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Kyle523Nicole
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BFP 5.31.2011 ~*~ Michael Joseph ~*~ BORN 2.8.2012
Serving Cake & Punch Only
Kyle523Nicole
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in Baby Showers
My MIL has decided to only serve cake & punch (well, and coffee & water) at the shower she is hosting & to have it at 3pm so that it isn't at a major meal time.
She asked me how I want the invitation worded so that people don't expect to be fed a meal, just dessert.
But I have no clue lol. Any suggestions?
BFP 5.31.2011 ~*~ Michael Joseph ~*~ BORN 2.8.2012
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Re: Serving Cake & Punch Only
BFP 5.31.2011 ~*~ Michael Joseph ~*~ BORN 2.8.2012
She could call it "Afternoon Tea" but even then she should add muffins, tea, and even one type of finger sandwich.
If finances are an issue for her can you offer to have finger sandwiches catered?
Holy crap... our wedding was 150 people and that was males AND females!
Are you REALLY close enough with 150 women to warrant them all getting an invite to your shower?
Even if you are, I have to agree.... to invite so many and not even feed them just seems really gift grabby! I would tell you MIL this is not acceptable, and often to kick in some money for some real food if need be!
Oddly enough - I know every single person on the list personally. My MIL is one of 12 children, so she has a MASSIVE family and we're all very close.
I will ask her about maybe serving some sort of veggie/cracker/deli tray instead of just dessert.
Thanks so much ladies!!
BFP 5.31.2011 ~*~ Michael Joseph ~*~ BORN 2.8.2012
I live in the midwest, and I've been "lucky" enough to attend a sh!t ton of showers in my day. It's very common in my area to only serve cake and punch, in fact I was totally shocked when I came to the bump to find people serving sandwiches and especially full meals. I've only ever attended one shower where a meal was provided, it was co-ed and awkward and didn't feel like a shower at all. I think if the shower is held in the afternoon people will recognize, okay prolly cake or snackies only.
Friend, what you should be worried about is how you're going to handle gift opening. I had 1/3 of that at my shower and opening presents took a long time!
No, but I'd expect a couple of finger foods.
This. Although, a non cake option should be offered for those who can't eat sweets because of diabetes or whatever. I think there were pretzels and mixed nuts at one of my showers, along with cake and those mints that everyone always has at showers and weddings.
I love it when people answer the actual question! The only think I would maybe consider changing is adding an end time like 3-5pm so there's no confusion about the shower running into a meal time.
On a side note - was the idea to have a lot of sheet cakes? Because one cake that's large enough for 150 people is like a 3-tier wedding cake. Just a thought: conside call it "desserts and punch" and offer different cakes, pies, brownies, cookies. Would that be easier logistically? GL!
This.
Not to mention that while the shower begins at 3, it'll last well into dinner time with the amount of guests that will be attending.
I don't see a problem with a cake and punch only shower. But I do see the the PP point that with 150 people the shower may very well last into dinnertime.
I think it would be rude to ask the host to extend herself even more. If you want other options to be available, then offer to provide them yourself. Even just providing drinks and cake for 150 people could be expensive.
The best way to cut costs is to cut that ridiculous guest list.
I think it is very cvnty of a guest to expect to be fed at a baby shower simply because she showed up with a gift.
Yes, OP...make sure your mother knows that this cannot be so and that it's making Ghouliegirl uncomfortable. Nothing worse then a twat who is uncomfortable
That being said, while I don't think you should put out a full meal at 3pm, I think veggie/cheese/fruit tray would be appropriate. If you can't provide a comfortable experience for your guests because you don't have enough money, cut the guest list down.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.