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Pregnant after a Loss
CMSullivan326
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*Evan Michael*
*Twin Angel Babies*
How did you tell...
CMSullivan326
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First of all, I just wanna say congrats to all of you for making it to this board.
When I got pg with DS I didn't really have a creative way to tell him. Although I'm not pg yet but we are actively TTCAL and since it is TTC"AL" I think a BFP will be even more special if and/or when it comes. So, I want the "reveal" to DH to be special too...
So here's my question.....When you got your BFP, how did you tell your DH/Partner? Anything creative? Any ideas?
Again, congrats to all of you wonderful ladies 
*Evan Michael* {06/15/2010 ~ 9lbs. 4oz, 22.5in.}
*Twin Angel Babies* {Said Goodbye on 08/13/2011 at 17w3d}
No longer TTC
*~Kisses to My Bestie Boo, ScrappyLika~*
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Re: How did you tell...
MTHFR 2 copies of C677t mutation homozygous 2/2010
Baby A born via c-section 1/10/12 @38w3d
BFP #1 11/4/09 m/c 4w3d baby crab
BFP #2 12/4/09 m/c 9w3d baby lion
BFP #3 7/1/10 m/c 4w1d baby fish
BFP #4 5/8/11
BFP #5 8/17/12 10dpo beta 7
I didn't do anything creative. I got all cute with everyone the first BFP (the miscarriage), so I when I POAS, I woke H up to tell him and so far we've told most of our family over the phone or in person if we've seen them.
The first time around... we always come in through the basement, so I left baby socks trailing up the stairs and then a big BABY balloon at the top. I had a friend who made her H his favorite dinner and then asked him to get the dessert from the fridge... I think it was cheesecake or whatever that he liked, but said Congrats Daddy on it.
BFP#1 11.2.10 | EDD 7.9.11 | HB 7w2d & 8w4d | missed M/C 11w2d | D&E 12.21.10
FSH at 14.5 - 4.21.11 | CCCT - (CD3 8.8,CD10 12.2)| dx w/ DOR @ 28 yrs old
IUI#1 + clomid 8.29.11 (our anniversary)
BFP#2 9.10.11 | EDD 5.21.12 | beta 1 @ 14dpi:232 | beta 2 @17dpi:703 | beta 3 @24dpi:7,174
Baby A HB of 142(7w), 161(8w), 164(9w) | Baby B no HB, Vanishing Twin
I found out I was pregnant on Father's day this time. I was 12 DPO and debating on taking a test. DH said "just take the test". He was in the tub and I just peed and dipped the stick right there with him in there (which I never do..lol). I said "it's negetive"...then I looked at it again. It looked like a faint pink line. I showed him and he made me take another one, and then another one.
My first BFP that ended in a m/c I found out on Christmas Eve, so I wrapped up the HPT and gave it to him.
This time, I ended up waking him up and shoving the test in his face and asking, "do you see a second line?!"
Ella born 12/21/11
I didn't have the chance to be creative. We've been trying for so long and have dealt with so much grief, anxiety, fear, and disappointment that DH made me swear not to test ever again without him being present (meaning home). So it was the same with this current BFP.
However, my mom did something cute with my baby sister. Number 4....it was "unexpected" more like unplanned. She sked my dad to take her to dinner. She went to their favorite restaurant and afterwards took a horse and buggy ride. She asked the driver to pull over at some point and handed my dad a box. Inside were baby booties and a positive pregnancy script from the doctor. I always loved this story!
For our first positive, we hadn't actively been trying yet, we had been BDing unprotected, but nothing had been happening for almost a year. I had been charting my temperatures for a few months in order to get to know when I was ovulating, since we were planning on stepping it up to the next level of "trying" soon. I had an implantation dip in my chart, and figured that there was no way that I was actually pregnant (or at least that it wouldn't show up yet, I was only 8 dpo), so I took a test before he even came home. He walked into the house right as I was checking the test and looking at a faint plus sign, so I just kind of handed it to him, completely in shock. He took a look at it with a mix of fear and elation and said, "I'm guessing that you handing this to me means you're pregnant?"
The second time, I didn't get my BFP until 15 dpo. Despite testing almost every day from 7 dpo on, I still couldn't get over just "feeling" pregnant, so I took a test before DH woke up. It almost immediately showed up with two lines, and I couldn't even hold it in so I called my husband who was in bed sleeping still, and told him "We have two lines!" He had no idea what I was talking about, and the third time that I repreated it, he kind of mumbled something about "Oh, that's nice," paused for a good minute or two, and then "Wait, what?!"
I pretty much fail at keeping the news to tell him in a cute way, but at the same time I can't imagine him not knowing within the same few seconds that I find out. Although, he did make me promise that from now on, he has to be present and fully awake for each test I take.
Suddenly the world seems such a perfect place.
Suddenly it moves with such a perfect grace.
Suddenly my life doesn't seem such a waste,
It all revolves around you.
Married 07/17/2010
Diagnosed with PCOS 10/20/2010
TTC since Oct 2010
BFP #1 March 31st 2011 Due December 10 2011
Missed m/c discovered June 2nd 2011 at 12w4d
D&C scheduled June 7th 2011 at 13w2d
Found out our baby boy had Triploidy XXY through embryopathology
BFP #2 September 28th 2011 Due June 8th 2012
Missed m/c discovered November 20th 2011 at 11w2d
D&C November 29th 2011 at 12w4d
Found out our baby girl had Monosomy X through embryopathology
BFP #3 April 24th 2012 Due January 5th 2013
Betas falling on 04/26/12 Chemical Pregnancy
RPL testing done, multi nodular goiters on thyroid discovered.
BFP #4 November 22nd 2012, Due August 5th 2013
Betas: 17 @ 9dpo, 62 @ 11dpo, 124 @ 12dpo, 321 @ 14dpo 720 @ 16dpo 13,805 @ 23 dpo
First ultrasound at 6w3d, hb 122 bpm.
Second ultrasound at 7w3d hb 143 bpm
Third ultrasound at 10w1d hb 167-170 bpm
Forth ultrasound 12w1d hb 167 bpm
Graduated rpl program, moving on to regular ob!
It's a boy!
Little man was born August 1st 2013, 7lbs 8oz and 20.5 inches long
With our first [Noah] I took him out to our favorite restaurant and told him.
Second [loss] got a t-shirt for Noah with the words "Big Brother" on it.
Third, current pregnancy, I just showed him as I was in shock.
Good Luck hon! I hope you will be doing yoru reveal soon!
When I got pregnant in April, I put the positive pregnancy test on a pair of baby socks I bought 2 years ago and left them where my husband would find them. The socks had the logo of one of my husband's favorite teams.
This time around I didn't do anything special.
With my dd, I took at test at lunch time at work because I didn't think in a million years it was posistive...I was getting my wisdom teeth out the next day adn said well my period hasn't come since coming of the pill ( I thought my cycle was just crazy b/c of that)...an bahm it was posistive and I was almost 6 weeks along...I had ot wait all day because this is news I didn't want to tell him over the phone..so I ran up the stairs and he was on the phone I stood at the foot of the bed and motioned to him to get off the phone..he was a bit annoyed but was happy wehn I told him..we were both so shocked...
Second pregnancy ( our loss)...I was ebf so had crazy periods but thought I was pregnant and tested when we were in Ireland visiting his family on 12/30 and 12/31 but both came back neg...but when we got home on 1/6 and I still hadn't gotten my period I tested as he was carrying up our bags and I kinda so holy sh-t we are pregnant. It was a huge surprise and we were nervous b/c our dd was only 13 mths,but unfortunately we lost the baby 6 weeks later.
This pregnancy was our first actually trying and we knew we had sex during my peak o time ( used opks) so I tested like a nut for a week and got a positive on 11 dpo. He leaves for work super early so he was already gone...I ran and got a father's day card ( it was May 20th so they were already out on the shelves) and had my DD give it to him when he got home...he was really sweet and was like again...we get pregnant every time we try! ( I know we are extremly lucky in this fact). So this pregnancy is the only time I ever did something cute to tell him!
With our families we told them about my DD on Easter (7 weeks), the loss we actually didn't tell anyone until we went through the D&E, and this one we had our DD wear a Big Sister shirt at a family gathering when I was 15 weeks...
The first time(our angel baby), I brought him to the bathroom & said ohmygoodness, look at it! Do you see it to?
With this pregnancy, I waited & waited & waited for him to get home from work(he worked late that night). When he finally got home, I froze. I didn't know how to tell him. I was excited & heartbroken all at the same time(heartbroken because without our angel baby there would not be this one. I started thinking about the whatif's our baby had survived). While he was in the shower, I worte on a post it: How would you feel about having a baby?" & put it on his pillow. He came in the bedroom... & didn't see it. haha He grabbed his house shoes & went to get a bowl of cereal. When he got back in the room, he almost "crushed" my post it. Ireached under him, & just handed it to him. He looked at me, asked if I was serious, & then got all teary eyed. That's when I showed him the 2 positive tests.
Before we went to tell our moms, I POAS again. Ya know, just to make sure.
I am TTCAL as well I just wanted to say that I love this thread!!! so cute stories (creative or not!)
My plan this time around (when ever it shall be) I wanted to something cute, but figured Id do more of what I did with my 1st BFP (loss)
When DH purposed he did it up at my parents cabin, down at the dock. July 4th weekend AF was supposed to arrive (though we had been trying I didn't think it was this cycle) We were up north for the long weekend, and I brought a test just in case. My plan was IF AF had not arrived as of Mon July 4th (I would would be almost 5 days late that day) Id take the test. I got up super early that morning and took the test right away it came back "pregnant". My plan was then to wait until DH and I were on the dock alone and I could tell him....I got out of the shower after POAS and just went and told DH while he was still sleeping. I kept telling him "im not joking, im not lying"
So much for being cute and creative! I know that the next time around well both be more cautions, so I think Ill just tell him- Maybe Ill print out a card that says "try number 2" or something.
LOL I ran up to him in tears and threw the pee stick at him. LOL not your most creative moment but his smile was priceless. He said "you're not....You are...for real..." and just stared at the still not dry very unhygenic stick.
Edit: Oh and this was a really fun post!!!!!