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MandiNewMommy
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Intro and question
MandiNewMommy
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Hello Ladies...
I posted here when I first found out I was knocked up but that was well almost a yr ago. I have a DS who turned 12 weeks yesterday. The father was an old friend...we got drunk and I got KU. He had told me him and his wife were getting a divorce and all this BS. Well once he found out I was keeping the baby he wanted nothing to do with me or him. I have not heard from him sence last Jan. Well I filed the papers for him to have to pay child support and I have to take DS tomorrow to the court house because he saying he is not the father so for the DNA testing. My question is, is that all they will do tomorrow? I am freaking out!!! I really don't understand why they would make us all go at the same time, but whatever. I now wish that I would not have even filed the damn papers so I wouldn't have to put lil man though this. I do not the the "sperm donor" will want to see him but I dont know what I am going to do if he does. Okay I am ramble. TIA and sorry about the ramble!
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Re: Intro and question
Oh how I love when women refer to being pregnant as being knocked up. Classy.
Anyway. I was married to the father of my child, so I never had to do DNA testing. Do you know for a fact all three of you have to appear? I find that odd. And it's likely you're stressing out about nothing. They'll swab you and DS and eventually the guy you say is his father. He'll get the results, if he's the father the courts will start the process of awarding child support.
You may be hardpressed to get legit advice when you knowingly slept with a married man. The women around here don't take to that too kindly, since a lot of us were cheated on by our husbands with women like you.
From what I remember when my friend went through it, yes it is. I don't think they had him with his ex and their son though. This was Dayton though, but I don't think Cincinnati is much different.
Oh, so now you're the victim? I wasn't talking down to you -- I was just saying that you probably won't get legit advice because the women on here don't take kindly to OW's of any shape or form. Especially not those who are playing the victim card.
I'm terribly sorry you lost your husband, but that's as far as my apology will go. And yes, I judge people who refer to being pregnant as being/getting knocked up. Same as I judge those who call the father of their children "baby daddy". Ugh.
Wow...well I guess not all of us can be as good at this as you can. I am not saying I am victim!!! I am not trying to make anyone feel sorry for me. I am trying to get answers. I am saying I love my child just like each and everyone of you do. Again I came to ask a question...not be talked down to. Didn't your mother teach you "If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all"
And thanks to the REAL women who answer my question the best she could.
Your a class act arent you b!tch..... As someone who has seen all sides of that type of thing play out, I can say that you are really dumb and naive.
Awww, is that where you will be heading?
::Waves hi to my friend Mandi::
I'm sorry this board seems to have judged you so harshly. Like me, your story is complicated and can be hard to sum up in a few paragraphs on the board.
I can't answer the DNA question, but want to wish you good luck. I hope things go smoothly.
Luckly, it was not the whole board. It was just one person with a stick up her @ss.
Nope, no stick here. And trust me, I know plenty of regulars on this board who are thinking the same things I'm saying.
I'm just thankful your opinions don't mean anything to me. Phew, crisis averted!
Riiiiiiiight...... because the quote, "a lot of us were cheated on by our husbands with women like you" signifies what, if not a stick up your @ss?
And as for the other regulars on the board having a problem with this wonderful woman, I dont see anyone but you.
I'm not one usually to jump into drama but I do agree with Pretty here. Most people reading this are rolling their eyes at you. Just want you to know Pretty isn't the only one supposedly with a "stick up her a$$".
Your grammar and spelling alone makes me give you the side-eye.
Haha.... 11 posts and joined 7 days ago
I would definitely be one of those regulars rolling my eyes.
OP: You made it sound like you were the victim because you had lost your husband the year before so he was taking advantage of your weakend state. Same thing could be said for you though. You took advantage of him because he was weak from the break up of him and his wife. You're just as much to blame as him.
And going out and sleeping with an old friend does somewhat make you look like a slut. It is what it is.
:Lurker to this board:
Obviously, Washington, you spend little to no time here, because if you did you would know immediately why ChunkyMunkey has the statistics you listed. What a lame@ss attempt to cut someone down. Why don't you try dissecting her point/argument instead??
OP: Regardless of the circumstances surrounding the conception of your LO, congrats to you for standing up for his rights in the form of seeking CS. I would assume the test will be in the form of a cheek swab. Don't go borrowing things to worry about..:o) You'll be fine.
Thumbs up.