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williams4me
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What I've been dealing with..(nbr) LONG.
williams4me
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My DH has been out of town (about 7 hrs away, and comes back today) and in the last 2 days here's what I've been dealing with:
*Drunk neighbor (whom i've never talked to) tried breaking into our 3 story townhouse on Sunday night when I was home alone. I have never been so scared in my whole life.
*911 took 20 minutes to respond/arrive from my emergency call. (Luckily my Mom & her Husband who live 5 miles from us were there in about 10 once I called them) and it was a huge scene once they showed up to help me. The cops arrested him when they arrived, but could only hold him for 12 hrs, so he's out now.
*Went to our rental office early yesterday, they evicted him and his wife and gave DH and I permission to break our lease and move as soon as we find a house to rent.
*Spent all day yesterday going between Police Station and Courthouse to get the restraining order the Cop wanted me to get. Judge granted me that, thank god!
*Auto Shop, because what better F'ing day for my battery to die in my 2 year old SUV than yesterday!?!?!?!
*Now I'm waiting for my DH to arrive home around 2pm today because i'm too terrified to stay at our house alone (the dog and I have been at my Mom's) and I'm frantically looking for a house to rent!!!! We were planning on moving 12/31 when our lease was up, but now we are moving as soon as we find a place!
This has been such a scary experience, I have felt panicky since it happened, like I can't relax and I'm so anxious...I can't sleep because I keep thinking of how they might retaliate in some way, with the eviction they have 20 days to get out, and the Police will serve him his restraining order tomorrow. I'm haunted by things he said to my Mom and I. This guy is actually an E-7 in the USMC we found out...which is a pretty high ranking, so I was shocked by that, way to represent. He and his wife have 9 month old baby girl and another toddler...LOVELY! His Sgt, or whomever is above him in the military came after they arrested him and apologized to me and gave me his cell phone in case I have any problems. He said he will handle this, as they handle things much different than the law does in the Military and this was unacceptable.
Ugh. So now I am back at work today, and can.not.focus. I can't wait to see my Husband later. Of course I am stressing out about how stressed out I have been. I have been checking on our baby boy though and his little heart is beating and such a comforting sound to me. I couldn't stop thinking how something might happen to him on Sunday night. 
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Congrats to my Labor Buddy LoriJ11, baby Elise born 2/24/12
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Re: What I've been dealing with..(nbr) LONG.
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Holy crap... I don't really have advice or even anything to say (speechless)... but I hope this situation just goes away and you never have to deal with that luney again.
Have there been other weird encounters with this guy?
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That is absolutely insane! I'd be more than freaked out. Do you have any idea why he was trying to break into your house?
I hope you are able to find a new place quickly, although I can imagine how stressful that must be.
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Well 2 weeks ago I reported him to my front office, because he comes home WASTED like 2 weekend a month between 2-3am and pounds on their doors/windows....his wife always has him locked out so I am not sure if they are split up right now or not. He's always with a couple big scary looking guys, and that night when she wouldn't let him in I watched him climb the wall to her 2nd story and stand in her window ledge, cut the screen w/ a pocket knife and crawled in through the kitchen window. There have been other similar things, but I was always scared to report it because I am home alone a lot at night when DH closes the restaurant. So the office gave them a "written waring" and I know they know it was me who did it. Our front doors face each other although they are all separate buildings...it's obvious who would have complained.
BFP #1 12/30/10 ** EDD: 9/6/11** H/B stopped at 10w 6d conf on 2/22/11 ** D&C 2/24/11.
Congrats to my Labor Buddy LoriJ11, baby Elise born 2/24/12
Wow. What a scary week you have had. I am sorry you had to go through that, especially alone. How awful!
Glad that your H is coming home though. That should help to ease your mind.
Thank goodness you got out of your lease earlier. Hopefully that will bring you some kind of comfort.
Holy cow. I'm glad that you were able to get an order of protection, and that you will be moving. It sounds like there might be some kind of domestic dispute going on, and that it never a fun thing to get tangled up in, especially when it sounds like the aggressor has a major drinking problem. I can't believe that he tried to break into your house, but it's crazy what people will do when they are on drugs or heavily drinking. My T&P's will be with you that you can move soon, but at least right now you are safe at your mom's house!
Also, if I were you, I would try to follow up with his Sgt and make sure that appropriate action was taken. If it seems like it hasn't been, I wouldn't hesitate to go up the ladder with this one. This guy sounds totally BSC and potentially dangerous.
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That is too much to have to deal with. I am so sorry that happened.
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OMG, that is soooo scary!! I'm so sorry you had to go through that! I hate when DH is out of town. Every noise scares that crap out of me. I hope you guys find a new place to rent soon!
ETA: Have you looked on Craigslist? That's where I listed our condo that we rented out.
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On the upside, you get to move before January and set up a nursery even earlier!!!! I have to say that I am a little jealous of this. We would have to pay 3 months rent to break our lease. FX that you find a place asap!!
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OMG, how terrifying! I'm so sorry you have been going through all of that. I'm so glad your husband is coming home today. I hope you guys find a new place very quickly and crazy man doesn't try to do anything to retaliate in the mean time.
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I'm sitting at work searching Craigslist and listings for house rentals and leaving messages.... don't see myself getting much work done today...
BFP #1 12/30/10 ** EDD: 9/6/11** H/B stopped at 10w 6d conf on 2/22/11 ** D&C 2/24/11.
Congrats to my Labor Buddy LoriJ11, baby Elise born 2/24/12
Buddy I saw this on your fb and was like ...what????>>>>
Glad that your DH will be home today. That guy sounds bat crazy!
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Wow. I am so sorry you had to go through that on Sunday and so glad that things worked out the way they did. I can't imagine how scary that must have been.
Big {{hugs}} and good luck on the housing search. I'm sure you're probably trying to conserve some of your vacation days for when Owen comes, but is there any way you could take a day or two off to look and just recover from this weekend?
Oh WOW.
Why was he trying to break into your house?
That's awful. I'm so sorry you are dealing with tht on top of getting a new house and being pregnant. *hugs*
Oh how scary! I hope your DH is home by now and you're feeling a little better with him by your side.
I hope you guys find a new place ASAP so you can relax a bit!
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Oh hun... I am so sorry for what you are going through. I hope you are able to find a new place very soon. T&P to you.
FWIW- I am a (former) Marine too... and although only an E-5... I would be happy to kick that scuzz bcuket's ever-loving @ss up and down your street. Jerk. I'm sure his higher ups will take *goooood* care of him.
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. I had something similar happen years ago when I was living alone before my DH and I were married. The guy living above me (also a Marine), and his GF got into a huge fight and she yelled "help me" from their deck. Moments later I heard them leave their apartment - she was running from him and he was chasing her. I called the cops and then turned out my lights and watched from my room. Long story short, he was arrested. My landlord came over and I don't know how, but she found out I called the police, so she asked me to give them a statement. I had asked to remain anonymous to the 911 dispatch, so I reluctantly went upstairs in the hall and gave the cop my story (what I'd seen). Of course the girlfriend was there and she saw me.
The next week I got served papers to appear in court. This freaked me out even more. The guy came downstairs to apologize and talked about how this would not go well for him and his military career (somewhat intimidating me). I didn't feel comfortable living there anymore but had no choice. The guy would shoot me some dirty looks from his balcony when I was in the parking lot. My brother came over once and stood down in the parking lot staring back at him as if daring him to try something.
I ended up going to the hearing but never had to testify - he got probation or something. I spoke to a customer of mine who was a cop and she told me he was not allowed to talk to me once I was served papers because it could be considered witness tampering. She also said he would be in deep doo-doo with the marines...which I'm assuming he was.
Needless to say some other crazy things happened after all that and finally he was evicted. The sad thing is it caused me to second guess if I should get involved in someone else's matters. You did the right thing...but it could be a difficult month ahead!