her to be removed from his rotation? I never had to do this but I was lucky that if I didn't like a nurse she amazingly never had my son again (an advantage to being friendly with the scheduling coordinator/nurse).
Hmm, I don't know. Do you think I should? I feel terrible but at the same time I don't feel comfortable with her taking care of my baby. I have to discuss this with my husband. Perhaps it's the best thing to do.
Huge pat on the back to you! Like PP asked, did you ask to have her removed? We had to do it for a nurse when E was in the NICU. She made no effort to "get to know" E and I was extremely uncomfortable with her. It made me feel so much better.
And you should NEVER feel bad for doing what you know is right for LO. I think you did great and you handled the situation really well, not confronting her.
Good for you! I agree with PP's - ask to have her taken off DS's care. Don't feel badly - you did the right thing. It sounds like he gets overstimulated - I'd even have them write that in his notes and/or include on the side of his isolette. It's a special care instruction. If your primary is ever out of the room/on break that's valuable info for whichever nurses to know.
I agree with all of this.
BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.
Good for you! You are right-you have to stand up for both boys, its one of the most important things you can do for them right now.
And I agree with everyone else. Talk to the charge nurse and have that nurse taken off both boy's rotation. I was really nervous about this the first time I did it (had to do it twice) but it turns out it was not a big deal at all. In one case, the charge nurse didn't even ask why. Think about it this way-you are going to be freaked out all day long about what kind of care Aiden is getting from her. You don't want any more days like that. If nothing else, you need to be able to trust the nurses who are with your baby when you can't be.
Good luck! Let us know how it goes
Our precious girl, born at 27 weeks.
Honestly, I am soooo proud of you for speaking up. You are an amazing mom, and so glad you spoke up.
My husband and I had a similar type of nurse, but she was more negative and awful rather than what you went through, which is not what you want to see when you are trusting a nurse to take care of your LO. I wrote a complaint but haven't heard back yet. I regret not speaking to her directly or complaining to a doctor in the moment. So I'm so glad you did that, and you should be proud of yourself.
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That is exactly what I was going to say. I am so proud that you did that!
I had a few moments with nurses that I should have called them out, but I didn't. I did write the manager a long list of things I felt could be improved in NICU and named names when talking about bad nursing calls. But 2 years later, I still really regret I didn't stand up for myself and my child to that nurse while in the moment.
When my son was in the NICU I noticed the tape around his leg looked tight. Like his skin was red and purply..swollen. I didn't think I should say anything to anyone, because who was I to tell them how to do their jobs, but I did end up mentioning it to the nurse and she acted imediatly. It was too tight. She told me not to ever worry about, or be sorry for calling something about my childs health out. She told me no one is perfect and that mistakes happen. I was glad she told me that, because I was so nervous, she would be angry, even tho she didn't tape it.
I hope your babies get big and strong fast. And never feel bac=d about sticking up for them, momma : D
oh what a rough morning, sorry to hear. i do agree with the others ab speaking up and asking for this nurse to no longer take care of your babies. we had to do this twice in our nicu and i am so glad we said smth. i am sure that same nurse would do the same for her child.
while in the nicu i did wonder a lot how some of the nurses work there. our nasty nurse had no feelings, was as cold as a rock. i walked in and she just said hi and was around the babies. when asked if i could hold filip she said oh he is very touchy, might have an infection, he has been turning blue and walked away as if that was not a big deal. i broke down crying and she was in a rush because she had to go transport another baby. i just couldnt help but say smth, needless to say she never touched my kids again.