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Irisheyes1247 · November 2011

Will you have LO visit you in the hospital or wait to bring baby home?

4-Ever-Young · November 2011

Planning on her visiting right after I deliver.

Rowenarg · November 2011

Both of my girls will visit me in the hospital but since I need Daddy to take care of 'em unfortunately he can't stay at the hospital over night with me. We did this last time too. We'll find someone to watch the girls on the day I give birth and after that Daddy picks them up and is on Daddy duty until I come back home.

Ya know, my oldest is 5 and I really wanted her to be there to witness the birth but when I started reading up on it, it just seemed like a bad idea. Lots of people say its traumatizing for a young child. They associate blood and pain with something really bad and they are terrified even if you prepare them beforehand and explain to them that that is whats supposed to happen. So I think I'll leave her out, I don't want her to be scared.

mommynpink · November 2011

Visit at the hospital.

SassyRedhead · November 2011

probably come visit depends on schedules and if my mom can fly in or not

greengirl0909 · November 2011

Come to the hospital, ASAP. I'm stressed about being away from him. I know this makes me a nerd, but it is what it is!

mrsawtry2B · November 2011

Since DD will almost be 4, I plan on her visiting - probably coming in right after I am cleaned up and such. However, if she were a bit younger, I might have a different opinion as I don't know that she would understand everything and it may upset/overwhelm her somewhat. However, I am the oldest of 4 and never went to the hospital to see new baby brothers/sister and I am 100% ok with that.

Irisheyes1247 · November 2011

I *think* I would like her to come to the hospital and see the baby, but I have also heard that it can be scary for LO with all the "equipment" around and although I don't think she would be like this, if she cries because she is leaving me behind I will probably fall apart (again, thanks hormones). I want to include her, but I want to ease her transition with this too, and I am not sure how best to introduce the baby...

books4brooke · November 2011

I don't know. I've been debating that myself. On the one hand, I want K to see us. But I also don't want him to worry seeing me in the hospital. I think it will kind of depend on the circumstances.

goosh24 · November 2011

Irisheyes1247:
I *think* I would like her to come to the hospital and see the baby, but I have also heard that it can be scary for LO with all the "equipment" around and although I don't think she would be like this, if she cries because she is leaving me behind I will probably fall apart (again, thanks hormones). I want to include her, but I want to ease her transition with this too, and I am not sure how best to introduce the baby...

I have the same fear that her leaving will not go well if she comes to the hospital, BC J is a momma's girl for sure. And I cried on my way to the A/S BC I thought about having to be away from her for at least one night. I guess it depends on how long I'll be there for. If she does come I want it to just be the 4 of us, no one extra. I love my MIL but she would love to be there for that and I think its a personal time for just us.

Mrs_MBed · November 2011

It will depend on when the boys are delivered. When I was pg with DD2 the plan was to bring DD1 to visit several times (planned c/s, so I knew I'd be in the hospital for a few days), so that way she could meet DD2 so it wouldn't be too much of a surprise. That plan right out the window when DD2 was born at 33 wks and needed to be put on a ventilator and was covered in tubes/wires/leads, etc. We did not let her come to the hospital until DD2 was just on the sticker leads (heartrate/O2 rate) which could be hidden by swaddling - we didn't want to scare DD1.

If we are able to keep the boys in long enough to avoid the NICU, we'll bring them in to meet them before I come home.

Irisheyes1247 · November 2011

goosh24:
Irisheyes1247:
I *think* I would like her to come to the hospital and see the baby, but I have also heard that it can be scary for LO with all the "equipment" around and although I don't think she would be like this, if she cries because she is leaving me behind I will probably fall apart (again, thanks hormones). I want to include her, but I want to ease her transition with this too, and I am not sure how best to introduce the baby...
I have the same fear that her leaving will not go well if she comes to the hospital, BC J is a momma's girl for sure. And I cried on my way to the A/S BC I thought about having to be away from her for at least one night. I guess it depends on how long I'll be there for. If she does come I want it to just be the 4 of us, no one extra. I love my MIL but she would love to be there for that and I think its a personal time for just us.

Oh this is another thing. I would really like to have just the 4 of us, and my mother will be in the room for the delivery and so then what will I do, turn to her and say, "get lost"? And last time a bunch of people were waiting to visit, which I know I can tell them to wait, but I liked the visiting and excitement, and I want to wait until a quiet time to have DD meet her sibling. Also I don't want to mess her schedule up too much.

Mrs_MBed · November 2011

Irisheyes1247:
I *think* I would like her to come to the hospital and see the baby, but I have also heard that it can be scary for LO with all the "equipment" around and although I don't think she would be like this, if she cries because she is leaving me behind I will probably fall apart (again, thanks hormones). I want to include her, but I want to ease her transition with this too, and I am not sure how best to introduce the baby...

Maybe you can have her come and visit you on the day you discharge? That way, she can met LO on "neutral" ground so to speak and leave when you do. DD1 was very excited to come with DH and I to take DD2 home from the NICU.

sunnyday016 · November 2011

She'll definitely be coming to the hospital, probably in the care of my parents. I can't wait for her to meet her brother!

Lisichka · November 2011

I haven't checked with the hospital yet (heck, I'm not even sure where I'll be delivering since we're moving in a couple of weeks), but if they allow children, then yes, DD will come visit me and the baby at the hospital.

ktekne · November 2011

I'm hoping DD can visit but she'll only be 18 months. It's still considered flu season and the hospital where I'll deliver has strict rules on visitation for anyone under 17.

Ivana_Stolichnaya · November 2011

In the hospital....if children are allowed of course. I know during Oct. no minor's were allowed in L&D because of the flu. I'm not sure what the rules are with March.

addison_clark · November 2011

When my DD was born, the swine flu was everywhere and so no children were allowed in the hospital. So DS has to wait until I was icharged to meet his new sister. This time around, I hope for a family member to bring both my kids in to the hospital to meet the baby. After I am in recovery of course and ready for visitors.

kmberman · November 2011

I plan on having DS there right after LO makes his grand entrance....i want my family all there and together. and plus I dont want DS to feel left out or any less important once the baby gets here

kmiller1012 · November 2011

I plan on having DS come sometime after we are settled in our new room. My parents live right down the street from the hospital and DS will be staying with them. I don't think the hospital will scare him since he will only be 15 mos, but I do worry about when it is time for him to leave. I don't want to make it hard on him where he gets to see me but not stay with me. DH wouldn't leave me alone at the hospital last time but hopefully I can convince him to stay the night at my parents w/DS if he is upset.

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