Upset with Navy life (venting)

caityxsweetie · November 2011

Horomones are doing their part in making me a hot mess, and Navy life isn't helping. Hubby and I just moved to Florida on orders in early October. It is the first time I've moved away from home. We know absolutely no one here and with the first baby on the way I am an emotional mess. No friends, no family, and hubby will be shipping out to sea 2 weeks before the baby is born. Fifty million things are running through my head. Having this baby alone, how am I going to do it? Emotionally I think I'm going to fall apart.

Have any other military wifes gone through this? How did you handle it all alone?

ufsandra85 · November 2011

find a good support network. moving away is really hard and I would have never survived all the crap in my life this year without my amazing friends. they are like a family away from home. Are you in Jacksonville?

Krysta Cazzell · November 2011

My hubby is in the Marines but is currently deployed on a MEU.. He left when I was 19 weeks pregnant and I had our little girl in August. I'm not in a completely different state alone. But I have been doing everything alone and it is really hard. Granted my family is close but I don't have nearly as much help as I want/need. Would moving home with family be an option while he is gone? After I had our daughter I went through a major depression the first two weeks! I cried all the time, trying to adjust to being a mom and learning how to do it on my own. It caused a major strain between me and my husband because he couldn't understand why I was so upset and I couldn't really explain. I am no expert.. but the best thing for me was to be close to home. So if this is an option for you, I would try it!

caityxsweetie · November 2011

I'm not very sure where to find a support network? Yes, we are in Jacksonville.

caityxsweetie · November 2011

I really wish moving home was an option, but with Tricare it seems they aren't going to be very easy to work with in moving towards the end of pregnancy to have the baby at home.

NSL · November 2011

I had our second son while H was deployed. My best advice to you is to get out there and start making friends. If you don't work, sign up for classes at the local community college/university. Get involved with the FRG (or Navy equivalent) and spouse's club. Don't sit around the house waiting for people to come to you, go out and meet them whether it's on post or out in the community.

F15Wife · November 2011

See if you can get involved with your husbands squadron or any spouses club.

ahale906 · November 2011

Hello! Well I can COMPLETLY agree with you! We moved from Northern California to Jacksonville FL when I was 37.5 weeks pregnant with my 1st! Talk about culture SHOCK!!! The day I went into labor with my son it was supposed to be my husbands 1st day to work. He's a corpsmen and was stationed at the hospital but they only gave him 24 hours off from work Angry

I ended up having a c-section and having to be completly knocked out for it. Recovery was horrible as he had to go to work 8 hours after we had our son. I didnt know ANYONE there! It was bad...but once we moved on base it got better. People were nice and we had a lot of single guys that worked with my husband over all the time it seemed. I would say get out and meet some neighbor's, ONLY if you are in base housing...I can give you some serious area's of Jax to NOT go to! If you want send me a friend request on fb and I'll try to help you out with stuff. I still have friends stationed there. Are you at NAS or Mayport? (you can send me a message on fb if you want...I probably wouldnt answer that quesion online..sorry)

soontobemomma · November 2011

If tricare is the only thing keeping you where you are, don't worry about them. Talk to them and get a person who can explain what you'd need to do. People are moved with orders all the time, and tricare covers them, no matter where they are at in their pregnancies. I moved to join DH at 32 weeks with no issue when I was pregnant with Dd1

Some people strongly believe you should be a "grown up" and stay and do it alone. But the first few months with a newborn is HARD. Wonderful, but hard. If you have a good relationship with your family, it can be a great thing to be with them during this time. They will love being around the new baby, and you will have some much needed help.

GL!

NCMOM2THREE · November 2011

meetup.com is a good site to meet new people in your area. You can find local meetings in public places. There should also be someone in your husbands unit that will help you through stuff like this. Civilian liaison. Can't think of their name right now.

Just start asking questions and see if you husband can find out anything right now. I think you can switch to Tricare Standard and it is like any other insurance. You just need to find a OB and a Hospital that accepts it and you should be good to go.

I'm on my 3rd child. My 2nd was born while my husband was going through pre-deployment training. He got to meet him, but then had to deploy. It is never easy, but I promise that finding your own friends and support group as FAST as you can will make the transition easier!

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