Why is everyone so mean

LilyPotter218 · October 2011

lildevil968:
Question. Is said friend the baby daddy? That would make this alot more interesting.

We can only hope... It's not even 4 yet

ipookie8 · October 2011

OP: There will always be some "mean" person in your life. It is wise to accept this now and learn to create for yourself some tough skin.

I've also noticed on a lot of these pregnancy boards (I frequent one on my android device) there are cliques of woman (and men) who seem to find themselves agreeing on a lot of different issues so they become friends and often "gang" up on certain posters who do not quite fit their mold or who have bizarre or (to them) common sense-type questions that they then mock.

In some cases, these bullies do have good points and it's difficult to argue with their no-nonsense approach. However, I feel that having a little bit of heart and compassion for a less-fortunate soul is a rather becoming trait to have as a person.

You just need to remember that not all people have the same personality as you, or as someone you desire speaking with. Plenty of cold, vile and often downright vapid people will comment on your posts especially if your posts are deemed "fake" or wildly apparent to most people as to what should be done.

I personally know a few people who are oblivious, as I like to call them. They are not aware of inappropriate behavior or dangers and do not see obvious issues with certain circumstances like the majority does. I feel like, in this instance perhaps you are one of these oblivious people. To the majority, it is apparent what we would chose (easy being the person outside looking in) but often times we (the majority) do not know the whole story and do not live your day-to-day life... It may be just as difficult for you to pack up and leave as it may be for an abused woman (which studies show time and time again that this is a cycle of abuse). I am concerned for your lack of insight into this issue. If you are ever afraid of your husband for any reason whatsoever, please seek professional help with or without him. If he is the type of person to lash out and be violent, remove yourself and your children from the equation in the safest way possible and definitely with help from a professional agency. Sometimes men like this have an unbelievable grasp on women that many of us cannot comprehend, including yourself.

I wish you the best and you are welcome to PM me if you would like to discuss anything in private.

ipookie8 · October 2011

*women

fathersbride24 · October 2011

I am not scared of my husband. The times he went to jail for beating people up was when he was drunk and someone said something stupid or mean to him. He has never done anything to me and he is a good guy. I'm sure if you told your husbands about their best friend saying these things to you they would get angry too. And no his best friend is no the baby's dad. We only flirt with each other every now and then in fun, but it has never gone any further.

jbklove12 · October 2011

fathersbride24:
I am not scared of my husband. The times he went to jail for beating people up was when he was drunk and someone said something stupid or mean to him. He has never done anything to me and he is a good guy. I'm sure if you told your husbands about their best friend saying these things to you they would get angry too. And no his best friend is no the baby's dad. We only flirt with each other every now and then in fun, but it has never gone any further.

Don't you find it odd that #1 you feel as if you can't even tell something, this drastic and important to you, to your husband? The person you married and the person you are having a child with? And #2: you find it ok to admit to flirting with your husbands best friend every now and then and you are coming on here asking us what we think?? Really?

In my opinion.. this is BS. And I think that you are fake. If it is real.. I think that you like the attention from this man and that you want to send him pics and that you will soon have an affair with this guy WHILE you are pregnant! GROSS!!

Funny.. you are still bold enough to keep trying to explain your story.. most people that aren't Making Up Drama wouldn't keep coming back explaining themselves.. but thanks for the good laugh and entertainment you gave us all today!

Confused

LilyPotter218 · October 2011

fathersbride24:
I am not scared of my husband. The times he went to jail for beating people up was when he was drunk and someone said something stupid or mean to him. He has never done anything to me and he is a good guy. I'm sure if you told your husbands about their best friend saying these things to you they would get angry too. And no his best friend is no the baby's dad. We only flirt with each other every now and then in fun, but it has never gone any further.

Why we think you are MUD or should be on Springer... And why you are not being taken seriously.

1. Your H has been to jail multiple times for beating people up. Drunk or not this is an issue.

2. If my H's friend said this to me he would be angry, but he is an adult, therefore would not beat the sh*t out of anyone.

3. You think it is OK to flirt with this man. I would say you are both crossing lines here.

4. The text about sharing and being worried that your H will agree? I have no advice here. I really think Springer would be interested in this one. Maybe you should call?

5. Your sister should be giving you advice not sending you to internet strangers.

I know there is more but it is 4 and my pregnant brain is fried. You need to talk to your H if you are not a troll. If you can't b/c he will get tossed in jail, you need to think seriously about the man you will be raising a child with...

ephillips1981 · October 2011

fathersbride24:
I am afraid to tell my husband because he might go into a rage a beat his friend up. I don't want to be responsible for breaking up a friendship that has been going since high school. My husband is never mean to me, but I don't want him to beat someone up and go to jail again before our baby comes.

I would tell him. Your husband is there to support you and just like you would want to know if a good friend of yours was hitting on him. He would want to know the same. Men feel the need to protect so hopefully he is mature enough to not do something rash, but maybe he could make a phone call instead and then meet with him once he has calmed down. Just a thought!

dragossoul84 · October 2011

fathersbride24:
I am not scared of my husband. The times he went to jail for beating people up was when he was drunk and someone said something stupid or mean to him. He has never done anything to me and he is a good guy. I'm sure if you told your husbands about their best friend saying these things to you they would get angry too. And no his best friend is no the baby's dad. We only flirt with each other every now and then in fun, but it has never gone any further.

A good guy doesnt beat some one up when they say something they dont like. It sounds like your looking for an affair. You flirt with this guy you dont know what to now that he's let you in on his fetish. Maybe you will be lucky and your husband will say yes and loan you out to this man. Never in my life would I ever have to worry if my husband would be okay with this kind of crap and if his friend was behaving like this in our marriage a few friendships were ended due to the way people behaved but in the end it was their faults for being sub par friends.

mlebates · October 2011

fathersbride24:
I am not scared of my husband. The times he went to jail for beating people up was when he was drunk and someone said something stupid or mean to him. He has never done anything to me and he is a good guy. I'm sure if you told your husbands about their best friend saying these things to you they would get angry too. And no his best friend is no the baby's dad. We only flirt with each other every now and then in fun, but it has never gone any further.

Before I go back to "actually" working... I have to say this. ARE YOU EFFING MAD?! If this isn't MUD you are CRAZY and should see someone about your issues. Seriously... *I* would NEVER think it's ok to flirt w/ any of my DH's friends at any point! No wonder this moron thinks it's ok to confront you innapropriately. PS you're a moron in this situation too!

If I was ever in this situation (and I had one of my previous bf's friends hit on me while I was involved w/ my bf - prior to marriage of course but was never pregnant before marriage) I would immediately tell said moron to get away from me and NEVER speak to me again, THEN I would tell my DH about his moron friend. If your husband has a history of violence (and this is part of where you're a moron comes in) than maybe you should tell your husband anyway so your husband can beat it into this guy. IF this moron valued his friendship w/ your DH than he wouldn't even cross the boundry which you BOTH obviously have. And you thinking about sending him pictures... you've already committed adultry in your mind at that point. What is so wrong w/ your husband (I mean besides the fact that you make him sound like rage filled felon) that you feel the need to even entertain this idiot? YOU have problems and need to seek treatment.

ipookie8 · October 2011

dragossoul84:
fathersbride24:
I am not scared of my husband. The times he went to jail for beating people up was when he was drunk and someone said something stupid or mean to him. He has never done anything to me and he is a good guy. I'm sure if you told your husbands about their best friend saying these things to you they would get angry too. And no his best friend is no the baby's dad. We only flirt with each other every now and then in fun, but it has never gone any further.

A good guy doesnt beat some one up when they say something they dont like. It sounds like your looking for an affair. You flirt with this guy you dont know what to now that he's let you in on his fetish. Maybe you will be lucky and your husband will say yes and loan you out to this man. Never in my life would I ever have to worry if my husband would be okay with this kind of crap and if his friend was behaving like this in our marriage a few friendships were ended due to the way people behaved but in the end it was their faults for being sub par friends.

THIS.

foxxy1 · October 2011

ImThisBabysMom:
You don't know my lyfe!!

Quoted for emphasis.

EmaDirlos · October 2011

fathersbride24:
Haha you are all sooooo funny. Picking on someone who is new. I doubt any of you would find my situation easy if you were in it.

You come on this board asking for advice and opinions, and you are more concerned with the negative feedback than with the situation..if it is even real.This was funny at first but now...ugh. O.D. & so petty.

If your babydaddy goes to jail for something he does, so be it. There are consequences for every action. You actually considered giving picture to some guy that is turned on by your bump? How low is your self esteem? And all these ladies are absolutely correct, if you can't tell your husband then you have bigger things to worry about. I think your hubby SHOULD beat some sense into his friend. Then you can tend to his bruises while he rubs your belly and instead of sending pics to the creeper you can send them to baby daddy who will be in jail. Problem solved. Fantasy achieved. How's that for the winning ending to this MUD?

AutumnBaby1984 · October 2011

Whether this is MUD or not everyone of you just enabled by feeding into the drama... Sometimes it's better to just walk away then carry on 57 posts of silly responses.

gisa886 · October 2011

AutumnBaby1984:
Whether this is MUD or not everyone of you just enabled by feeding into the drama... Sometimes it's better to just walk away then carry on 57 posts of silly responses.

And you created an AE to say this? You are lame!

couliegirl · October 2011

AutumnBaby1984:
Whether this is MUD or not everyone of you just enabled by feeding into the drama... Sometimes it's better to just walk away then carry on 57 posts of silly responses.

And yet YOU posted. Hmm

drbethc · October 2011

mrs+harlow:
Or because you are some person who puts made up stories on the Internet to get a rise out of people for your own entertainment?

THIS!!! Another MUD post..She has too much time on her hands!

bshepard22 · October 2011

MUD for sure!

jbklove12 · October 2011

gisa886:
AutumnBaby1984:
Whether this is MUD or not everyone of you just enabled by feeding into the drama... Sometimes it's better to just walk away then carry on 57 posts of silly responses.
And you created an AE to say this? You are lame!

HAHAHA!! THIS!