Why do people answer questions that they feel are stupid? And then b***

Emmaleigh07 · November 2011

I totally just don't understand the expectations of the group. Newbies are annoying...but some of us have genuine questions...my suggestion would be if a question or person annoys you then just don't look at their posts. I am not directing this at anyone directly but it is so upsetting to try to come to a board for help and be treated like outsiders. I hope that none of the negativeness was directed at me and I don't think it was but PLEASE be respectful of everyone!! This is a hard enough time

heather_09_15_07 · November 2011

Boredom. And sometimes to up my post count, because I'm a lazy whore with nothing better to do.

argonne · November 2011

We see the same questions over and over and over...

Most of them are "I have x symptom, does this mean I'm pregnant?" It gets annoying.

Emmaleigh07 · November 2011

I know I am not..but no one ever listens but it's still so annoying!! I went through all this 3 years ago on the knot.

I am not talking about any one thing specifically but I see tons of posts my newer members being totally treated like a dumbass..

We are all going through TTC and no person is the same that is why they choose to ask questions on a message board and not look it up...we are all just looking for a little hope.

bostonbluejay · November 2011

FTR, not all newbs are annoying. Not all newbs are bad. There are a handful that can make you want to stab your eyes out through the back of your head, but a lot of them ARE welcomed and do just fine here.

Also, if you are a newb and you get flamed a little...take it like a woman. Don't get all butthurt. Don't let it deter you from continuing to try to be a part of the community. That said, if you have 50 people telling you that you are being an annoying poster...that's up to you if you want to think about how you post in the future and if maybe those 50 people are right.

Emmaleigh07 · November 2011

I just don't see how THIS is the place that women should have to deal with flaming..we are all in the middle of dealing with CM, infertility, lost hopes and miscarriages.

catahoulatte · November 2011

bostonbluejay:

FTR, not all newbs are annoying. Not all newbs are bad. There are a handful that can make you want to stab your eyes out through the back of your head, but a lot of them ARE welcomed and do just fine here.

Also, if you are a newb and you get flamed a little...take it like a woman. Don't get all butthurt. Don't let it deter you from continuing to try to be a part of the community. That said, if you have 50 people telling you that you are being an annoying poster...that's up to you if you want to think about how you post in the future and if maybe those 50 people are right.

Yes Sucking it up=good.

Using common sense before you post= good.

Going BSC when you get flamed or if you're fishing and you don't hear what you want to hear= not good.

[Deleted User] · November 2011

argonne:

We see the same questions over and over and over...

Most of them are "I have x symptom, does this mean I'm pregnant?" It gets annoying.

I have never asked a question like this, but I am still currently target #1. But the targets and or reasons why change from week to week. I just come on, get the questions that I need answered and move on. I admit sometimes I get caught up in the drama but at least I have never DD or personally started an attack. Even my haters have helped me from time to time so at the end of the day it?s all good.

cantalopes24 · November 2011

Emmaleigh07:

I know I am not..but no one ever listens but it's still so annoying!! 1.I went through all this 3 years ago on the knot.

I am not talking about any one thing specifically but I see tons of posts my newer members 2.being totally treated like a dumbass..

We are all going through TTC and no person is the same that is why they choose to ask questions on a message board and not look it up...we are all just looking for a little hope.

1. Then why do you think posting there here will make a difference, perhaps try a different community?

2. Because they are dumbasses.

3. In regards to your other comment, why is dealing with CM emotional/important enough to warrant someone having to be nice to you? I have NEVER seen someone be snarky in regards to someone actually experiencing a m/c in a post about it, having gone through a tough patch in life doesnt mean you are special snowflake and immune from anyone ever not liking you or that it requires everyone to always be nice.

heather_09_15_07 · November 2011

cantalopes24:
Emmaleigh07:

I know I am not..but no one ever listens but it's still so annoying!! 1.I went through all this 3 years ago on the knot.

I am not talking about any one thing specifically but I see tons of posts my newer members 2.being totally treated like a dumbass..

We are all going through TTC and no person is the same that is why they choose to ask questions on a message board and not look it up...we are all just looking for a little hope.

1. Then why do you think posting there here will make a difference, perhaps try a different community?

2. Because they are dumbasses.

3. In regards to your other comment, why is dealing with CM emotional/important enough to warrant someone having to be nice to you? I have NEVER seen someone be snarky in regards to someone actually experiencing a m/c in a post about it, having gone through a tough patch in life doesnt mean you are special snowflake and immune from anyone ever not liking you or that it requires everyone to always be nice.

Yes

If anything, people going through actual serious issues sometimes have less patience for stupid questions about analyzing cm.

cantalopes24 · November 2011

jessii26:
argonne:

We see the same questions over and over and over...

Most of them are "I have x symptom, does this mean I'm pregnant?" It gets annoying.

I have never asked a question like this, but I am still currently target #1. But the targets and or reasons why change from week to week. I just come on, get the questions that I need answered and move on. I admit sometimes I get caught up in the drama but at least I have never DD or personally started an attack. Even my haters have helped me from time to time so at the end of the day it?s all good.

OMG, CBH, we have told you 100 times why you are annoying so why are you still posting like you don't get it?

heather_09_15_07 · November 2011

jessii26:
argonne:

We see the same questions over and over and over...

Most of them are "I have x symptom, does this mean I'm pregnant?" It gets annoying.

I have never asked a question like this, but I am still currently target #1. But the targets and or reasons why change from week to week. I just come on, get the questions that I need answered and move on. I admit sometimes I get caught up in the drama but at least I have never DD or personally started an attack. Even my haters have helped me from time to time so at the end of the day it?s all good.

I think you asked yesterday why people found you so annoying, correct? Well, this is why.

brookelynpaisley · November 2011

Know what's 1000 times more annoying than rude answers to stupid questions? Explaining WHY there are rude answers to stupid questions for the 1000th time.

And FWIW, for the vast majority of people who come through this board, there is nothing "hard" about this "time." Except for the obvious peen joke. Statistically, your "journey" will likely be an easy one that ends in an infant. I honestly don't get what "support" most of you all feel you need to have intercourse with your partners to make a fetus. Read TCOYF, embrace FF, learn to Google, keep calm and carry on and all that.

/bitterness

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brookelynpaisley · November 2011

cruelsound:
cantalopes24:
jessii26:

I have never asked a question like this, but I am still currently target #1. But the targets and or reasons why change from week to week. I just come on, get the questions that I need answered and move on. I admit sometimes I get caught up in the drama but at least I have never DD or personally started an attack. Even my haters have helped me from time to time so at the end of the day it?s all good.

OMG, CBH, we have told you 100 times why you are annoying so why are you still posting like you don't get it?

She should call 1-800-DUH-DUHH from her telephone.

Bwahahahahahah!!

True story, in 4th grade, I saved my Starkist tuna labels and paid $20 for this:

bostonbluejay · November 2011

Emmaleigh07:
I just don't see how THIS is the place that women should have to deal with flaming..we are all in the middle of dealing with CM, infertility, lost hopes and miscarriages.

No. No. Everyone here is not dealing with infertility and lost hopes. We are not ALL dealing with miscarriages. Some people are dealing with these things, but not everyone. Having lost hopes after having to move on to cycle 2 is NOT the same as dealing with infertility or miscarriage.

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brookelynpaisley · November 2011

cruelsound:
brookelynpaisley:
Bwahahahahahah!!
True story, in 4th grade, I saved my Starkist tuna labels and paid $20 for this:

I truly, truly love you. That is probably the most majestic thing I have ever seen and it DEFINITELY puts my cheeseburger phone to shame.

brookelynpaisley · November 2011

SookieFrackhouse68:
bostonbluejay:

Emmaleigh07:
I just don't see how THIS is the place that women should have to deal with flaming..we are all in the middle of dealing with CM, infertility, lost hopes and miscarriages.

No. No. Everyone here is not dealing with infertility and lost hopes. We are not ALL dealing with miscarriages. Some people are dealing with these things, but not everyone. Having lost hopes after having to move on to cycle 2 is NOT the same as dealing with infertility or miscarriage.

This. Big difference.

Seriously. A cycle 4 BFN =/= IF/MC, etc. I hope you never have to know what IF really is. Get a grip.

[Deleted User] · November 2011

bostonbluejay:

Emmaleigh07:
I just don't see how THIS is the place that women should have to deal with flaming..we are all in the middle of dealing with CM, infertility, lost hopes and miscarriages.

No. No. Everyone here is not dealing with infertility and lost hopes. We are not ALL dealing with miscarriages. Some people are dealing with these things, but not everyone. Having lost hopes after having to move on to cycle 2 is NOT the same as dealing with infertility or miscarriage.

You are right about this and that is just horrible. No one should have to go though even half of the tragedies I have seen here in my short newbie life.

With that said, I just wish there was a place for the people who are having trouble trying to conceive to go so they can get the support they need and not have to deal with stupid annoying newbies. Or for the people who have a LO and are not even trying to conceive anymore, that would be nice as well.

Ugh it?s so frustrating that this is the ONLY board for us all to be on at the same time.

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argonne · November 2011

jessii26:
bostonbluejay:

Emmaleigh07:
I just don't see how THIS is the place that women should have to deal with flaming..we are all in the middle of dealing with CM, infertility, lost hopes and miscarriages.

No. No. Everyone here is not dealing with infertility and lost hopes. We are not ALL dealing with miscarriages. Some people are dealing with these things, but not everyone. Having lost hopes after having to move on to cycle 2 is NOT the same as dealing with infertility or miscarriage.

You are right about this and that is just horrible. No one should have to go though even half of the tragedies I have seen here in my short newbie life.

With that said, I just wish there was a place for the people who are having trouble trying to conceive to go so they can get the support they need and not have to deal with stupid annoying newbies. Or for the people who have a LO and are not even trying to conceive anymore, that would be nice as well.

Ugh it?s so frustrating that this is the ONLY board for us all to be on at the same time.

<----------------------------------------

There is a "Trouble Trying to Conceive" board.

You're welcome

[Deleted User] · November 2011

slightlyslapdash:
Emmaleigh07:

I know I am not..but no one ever listens but it's still so annoying!! I went through all this 3 years ago on the knot.

I am not talking about any one thing specifically but I see tons of posts my newer members being totally treated like a dumbass..

We are all going through TTC and no person is the same that is why they choose to ask questions on a message board and not look it up...we are all just looking for a little hope.

IMHO, annoying newbies refers to people that post questions without familiarizing themselves with the board first. They ask the same exact question as someone else on the board asked two posts ago (or even a page ago) and they didn't bother to read the responses to the other questions first. ALSO, these questions that they ask are VERY easily answered in the "New to TTC Board" post and are not unique.

I have pasted responses from the welcome post in three different posts TODAY alone. AND it was the same response all three times that the OP needed. When it's blatantly obvious that you don't take the time to get to know the board and read the welcome post, then that can be annoying.

jessii26:
argonne:

We see the same questions over and over and over...

Most of them are "I have x symptom, does this mean I'm pregnant?" It gets annoying.

I have never asked a question like this, but I am still currently target #1. But the targets and or reasons why change from week to week. I just come on, get the questions that I need answered and move on. I admit sometimes I get caught up in the drama but at least I have never DD or personally started an attack. Even my haters have helped me from time to time so at the end of the day it?s all good.

I just wanted to let you know that when you use that font it is very difficult to read. I often don't read posts or try to help anyone that uses it because it is headache inducing. It would be best to change it to Arial or some other San Serif font. This can be done very easily by clicking on "HTML" and removing all of the font tags.

Thank you. I did not know that. Of all the complaints and my trying to change in word before pasting. This is the FIRST bit of actual help. Thank you.

cantalopes24 · November 2011

jessii26:
bostonbluejay:

Emmaleigh07:
I just don't see how THIS is the place that women should have to deal with flaming..we are all in the middle of dealing with CM, infertility, lost hopes and miscarriages.

No. No. Everyone here is not dealing with infertility and lost hopes. We are not ALL dealing with miscarriages. Some people are dealing with these things, but not everyone. Having lost hopes after having to move on to cycle 2 is NOT the same as dealing with infertility or miscarriage.

You are right about this and that is just horrible. No one should have to go though even half of the tragedies I have seen here in my short newbie life.

With that said, I just wish there was a place for the people who are having trouble trying to conceive to go so they can get the support they need and not have to deal with stupid annoying newbies. Or for the people who have a LO and are not even trying to conceive anymore, that would be nice as well.

Ugh it?s so frustrating that this is the ONLY board for us all to be on at the same time.

How do you that just because someone has a baby means they aren't TTC? And if they have a kid wouldn't they in theory have useful advice for those who are TTC?

bostonbluejay · November 2011

jessii26:
bostonbluejay:

Emmaleigh07:
I just don't see how THIS is the place that women should have to deal with flaming..we are all in the middle of dealing with CM, infertility, lost hopes and miscarriages.

No. No. Everyone here is not dealing with infertility and lost hopes. We are not ALL dealing with miscarriages. Some people are dealing with these things, but not everyone. Having lost hopes after having to move on to cycle 2 is NOT the same as dealing with infertility or miscarriage.

You are right about this and that is just horrible. No one should have to go though even half of the tragedies I have seen here in my short newbie life.

With that said, I just wish there was a place for the people who are having trouble trying to conceive to go so they can get the support they need and not have to deal with stupid annoying newbies. Or for the people who have a LO and are not even trying to conceive anymore, that would be nice as well.

Ugh it?s so frustrating that this is the ONLY board for us all to be on at the same time.

Did I not just say that not ALL newbs are annoying? That most do just fine here?

There is no reason that someone who is having trouble TTC should not be able to post here if they so choose. They are still TTGP, afterall. There are a lot of people who have been here a while that give advice and answer newer people's questions. God forbid it's advice that you don't want to hear.

brookelynpaisley · November 2011

jessii26:
bostonbluejay:

Emmaleigh07:
I just don't see how THIS is the place that women should have to deal with flaming..we are all in the middle of dealing with CM, infertility, lost hopes and miscarriages.

No. No. Everyone here is not dealing with infertility and lost hopes. We are not ALL dealing with miscarriages. Some people are dealing with these things, but not everyone. Having lost hopes after having to move on to cycle 2 is NOT the same as dealing with infertility or miscarriage.

You are right about this and that is just horrible. No one should have to go though even half of the tragedies I have seen here in my short newbie life.

With that said, I just wish there was a place for the people who are having trouble trying to conceive to go so they can get the support they need and not have to deal with stupid annoying newbies. Or for the people who have a LO and are not even trying to conceive anymore, that would be nice as well.

Ugh it?s so frustrating that this is the ONLY board for us all to be on at the same time.

WTF are you talking about? There is a trouble TTC board, but it's for actually having trouble, like with diagnoses or TTC >12 months and stuff. YOU, to my knowledge, are not having trouble, other than impatience and not being well-received by the majority of the board. And what? You can only be on TTGP when TTC #1 now, according to you? FFS.

bostonbluejay · November 2011

brookelynpaisley:
jessii26:
bostonbluejay:

Emmaleigh07:
I just don't see how THIS is the place that women should have to deal with flaming..we are all in the middle of dealing with CM, infertility, lost hopes and miscarriages.

No. No. Everyone here is not dealing with infertility and lost hopes. We are not ALL dealing with miscarriages. Some people are dealing with these things, but not everyone. Having lost hopes after having to move on to cycle 2 is NOT the same as dealing with infertility or miscarriage.

You are right about this and that is just horrible. No one should have to go though even half of the tragedies I have seen here in my short newbie life.

With that said, I just wish there was a place for the people who are having trouble trying to conceive to go so they can get the support they need and not have to deal with stupid annoying newbies. Or for the people who have a LO and are not even trying to conceive anymore, that would be nice as well.

Ugh it?s so frustrating that this is the ONLY board for us all to be on at the same time.

WTF are you talking about? There is a trouble TTC board, but it's for actually having trouble, like with diagnoses or TTC >12 months and stuff. YOU, to my knowledge, are not having trouble, other than impatience and not being well-received by the majority of the board. And what? You can only be on TTGP when TTC #1 now, according to you? FFS.

I *think* she's suggesting that those who have had miscarriages or TTTC should go to one of those boards and let the newbs be here to have this board.

I'm pretty sure she was being a smarty pants.

[Deleted User] · November 2011

I?m just saying you can not have it both ways. If you want to give advice to the newbies great, I for one welcome it and normally do not have a problem with anyone. But then to turn around and complain about newbies asking for advice is hypocritical. Yes there are some god awful repetitive questions and PW like me.

But the point is if you don?t like it then ignore it. Not everyone is going to like everyone?s personalities, or posting habits or even siggy pics for that matter. So be it, whether it?s RL or the internet, just move on. Do you really have the time and energy to keep harping about the same ?Annoying PW? or ?Ridicules MUD? or ?stupid newbie? over and over. How does that make you any better?

But whatever I say comes back at me x10 so bring it on, I?m going home to have lunch with MH. Good luck OP. Hopefully you will learn your lessen much sooner then I did.

pumpkin916 · November 2011

Even though I am new, I have been lurking and have to agree, it is very annoying and frustrating seeing the same thing over and over, do the research ladies! I know what to post and what not to post. I'm the kinda of person, where if I have a question I research the crap out of it, use ALL of your resources! It won't kill ya to look back a few pages of posts or google things. If you are still unable to find an answer then I would ask.

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brookelynpaisley · November 2011

jessii26:

I?m just saying you can not have it both ways. If you want to give advice to the newbies great, I for one welcome it and normally do not have a problem with anyone. But then to turn around and complain about newbies asking for advice is hypocritical. They generally only get flack for asking Googlable questions. We'll give advice, but we don't hold hands and a lot of regs don't have patience for answering questions the answers to which are easily found in a simple Google search. You're also not taking into account that a lot of these dumb questions are probably AEs or trolls who are entertaining themselves, and the answers are snart-for-sport. Yes there are some god awful repetitive questions and PW like me.

But the point is if you don?t like it then ignore it. You're the 329847439875th person to ever suggest this novel concept, and guess what? It isn't going to change. Not everyone is going to like everyone?s personalities, or posting habits or even siggy pics for that matter. So be it, whether it?s RL or the internet, just move on. Take some of this advice for yourself, dearie. Do you really have the time and energy to keep harping about the same ?Annoying PW? or ?Ridicules MUD? or ?stupid newbie? over and over. How does that make you any better? It doesn't, but at least we're not in denial.

But whatever I say comes back at me x10 so bring it on, I?m going home to have lunch with MH. Good luck OP. Hopefully you will learn your lessen much sooner then I did.

brookelynpaisley · November 2011

SookieFrackhouse68:
Are you having burgers?

Handburgers, yes. Nom nom nom

babyike · November 2011

jessii26:
bostonbluejay:

Emmaleigh07:
I just don't see how THIS is the place that women should have to deal with flaming..we are all in the middle of dealing with CM, infertility, lost hopes and miscarriages.

No. No. Everyone here is not dealing with infertility and lost hopes. We are not ALL dealing with miscarriages. Some people are dealing with these things, but not everyone. Having lost hopes after having to move on to cycle 2 is NOT the same as dealing with infertility or miscarriage.

You are right about this and that is just horrible. No one should have to go though even half of the tragedies I have seen here in my short newbie life.

With that said, I just wish there was a place for the people who are having trouble trying to conceive to go so they can get the support they need and not have to deal with stupid annoying newbies. Or for the people who have a LO and are not even trying to conceive anymore, that would be nice as well.

Ugh it?s so frustrating that this is the ONLY board for us all to be on at the same time.

Okay, so now you're making up your own rules for the TTGP board?? WTF? Imagine the situation below for a moment, and tell me how helpful it would be...

There is a message board for trying to get pregnant and the only people allowed to participate must be brand.spanking.new to TTC. How in the heck do you expect anyone to get any sort of helpful information if all of the replies are from newbies with ZERO experience actually trying to get pregnant???

Ladies with experience TTC provide support, insight, and albeit snark when appropriate to the newbies on this board. Experience can be defined in many ways (currently pregnant, already have LOs, those with losses, those with diagnoses and/or struggling with IF, etc).

If you want to have your own effing board where you can be in charge of the posting policies and participants, then march yourself over to blogspot.com and type/copy/paste to your heart's content. Though I highly doubt anyone would take the time to even read it, but that's JMHO. Peace out.

cantalopes24 · November 2011

brookelynpaisley:

SookieFrackhouse68:
Are you having burgers?

Handburgers, yes. Nom nom nom

OMFG bishes I can't have cheese STFU about buuuuuurgers!

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brookelynpaisley · November 2011

SookieFrackhouse68:
cantalopes24:
brookelynpaisley:

SookieFrackhouse68:
Are you having burgers?

Handburgers, yes. Nom nom nom

OMFG bishes I can't have cheese STFU about buuuuuurgers!

OK, so she wants her handburger WITHOUT cheese. ::takes notes:: Would you take sunset on your burger as an alternative? I know someone who could help you with that.

Mmmmm, ooooey gooooey sunsetty sunset on your burger. Sounds delicious, Lopes.

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MeatballEsq · November 2011

slightlyslapdash:
Emmaleigh07:

I know I am not..but no one ever listens but it's still so annoying!! I went through all this 3 years ago on the knot.

I am not talking about any one thing specifically but I see tons of posts my newer members being totally treated like a dumbass..

We are all going through TTC and no person is the same that is why they choose to ask questions on a message board and not look it up...we are all just looking for a little hope.

IMHO, annoying newbies refers to people that post questions without familiarizing themselves with the board first. They ask the same exact question as someone else on the board asked two posts ago (or even a page ago) and they didn't bother to read the responses to the other questions first. ALSO, these questions that they ask are VERY easily answered in the "New to TTC Board" post and are not unique.

I have pasted responses from the welcome post in three different posts TODAY alone. AND it was the same response all three times that the OP needed. When it's blatantly obvious that you don't take the time to get to know the board and read the welcome post, then that can be annoying.

jessii26:
argonne:

We see the same questions over and over and over...

Most of them are "I have x symptom, does this mean I'm pregnant?" It gets annoying.

I have never asked a question like this, but I am still currently target #1. But the targets and or reasons why change from week to week. I just come on, get the questions that I need answered and move on. I admit sometimes I get caught up in the drama but at least I have never DD or personally started an attack. Even my haters have helped me from time to time so at the end of the day it?s all good.

I just wanted to let you know that when you use that font it is very difficult to read. I often don't read posts or try to help anyone that uses it because it is headache inducing. It would be best to change it to Arial or some other San Serif font. This can be done very easily by clicking on "HTML" and removing all of the font tags.

Yes x 10. I feel like there is a newbie font now or something.

cantalopes24 · November 2011

SookieFrackhouse68:
brookelynpaisley:
SookieFrackhouse68:
cantalopes24:
brookelynpaisley:

SookieFrackhouse68:
Are you having burgers?

Handburgers, yes. Nom nom nom

OMFG bishes I can't have cheese STFU about buuuuuurgers!

OK, so she wants her handburger WITHOUT cheese. ::takes notes:: Would you take sunset on your burger as an alternative? I know someone who could help you with that.

Mmmmm, ooooey gooooey sunsetty sunset on your burger. Sounds delicious, Lopes.

I like my burgers with extra sunset and a hint of cumulus thrown in.

All of this, but hold the pickle. Warm pickles are naaaaaasty! I would also like extra sand under my bottom bun if possible.

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