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Is there a board for young mom's to be?:)
Just curious:) I didnt see one! I would like to find someone expecting thats 18-20 years old! I'm 18 and this is my first baby and I just wanted to see how others my age are handling their pregnancy and just other little things! I feel like alot of people here are experienced moms and are old than me lol. Is there anyone out there my age?
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Re: Is there a board for young mom's to be?:)
I understand.
I'm pretty sure there are other moms on here who are closer to your age.
Started back on BC May, 2010; Had last shot on Aug. 2010
TTC starting in November, 2010; Irregular cycles- went to Dr
U/S showed cysts on both ovaries; Diag. Lap on March 1st, 2011
Lap showed that my right fal. tube is centered, instead of to the right
Left fal. tube is disjointed
uterus is tilted and the size of a softball, not a pear.
BFP on 8-30-11, 9-2-11, and 9-4-11.
EDD is May 14, 2012.
Babygirl born on April 16, 2012.
I'm 19 years old and much prefer it here! Babygaga is really p.c. and everyone has the same opinion. There isn't a board for young mums but there are a few out there
There IS the parenting after 35 board...
Welcome!! While I am 29, like other posters have mentioned, I am a FTM.
I understand though that there are a lot of differences in life situations. Hopefully we can all help each other through this exciting, yet strange, journey
yeah.....parenting, meaning your in the process of parenting your child AFTER they are born. Not pregnant after 35.......
There is a board called "Pregnant after 35." I think the difference is that after 35, you're considered "advanced maternal age," so you have to have more tests and they do things slightly differently.
I agree that there is more of a need for a 35+ board because there is more to being pregnant at that age.
I just turned 20 and I'm a single FTM
PM me if you want..
Pregnant after 35:
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/4615072/ShowForum.aspx
For the record, there is also a TTC after 35 board.
I generally think thebump is wildly overrun with 'specialty' boards that get a bit too specific, but there is a point in an 'older' mom's board for pregnancy, and there could be a point in a younger mom's board, as circumstances, monetary situations, and other issues like housing/insurance/school/jobs are generally different for a 18-20 year old than a 28-30 year old.
That having been said, I'm relieved there isn't such a board, because dear god, the trolls would be strong with that one.
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I disagree. Young moms can face harsher judgement, both on these boards and in real life. They are also probably going through similar times in their lives, just like the women on the 35+ boards.
OP - You could try suggesting this to some of the board moderators and see if it gets any traction.
The trolls would be like flies on poop.....totally agree with you on that one.
I do the pregnant after 35 board now too thanks, but I don't see the point in breaking up a pregnancy by age, I mean how would you break it up? And then would you have to move to a different one if you have a birthday and you move to another board? I'm just trying to justify the need for a seperate board because you are "young." Yes, the older than 35 does have a higher chance of having more risks and I can see the usefulness of the board.
Honestly in this current time/climate these problems aren't limited to young women/couples. I know plenty of women on their late 20s still in school/went back to school, have little-to-no insurance and jobs that are less than secure. It's not really all that different when you look at the big picture.
i'm glad there isnt a young moms group. What are a bunch of teenagers going to teach other about being a parent/pregnancy? I was a mom at 17, and i learned everything i know from older peers.
believe me, your in the right place. you'll be learning a lot from one another. I understand the challenges you'll face, but they arent a whole lot different than any other women on here. I wanted to wish you luck and i hope you find the tri boards or your month board a nice comfy home for the remainder of your pregnancy. It's scary being a FTM, it is scarier being a FTM as a teen, but you'll thrive and learn how to do it pretty quickly, just like anyone else
GL to you OP!
There is more to being pregnant at 18 then say 25 as well. Young mums deal with a huge amount of pressure from others and things that older people just don't deal with. I think a young mum is from 16-22. Under 16, you probably shouldn't be on the bump. You deal with so much things at that age especially when you are pregnant and I think it would be nice for a board to exist for young mums where they can go and get help about things that they are dealing with.
I totally agree with you!
But I do also agree with this! My facey group have been a wonderful support network and I love them to bits, but it would be nice to have a place for young mums to talk together and give each other support.
There's a board for moms in their teens here: https://messageboards.gurl.com/gl-teenpreg
Looks like most are in their later teens.
I don't see why there is so much talk of age on TB this time around. ...or did I just miss it last time?
What would your "young ages" be? 14-20 .... after 21 you're old. And the bump may not want to be seen as 'encouraging' young/14 year old pregnancies.
I understand that you just want to be understood for lack of better words. And maybe ask a question with out some vet snarky things said to you...But I think it only helps you to be around other moms. Age shouldn't really matter. IMO.
I'm 20 and I agree that young moms face different challenges than older people. While I believe that everyone has their own obstacles to overcome, one that young people face a lot is criticism from many people.
I've seen people (not on TB) express concerns and uncertainties about being pregnant, and had people attack them, saying things like, "Maybe you should have thought about that before you got pregnant" or "You wouldn't be in this situation if you waited until you were married."
It would be nice to be able to post about things without worrying about people judging you for being young/single. I don't think there's a board on here for young mothers but if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to send me a PM
i just want to say that if you fear being criticized by someone on here, then dont release your age. your still a woman having a baby, so act like one. you dont have to be treated differently because of your age. your as old as you act. so if you act like a whiney teen, yes you are going to be side-eyed. if you act like an adult then you will be treated as such.
I as well as anyone knows people will criticize you in your life for being a teenage mother but you should put yourself in a safe-haven of legit questions with other FTMs. Your age doesnt have to be a factor. keep your head high!
This. Except I'm 27 going to be 28 in January.
<-- 28 and feels clueless most days.
You know, people are always going to give you a hard time about SOMETHING. I figure a thick skin is an essential mothering tool. For us, it's been..."you've been married forever, when are the kids coming?" If it's not too early, it's too late, it's not the right time with circumstances, blah blah blah.
I haven't openly admitted it, but I'm 18. I have no idea if there's even another 18 year old on here. I do not wish there were a 'young moms' board because to be honest, I'd go read and shake my head. I much prefer being on the board with the older women. Baby Gaga has a board for teen moms and it disgusts me.
I do however wish I felt more comfortable talking about my age and the issues I encounter because of my age or situation. I don't get any critiscm in real life, but I bet you I'd get it here.
The women on here are generally all very nice, about half are FTMs and you'll get great support and help from them =]
That sounds like a trainwreck.
If you act like an adult, I couldn't care less how old you are.
I'm much more likely to side-eye a 30 year old who p0sTs lYkE tHiS than a mature 18 year old.
I've seen responses such as these aimed at people of all ages...not just younger moms.
FTM my husband and I I'm 25 and he is 29!
I'm 21 and DH is 23; this is our first child. I understand what you mean about other people, because even though I'm 21 I still sometimes look like I'm 16. People always talk down to me/look down on me and DH because they just assume he is some jerk boyfriend who knocked up his underage girlfriend. :-(
All I can say is don't worry about what other people think. Everyone is quick to pass judgment and give advice when, a lot of the time, they have no place to be judging in the first place. :-)