1: long story short, even though we're having a cell free DNA test, we won't be ablate find out baby's sex. It's just annoying, and we were lead to believe that we would be able to, like usual. I'm just impatient, and I want to know who's in there!
2: My mom keeps calling it "our baby." It wasn't such a big deal when it just seemed to slip out, but now she's making a big deal about it, and even went on this long spiel about how she knows it's not really hers, but it's her only grand baby, and blah blah blah. I didn't say much after that because she was borderline manic, and that's not the time to talk through things with her, but ever since she's embraced it with gusto. She now goes out of her way to exaggeratedly say, "OUR baby!!!!" It's just odd, and it feels too late to say anything now.
3: Maybe this should go in the "Things People Say" thread. We have new-ish neighbors. They're a gay couple, and they're nice enough to me, but have always been waaaay nicer to DH, and one of them basically flirts with him in the elevator, and ignores me if I'm with him. In the elevator this morning, he asked DH if anything was new with us, and DH told him I'm pregnant. He literally looked at me, and said, "Ew, that's icky. You're growing a parasite." Um....EXCUSE ME?! I believe you were also a "parasite" at one point, sir!! I didn't say anything because I didn't trust myself not to scream, but if looks could kill, he'd be dead twice- once from my look, and a second time from DH's. The nerve.
@amandarene112 WTF on #3?! Some people have no clue what is like for couples that tried for so long to have babies, or PGAL women. Those kind of comments can really hurt someone. Its the same reason I make a point to never ask anyone "when they are going to have kids" or "if they want kids". I always let people bring it up first before I start talking to them about having kids.
My WTF is to DH today. I work from home and he is a stay at home dad. My office is in a balcony above living room. This afternoon he has been talking to me non stop. Asking me questions, reading me news articles, announcing the score of the Duke game, the list goes on. Seriously DH. WTF. I need to concentrate. I cant figure out why my build isn't working.
@DPandMB I don't think he likes women, that's just the vibe I get. He's only cordial to the women in the building, and they have lots of dinner parties and things at their apartment, and I've never seen a female guest, except me, once, and he clearly wasn't happy I was there. I have never heard anyone refer to pregnancy as "icky" before, except an ex-coworker who admitted he had a phobia of lady parts. Plus, he openly flirts with my husband in front of me, which makes us both uncomfortable. It's just all around rude and weird and uncomfortable.
@amandarene112 My mom did this with DS. I finally told her to knock it off, because she just wouldn't quit. I told her she had her three kids, and it was time to let it go, haha. I think I was having a low tolerance level day. However, she did stop after that!
The WTF moment of the day goes to the storms in my area, my in-laws, and our front door. We have a glass storm door, and it does not automatically latch shut- you have to pull it closed after you walk in. My in-laws never, ever close it all the way, and I always check the door at the end of the night- we live on a hill, and it's always windy. I'm guessing you can see where this is going?
So, that's now my front door. There was a huge storm last night that was really windy. I was dealing with some vicious nausea and was in bed super early, and therefore didn't check to make sure the door was pulled shut like I normally do after the in-laws leave. The glass is broken, and the frame is bent. The house is a rental, but we may or may not end up paying for a new door, we haven't heard from the owners yet. We have not admitted to the door not being shut, as we don't actually know this for sure. But, since we've had bad, windy storms before and the door has never popped open on its own before.. yeah. The railing it smashed into is also busted. Not a good day.
@amandarene112 I don't think I officially commented on your lame - ass not being able to know the gender thing.. I just don't get it. Are they not testing for the typical XXX, XXY, XYY, X sex chromosome problems? I'd be mad. That is included in all cell-free dna tests.
And wtf to #3. How rude. I hope your DH stands up to him. I probably would have said something unkind!
As for me, my WTF Wednesday is that I still don't have my NIPT results. I will continue to whine... maybe tomorrow...
Me: 27 years old DH: 27 years old Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
Married in July 2014
TTC #1 since late Feb 2016
BFP #1 3/29/16 MMC: 5/5/16 BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16 BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17 My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast: Juicebox Podcast Episode 118 A1Cs: 1/12/16 6.7% 5/25/16 6.0% 11/2/16 6.1% 3/22/16 5.8% 4/27/17 5.4% 6/13/17 5.3% "Sugar Fancy Tutu"
@DPandMB yours made me laugh because when DH works from home I'm like "hey, what do you think of this for this room? Do you like this color? Did you see this thing on the news? Can you watch DS so I can run to target?" Lol he doesn't work from home very often and this is probably why
@Sugargirl1019 How do you STILL not have them?! I hope you let someone know this is waaaay too long!
And yes, they are checking for those chromosomal abnormalities, so they can tell me it's normal, but not what the chromosomes are? Bullshit. I don't buy it.
And DH would normally have said something, but we were at the bottom floor, and there wasn't really time, and we were both in shock. If he says anything again, I don't think either of us will be able to hold our tongues again. And he should fear that day, because I have a whole lot of things ready to fire off at him should the occasion come!
@amandarene112 I just can't fathom. What if your child (heaven forbid ) comes back positive for an XYY abnormality? Are they not going to tell you because that would let you know it's a boy????? My mind is blown.
And yea.. I think I will be annoying and call tomorrow afternoon if I don't hear anything, because I work Friday (And Saturday and Sunday..) and don't have the ability to look at my phone during shift.
Me: 27 years old DH: 27 years old Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
Married in July 2014
TTC #1 since late Feb 2016
BFP #1 3/29/16 MMC: 5/5/16 BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16 BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17 My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast: Juicebox Podcast Episode 118 A1Cs: 1/12/16 6.7% 5/25/16 6.0% 11/2/16 6.1% 3/22/16 5.8% 4/27/17 5.4% 6/13/17 5.3% "Sugar Fancy Tutu"
@amandarene112 plus I'm like ok you stick your pee pee in a butt hole...... sooo.... that's pretty icky (none of my business but neither is your pregnancy to him soooo) yeah.
@ColoradoHiker Oh no about your door!! I see how the bottom panel glass is all gone!! I hope at most maybe you and the owner can split the cost of a new door? Thank goodness it doesn't appear to be an odd size door.. but still. Glass doors are not cheap!
Me: 27 years old DH: 27 years old Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
Married in July 2014
TTC #1 since late Feb 2016
BFP #1 3/29/16 MMC: 5/5/16 BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16 BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17 My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast: Juicebox Podcast Episode 118 A1Cs: 1/12/16 6.7% 5/25/16 6.0% 11/2/16 6.1% 3/22/16 5.8% 4/27/17 5.4% 6/13/17 5.3% "Sugar Fancy Tutu"
@amandarene112 plus I'm like ok you stick your pee pee in a butt hole...... sooo.... that's pretty icky (none of my business but neither is your pregnancy to him soooo) yeah.
@amandarene112 plus I'm like ok you stick your pee pee in a butt hole...... sooo.... that's pretty icky (none of my business but neither is your pregnancy to him soooo) yeah.
Okay, funny story, my DH was talking to one of his coworkers who is gay about doing the deed. The kid has a boyfriend that he kisses in front of DH and everything, but he turns to DH with a horrified look on his face and says, Oh no, we don't do that stuff, that's just gross. DH just laughed and told him straight up, dude you're not gay, I don't know who told you you are, but you're not. The poor kid went on and on about how he likes that his partner takes care of him and pays his bills and all...
@Sugargirl1019 Mine took 12 business days too... felt like forever. Fingers crossed for you! @amandarene112 Very confused as to why they can't tell you the sex. Sorry.
My WTF Wednesday (a day late) is awarded to SO. I love him dearly.
However, I am extremely concerned because he doesn't even seem remotely interested in marriage. His reasoning is because it doesn't change anything, it'll put us in a higher tax bracket and he doesn't need a legal document to confirm how he feels about me.
My concerns are that eventually we want him to adopt DD. We haven't seen her father in years nor heard from him and he does not live in the states. Step parent adoption is only really an option in my state when you are married. If something ever happened to me I would not want her and her new brother or sister to be separated. He also cannot be a beneficiary on my life insurance and vice versa without us being married. Also, if something were to happen to him, me and the children would have nothing. He bought his house before I moved in with him and I have no rights to anything.
He just sees marriage as something that isn't a big deal and I think it is huge. Also a commitment to spend the rest of your life with the person you love.
I'm just frustrated that he doesn't feel the same.
@Msashley2010 I'd be pretty frustrated too, I mean at any point right now he could theoretically decide to up and leave and he would owe you and your DD nothing, I mean there is something to be said for being legally committed to a person. It always confuses me because it is not just a piece of paper it is a choice to commit to one person and validating that commitment by joining assets and being legally and spiritually bound in Holy matrimony. I'm not saying he ever would leave but the option will always be there for him especially if there will be no repercussions or division of assets if he were to decide to leave.
@Msashley2010 I'd be frustrated too! I feel like some guys hear "marriage" but only hear "wedding" and don't like the idea of a huge party and all that attention. Laying out the legal benefits of marriage (and the repercussions of not) changes the whole conversation. I think especially because of your DD this is important!
@msashley2010 Ask him if marriage doesn't change anything then why not just get married? You get tax breaks for getting married, especially with kids, so I'm not sure what the higher tax bracket nonsense is he's talking about. If DH was single he'd be in the 25% bracket but since we're married we are solidly in the 15% bracket plus more deductions. Theres so many legal benefits to being married, I'd try to have a heart to heart with him to see what's causing him to hold back.
@Msashley2010 Have you explained all of your reasons to him? If you have then I feel like the "it doesn't change anything" is just ridiculous at this point, you have good solid reasons that it WOULD change things. It's not like you're just throwing a fit for him to put a ring on it...
@lap018 You wrote out basically my main concerns! My biggest fear is that something would happen to me and she'd either be sent to live with an aunt or my mom or lord forbid her father decided to make an appearance and she'd be taken to Thailand or wherever it is he lives never to be seen by my family again. (The second option is a lot less likely as he hasn't contacted us in years but it still scares me as he is a stranger to her.)
@MyNamesTaken I definitely think that scares a lot of guys. I personally don't care about the wedding part. We could literally get married at the courthouse or in someone's backyard lol.
@Becky012016 I completely share that mindset. If it doesn't change anything and there is only positive things that would come from it, why not do it? I'm already having his child. It almost feels like that's not enough to seal the deal.
@HollyGolightly09 I did tell him some of my biggest concerns but everyone here has brought up such great points that I plan on bringing it up again.
It almost feels as though he doesn't want to be committed to just me. I'm sure thats not the reason but that is how it is making me feel.
I took a 12-week contract to teach a couple of dance classes twice a week at a under-served middle school. While looking for someone to watch my kids, a friend who lives nearby offered to do it. I was super-hesitant because she lives with her ailing grandfather and is in the process of helping him move out, along with having a 1yo, plus a husband in school, plus running her own business. It just seemed like a lot, but she assured me that it would be fine, that her son would benefit from the social interaction, that it wasn't a big deal. I said I would pay her and we could swap childcare too, whatever was the most helpful, but she refused the money and has only asked me to watch her kid twice. She's bailed on me twice last-minute and I've had to scramble to find childcare, and she's blamed my kids for her kid and family being sick a couple of times (even though our kids attend the same church nursery, which I swear is where all the sickness comes from). She just texted me today saying they set a move out date for next week, so she couldn't watch my kids anymore. So I have four days (two business days at that) to find new childcare before my classes next Monday.
On one hand, I am grateful that she has helped me even as much as she has. She didn't have to do it, and it was a help. But on the other...she knew what she was signing up for. At no point did she say this was a temporary arrangement (they are just moving a couple towns away...actually closer to where I work, so I [wrongly] figured she would still watch the kids if they moved before my contract was up), and I was clear on the timeline. And if that was the case, couldn't she give me a couple of weeks notice, or even a week, before bailing? So...cue me stressing out for the next four days. Hopefully I won't be dragging my kids to work with me come Monday.
@Msashley2010 just additional input/thoughts here. My parents divorced when I was 3, and my mom ended up with a man named Bert a couple years later. He wanted to get married but she didn't, then she wanted to, but he didn't, and then it just fell off the radar. They had a son together in 1991. My mom told me it was always kind of awkward at school, because of the different last names. It was always weird for me, because I called him my "step dad, they're not married but have been together since 1987." And for my brother, his parents were together but not married. They did finally get married in 2013 (about three weeks before my mom passed), and I think it just sort of made everything easier. Bert was then legally a widower, and her headstone has both last names on it (my maiden and my brother's/Bert's, hyphenated).
But it gave my brother kind of a weird perspective on marriage - his parents weren't married, so marriage isn't a big deal to him. I think that's part of why things didn't work out with his amazing girlfriend - marriage was important to her, and he just couldn't see it.
I'm not saying everyone HAS to get married (so please, no one jump on me), I'm just saying this is the experience for our family.
Your car insurance goes down when you get married too!
@Msashley2010 AND, heaven forbid, something happened to either of you and medical decisions needed to be made, you guys don't have permission to know ANYTHING about each other's condition in the hospital. You cannot say "yes do surgery" or "no, he told me he never wanted cpr". All of that falls back to the legal next of kin - a parent, or eldest sibling. You, the love of each others' life, have no say in medical decisions nor a right to know anything should an emergency happen.
For that alone, I would do it!
Me: 27 years old DH: 27 years old Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
Married in July 2014
TTC #1 since late Feb 2016
BFP #1 3/29/16 MMC: 5/5/16 BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16 BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17 My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast: Juicebox Podcast Episode 118 A1Cs: 1/12/16 6.7% 5/25/16 6.0% 11/2/16 6.1% 3/22/16 5.8% 4/27/17 5.4% 6/13/17 5.3% "Sugar Fancy Tutu"
@Msashley2010 AND, heaven forbid, something happened to either of you and medical decisions needed to be made, you guys don't have permission to know ANYTHING about each other's condition in the hospital. You cannot say "yes do surgery" or "no, he told me he never wanted cpr". All of that falls back to the legal next of kin - a parent, or eldest sibling. You, the love of each others' life, have no say in medical decisions nor a right to know anything should an emergency happen.
For that alone, I would do it!
Well, now the hospital isn't going to ask for a marriage certificate. But agreed that if family showed up and said they aren't married you have no say in anything unless you have a power of attorney and appoint each other over healthcare decisions. i don't understand the logic of not caring to be married. If you don't care, then go to the court house and make it legal. You don't have to make a big deal of it, but for legal purposes it's pretty important.
My wtf is to the other Mom at story time today who decided to look at my daughter with the meanest most disgusted look on her face when my daughter was pointing and saying aw to the stuffed animals on the table behind her! My hormonal self almost cried or screamed at her but we like story time and don't want to be banned from the library lol
Ugh why can't people return their messages? Waiting on a bunch of important calls for work and none of them came. The only call I got today was to confirm the hair appointment next week I had made 45 minutes earlier.
So this is my wtf from yesterday...had an ultrasound last night and the lady was pushing kind of hard to get good views. I wasn't uncomfortable but she was pushing down hard. And I'm still dealing with some constipation (ugh!)....so I get home and after a BM (sorry tmi) I had bright red spotting!! Wtf?? Ugh!!! Scared the daylights out of me! It went away quickly and is now just brown....but I was JUST commenting on how happy I was that I went 2 weeks without spotting!! Hopefully it's just from my cervix or something..
WTF DS! I'm home alone with my toddler tonight and he will not go the fuck to sleep. I have a bunch of work to do tonight and I'm feeling sick anyway so I was hoping to get him down early so I could have a chance at sleeping. Here we are almost an hour late and he still won't stop whining for things. And I can't find the Tylenol. Going to be a loooong night
So this is my wtf from yesterday...had an ultrasound last night and the lady was pushing kind of hard to get good views. I wasn't uncomfortable but she was pushing down hard. And I'm still dealing with some constipation (ugh!)....so I get home and after a BM (sorry tmi) I had bright red spotting!! Wtf?? Ugh!!! Scared the daylights out of me! It went away quickly and is now just brown....but I was JUST commenting on how happy I was that I went 2 weeks without spotting!! Hopefully it's just from my cervix or something..
I'm sorry girl!!! Hopefully it's nothing. It makes sense that it happened after the ultrasound though. The sameness thing happened to me.
So today I pretty much told my SO that marriage is not something that I want or need to happen immediately but it is something that I want and need to happen in the future. And if he does not think that this is a possibility that we need to have a serious discussion about our potential future.
I didn't sign up to be lifelong girlfriend. Thanks but no thanks.
@daniellelynette Now he is backpedalling and saying he does want to marry me. Which I appreciate, but we will see. I don't want to DRAG him down the aisle lol, but at least now he understands why it is so important to me.
@daniellelynette Now he is backpedalling and saying he does want to marry me. Which I appreciate, but we will see. I don't want to DRAG him down the aisle lol, but at least now he understands why it is so important to me.
Men can be dense (I mean, I guess we all can be), and sometimes just need it gently, but expressly laid out for them that THIS needs to happen.
Re: WTF Wednesday 3/8
2: My mom keeps calling it "our baby." It wasn't such a big deal when it just seemed to slip out, but now she's making a big deal about it, and even went on this long spiel about how she knows it's not really hers, but it's her only grand baby, and blah blah blah. I didn't say much after that because she was borderline manic, and that's not the time to talk through things with her, but ever since she's embraced it with gusto. She now goes out of her way to exaggeratedly say, "OUR baby!!!!" It's just odd, and it feels too late to say anything now.
3: Maybe this should go in the "Things People Say" thread. We have new-ish neighbors. They're a gay couple, and they're nice enough to me, but have always been waaaay nicer to DH, and one of them basically flirts with him in the elevator, and ignores me if I'm with him. In the elevator this morning, he asked DH if anything was new with us, and DH told him I'm pregnant. He literally looked at me, and said, "Ew, that's icky. You're growing a parasite." Um....EXCUSE ME?! I believe you were also a "parasite" at one point, sir!! I didn't say anything because I didn't trust myself not to scream, but if looks could kill, he'd be dead twice- once from my look, and a second time from DH's. The nerve.
My WTF is to DH today. I work from home and he is a stay at home dad. My office is in a balcony above living room. This afternoon he has been talking to me non stop. Asking me questions, reading me news articles, announcing the score of the Duke game, the list goes on. Seriously DH. WTF. I need to concentrate. I cant figure out why my build isn't working.
Edited because I forgot to add my WTF
The WTF moment of the day goes to the storms in my area, my in-laws, and our front door. We have a glass storm door, and it does not automatically latch shut- you have to pull it closed after you walk in. My in-laws never, ever close it all the way, and I always check the door at the end of the night- we live on a hill, and it's always windy. I'm guessing you can see where this is going?
So, that's now my front door. There was a huge storm last night that was really windy. I was dealing with some vicious nausea and was in bed super early, and therefore didn't check to make sure the door was pulled shut like I normally do after the in-laws leave. The glass is broken, and the frame is bent. The house is a rental, but we may or may not end up paying for a new door, we haven't heard from the owners yet. We have not admitted to the door not being shut, as we don't actually know this for sure. But, since we've had bad, windy storms before and the door has never popped open on its own before.. yeah. The railing it smashed into is also busted. Not a good day.
DS2: EDD- 09.08.17
And wtf to #3. How rude. I hope your DH stands up to him. I probably would have said something unkind!
As for me, my WTF Wednesday is that I still don't have my NIPT results.
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
And yes, they are checking for those chromosomal abnormalities, so they can tell me it's normal, but not what the chromosomes are? Bullshit. I don't buy it.
And DH would normally have said something, but we were at the bottom floor, and there wasn't really time, and we were both in shock. If he says anything again, I don't think either of us will be able to hold our tongues again. And he should fear that day, because I have a whole lot of things ready to fire off at him should the occasion come!
And yea.. I think I will be annoying and call tomorrow afternoon if I don't hear anything, because I work Friday (And Saturday and Sunday..) and don't have the ability to look at my phone during shift.
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
@amandarene112 Very confused as to why they can't tell you the sex. Sorry.
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
However, I am extremely concerned because he doesn't even seem remotely interested in marriage. His reasoning is because it doesn't change anything, it'll put us in a higher tax bracket and he doesn't need a legal document to confirm how he feels about me.
My concerns are that eventually we want him to adopt DD. We haven't seen her father in years nor heard from him and he does not live in the states. Step parent adoption is only really an option in my state when you are married. If something ever happened to me I would not want her and her new brother or sister to be separated. He also cannot be a beneficiary on my life insurance and vice versa without us being married. Also, if something were to happen to him, me and the children would have nothing. He bought his house before I moved in with him and I have no rights to anything.
He just sees marriage as something that isn't a big deal and I think it is huge. Also a commitment to spend the rest of your life with the person you love.
I'm just frustrated that he doesn't feel the same.
@MyNamesTaken I definitely think that scares a lot of guys. I personally don't care about the wedding part. We could literally get married at the courthouse or in someone's backyard lol.
@Becky012016 I completely share that mindset. If it doesn't change anything and there is only positive things that would come from it, why not do it? I'm already having his child. It almost feels like that's not enough to seal the deal.
@HollyGolightly09 I did tell him some of my biggest concerns but everyone here has brought up such great points that I plan on bringing it up again.
It almost feels as though he doesn't want to be committed to just me. I'm sure thats not the reason but that is how it is making me feel.
I took a 12-week contract to teach a couple of dance classes twice a week at a under-served middle school. While looking for someone to watch my kids, a friend who lives nearby offered to do it. I was super-hesitant because she lives with her ailing grandfather and is in the process of helping him move out, along with having a 1yo, plus a husband in school, plus running her own business. It just seemed like a lot, but she assured me that it would be fine, that her son would benefit from the social interaction, that it wasn't a big deal. I said I would pay her and we could swap childcare too, whatever was the most helpful, but she refused the money and has only asked me to watch her kid twice. She's bailed on me twice last-minute and I've had to scramble to find childcare, and she's blamed my kids for her kid and family being sick a couple of times (even though our kids attend the same church nursery, which I swear is where all the sickness comes from). She just texted me today saying they set a move out date for next week, so she couldn't watch my kids anymore. So I have four days (two business days at that) to find new childcare before my classes next Monday.
On one hand, I am grateful that she has helped me even as much as she has. She didn't have to do it, and it was a help. But on the other...she knew what she was signing up for. At no point did she say this was a temporary arrangement (they are just moving a couple towns away...actually closer to where I work, so I [wrongly] figured she would still watch the kids if they moved before my contract was up), and I was clear on the timeline. And if that was the case, couldn't she give me a couple of weeks notice, or even a week, before bailing? So...cue me stressing out for the next four days. Hopefully I won't be dragging my kids to work with me come Monday.
But it gave my brother kind of a weird perspective on marriage - his parents weren't married, so marriage isn't a big deal to him. I think that's part of why things didn't work out with his amazing girlfriend - marriage was important to her, and he just couldn't see it.
I'm not saying everyone HAS to get married (so please, no one jump on me), I'm just saying this is the experience for our family.
Your car insurance goes down when you get married too!
For that alone, I would do it!
Type 1 Diabetes since 2001, MTHFR hetero A1298T
Dogs: Raider 4 yrs, Dex 4 yrs
BFP #2 7/6/16 SCH, D&C 8/4/16
BFP #3 12/26/16 EDD: 9/6/17
My Chart / My Diabetes/Pregnancy Blog
My Type 1/TTC/Pregnancy Podcast:
Juicebox Podcast Episode 118
A1Cs:
1/12/16 6.7%
5/25/16 6.0%
11/2/16 6.1%
3/22/16 5.8%
4/27/17 5.4%
6/13/17 5.3%
"Sugar Fancy Tutu"
i don't understand the logic of not caring to be married. If you don't care, then go to the court house and make it legal. You don't have to make a big deal of it, but for legal purposes it's pretty important.
I'm sorry girl!!! Hopefully it's nothing. It makes sense that it happened after the ultrasound though. The sameness thing happened to me.
I didn't sign up to be lifelong girlfriend. Thanks but no thanks.