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Feeling Intimidated By The Pros
I'm brand new to all this. And while I've lurked for months, read as many "NewB Advice" posts as I can, and refer to the glossary often, this is still a very intimidating undertaking. While I appreciate the wisdom of those who've been here for a while, I'm looking for a friend. Someone going through the same emotions and thoughts that I am. I don't appreciate the sarcasm and ill will that some seem to project.
I'm sure everyone finds their place on the bump, but for those of us prepared to make a few mistakes before we get the hang of all this...I'm new too. Hoping to use this site for a good distraction, hope, information and friendship. I'm glad to be here and wish all the other NewB's GL. 
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Re: Feeling Intimidated By The Pros
I am new also! I agree with you! Some of the posts I have read are a little harsh! But I am still putting myself out there, asking questions, etc. Why not? I figure I can ignore anything I choose to, and gain insight and learn from other mothers where ever possible. I have only been posting the last couple of days, but I am enjoying it! Have you figured out the "ticker" thing yet? I have not, if you figure it out let me know!
One, great attitude. You have to have a bit of a thick skin to be on a public message board, and it sounds like you've found a good balance. And I can't recommend lurking strongly enough.
Two, see any post by Ambsies. She has a link in her signature on codes, etc. for The Bump. There should be something about tickers in there.
GL
I'm in the same boat with you! I've been lurking here for a bit (as well as over on The Knot), and I'm too scared to make a post of my own because I don't want to be torn to shreds by the veterans for saying the wrong thing!
Hopefully, we both find our place among all the other Bumpies. Good luck and much baby dust to you.
I definitley agree on the thick-skin comment. I'm taking some of the comments a little too personally. Even when they're not directed at me!!
How long have you been TTC MrsNorry?
Please tell me you're being monitored and that you had a full workup before starting Clomid.
Best of luck with the Clomid. I'm sure a little nervous about that, but it sounds like you have a positive attitude. Hopefully you're not on the TTGP board for much longer
I started bumping becuase I'm not ready to tell my friends/family we're TTC yet. I guess I just don't want any added pressure. My best GF knows, but she's not on the baby train just yet, so I just don't feel like she's understanding this whole process. The support here seems to be really great.
Hello
I'm new to the BUMP boards too. I have a hard time with all the abbreviations. I don't have time to go to the glossary after reading every post to look up what people are trying to say. And I also agree, people's sarcasm and snotty attitudes (esp on the Nest) made me feel unwelcome, so I just stopped trying to be apart of those boards. I'm hoping the ladies on the bump are nicer.
Dont worry too much about the abbreviations. You will find that you catch on pretty quickly. I'd like to say "just ask" if you can't figure it out but I know occasionally someone will respond rudely to that since "you could just look it up". But I think most people would be willing to answer. You could always book mark the glossary too for easy access.
Some boards are much nicer than others. I've personally found the boards that you dont want to ever have to be a part of (infertility, TTCAL (trying to conceive after a loss) and the miscarriage boards, etc) are full of the sweetest women you'll ever meet. Whereas there is a lot more drama on other boards.
Keep lurking. Make a couple intros and chime in! Welcome!
[spoiler] My Blog: Grow Baby Grow
BFP #1: 12/2009 m/c 1/2010 BFP #2: 6/2010 m/c 8/2010
BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!
Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500
First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat
LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!
TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015
Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015
Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270
First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.
JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.
TTC #3: Since October 2017. BFP #6 July 2, 2018 EDD: March 16, 2019 [/spoiler]
BFP#1 10 wk missed mc
BFP#2 DS born at 40+2 on 8/14/12 BFP#3 DD Born at 39+3 on 5/13/14
I was a lurker for a while. I've started posting just recently and I am, at times, appauled at how people treat one another - especially in TTGP.
Although I am not an avid poster, I've kind of learned the things to avoid which seem to push some of these womens buttons. PM me if you'd like to chat! GL!
I am so glad to be reading these messages to know that it wasn't just me that has been seeing this going on... but I am still very disturbed by some of the snotty/snarky/just plain bitchy comments I've received/read on the very few posts I've made.
I mean, we're all women. We're all working towards the same goal here.. shouldn't we be supporting each other instead of slamming someone for, god forbid, posting something on the wrong board? Or saying the wrong word? Or being new? I know I graduated from high school quite a while ago... apparently there are some on here that are still very much in that mindset. It boggles my mind.
I'm not sure how much longer I will participate on these boards. I was really just looking for a place to learn from others' experiences and share information. But my life is just too full/busy/wonderful to deal with little girls' petty high school bullshit.
Sorry for the vent... I hope others have a better experience and have very much luck with their TTC journies!
BFP#1 10 wk missed mc
BFP#2 DS born at 40+2 on 8/14/12 BFP#3 DD Born at 39+3 on 5/13/14