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Late Term and Child Loss
pb127
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Stabbed in the heart...
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I went for my f/u at the OB after my D&C today at the same doctor's office as where I delivered DS in Feb too. I LOVE my doctor and I love the intake medical assistant but I feel like I've just been stabbed in the heart. As soon as I sat down, the medical assistant asked me how my son is doing... Cue immediate tears, sobbing, ugly crying, runny nose... the whole mess. I told her (for the millionth time) that he was born still and now I've also miscarried again. She felt so bad.... I adore this lady but COME ON!
When my OB saw me, I was still sobbing and she was so upset for me. I asked her to please flag my chart and those of other loss moms because I'm sure it hurts them too, and my OB said she'd find a way to make sure this never happens again. I know this will always hurt, but it's still hard.
I also found out today that our twins were girls. Bittersweet... now we have a little boy and 2 little girls... no takehome babies yet.
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Re: Stabbed in the heart...
Jenn
IVF#1 BFN IVF#2 BFP, loss at 19 weeks FET#1 BFN IVF#3 BFP, m/c FET#2 BFN
Missing our twins Zachary and Madison, lost at 19 weeks on 11/13/09, edd 4/9/10
BFP 7/17/10, m/c 7/25/10, edd 3/25/11
Ectopic, lost left tube 4/20/11, edd 12/6/11
my blog
BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
Too beautiful for this earth
BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
Omg. So very sorry. :-(
Big big hugs.
Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012
After a much needed sanity break... we are praying for our rainbows
((BFP 7/29/13)) ((EDD 4/12/14)) It's BOY/GIRL twins!!!
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I'm so sorry. That has got to hurt
When I called to make my f/u appointment I told them (through tears) to mark my chart that Aidan didn't survive. The day before my appt my dr called to offer to let me come in after hours or through a back door so I wouldn't have to sit in the waiting room.
*HUGE HUGS* I'm sorry you had to experience this, Lovey!
I had 2 similar experiences. When I called for my f/u and to have my staples removed, the receptionist asked me when I had the baby (for charting purposes?) and then congratulated me asking me how he was doing. This was my OB's office so my doctor had been given updates and later informed me she had called everyday to check on me and baby (I was taken to another hospital because I was so early). I informed her my baby died and that she should have known that from my chart. They sent flowers the next day.
The other was with the billing office at the hospital. The woman asking for money (2 weeks later) said "congratulations." I was so upset that I wrote a letter to someone at the hospital telling them that "the same hospital that took care of my baby, watched him die, and then sent me out the door with a brochure to a support group was now telling me "congratulations." They should have known of all people." They responded with a huge apology telling me that most files are flagged. Somehow, mine got missed. They stressed that they would re-evaluate and ensure no parents have to go through what I did.
I'm sad that so many of us have had this experience!! Thanks for the support!! ((hugs)) all around
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