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dragossoul84
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Tired and so frustrated
dragossoul84
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So I thought we didnt have to travel this thanksgiving, but it looks like I'm going to have to. My dh family hates me it feels like his mom is always coming up with something insulting to say to me. His dad called and said if I wasnt up to it we didnt have to come. Now I find out dh god parents are coming and my dh still hadnt called them to say I wasnt up to it so now I'm getting us ready to go its not like we can cancel this late. I hate it you know I'm beat and I'm super hormonal and I feel like I'm walking into a combat zone. My mil likes to tell people I'm an alcoholic (I stopped drinking in college) and that I married my husband for money but I wouldnt get her money. I don't know what to do I try to be nice I love my husband so much but right now I just want to cry I dont want to drive 6 hours to be the black sheep and I feel like if I opt out I'm being a jerk since everyone is going to be there to see us since this is the first pregnancy in the family
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Re: Tired and so frustrated
I'm sorry you're so upset ;(
Personally, I would go... I think not going would be more ammo for them to talk about me negatively... and I wouldn't be there to stand up for myself!
Perhaps DH needs to speak up and come to bat for you, too.
Try to rest up as much as possible, because I've learned that tired + hormones = perfect storm if irritability.
Hey, nobody puts Baby in a corner. Laugh off her comments if you can: "oh, I was sure crazy back in college!" and carry yourself like the mature, strong, self-reliant woman you know you are.
How far will you have to travel? ( Edit: 6 hours i would say no lol! ) I would find it hard to go when family is so rude like that, but I know you want to show good grace and go. My husband's cousin had an engagement party last weekend, like a black tie affair lol, I was feeling terrible that day and my husband said we didn't have to go. I couldnt have been more happy but I know in the back of my mind people in his family probably talked bad about us for not showing up and I feel bad for not going. People need to be more understanding, especially to us terribly sick pregnant women. I don't think they should expect you to come, but just offer if you feel up to it. Good luck to you this week, I know I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut around people like that lol.
I feel for you, I have to go for cousin's wedding in January and it will take us 12 hours drive and DH family some of them are not nice either, but I would suggest just suck it up, and just try to avoid any confrontational as far away as you can and smile all the time, I'm sure it will work out.
I know I probably wont be able to keep my mouth shut too but for the sake of nice relationship with DH family.
could not agree more!! i know you are tired and not into it- but i would show up looking RADIENT! and brush off her snide little comments with humor, hold you head high, shoulders back, chin up and dont let that dragon lady beat you! she is only saying those things she is petty and small, so be the bigger lady, litterally. she is only going to look like a piece of crap for putting down the woman who is carrying her grandchild- trust me.. people WILL see that.. and i'm will bet you will not the only one at that table that has fallen victim to this unhappy woman. hang in there!!