GTKY: When will you announce it?

alphahelix · October 2011

Loosely based on the post earlier about reasons for being open IRL about TTC or keeping it a secret between you and your SO ...

When you get your BFP, when will you announce it to your family/friends/rest of the world?

Also, a facebook friend of mine just announced she is expecting --- due June 18th... and I thought, hmmmm, that seems a bit early to go facebook official with it (6 weeks if my math is correct), but whatevs!

rrcraz7 · October 2011

We told immediate family around 8w and the rest of the world at 12. We will probaly wait until 12 weeks this time for everyone.

davidsbabie2009 · October 2011

I will probably announce mine whenever I feel and my DH feels like we are ready to let everyone know. I want to wait at least until I'm into my second trimester but that probably wont happen. I have a friend and my cousin that announced that there were pregnant at 5 weeks. It's whatever you feel comfortable with!

kofmkg · October 2011

As with #1, we'll tell folks right away (family first, then others). Those who would share our joy, would share our grief if we lost a little one-- we'd want that support.

lanejam · October 2011

I understand why I probably should wait to tell everyone, but actually doing it is a totally different story. I'll probably wait as long as I possibly can, but I have a strong feeling that it isn't going to be very long!

mlynb · October 2011

definitely after we hear the heartbeat, but we will try to hold out until after first tri.

Mother Meghan · October 2011

One of my coworker's daughters (same age as me) got her BFP a few weeks ago, she told the whole freaking world. It's definitely personal preference but I don't think I would want to tell the whole world at only 4 weeks along. She did find out she's having twins though, lots of announcements for her!

Honestly, I think I would tell my dad and DH's mom pretty much right away, but everyone else would find out after the first trimester.

ChiTown Bridget · October 2011

With our first we didn't announce until the 2nd tri. If I am able to get pg this time around it will probably be the same.

bookworm982 · October 2011

My sister is 6 weeks pregnant, and she told everyone a week and a half ago. I have no desire to go that route. I'm planning on waiting until the end of the first trimester. (I might cave and tell my mom and dh's parents sooner.) If I get a bfp this cycle, we'll announce to my dad, stepmom, and siblings at Christmas. If not, we'll just do it over the phone and skype when were ready.

TurtlesAndSand · October 2011

We plan on announcing to family after the first Dr. appt. and telling everyone else sometime after 12 weeks but that could change depending on how we feel once it actually happens.

dragontears507 · October 2011

DH and I always said we would wait 12 weeks, but now that we've been dealing with the disappointment of IF, we'll be too excited when we finally get our BFP and probably spill the beans right away.

TheBug16 · October 2011

12 weeks... DH is very adamant about this.

yusi196 · October 2011

My mom-right away LOL.

MIL-12 weeks because she would tell the whole world the minute she knows and if anything were to go wrong, I don't want to deal with that....

If we were to have twins (there are 6 pairs on my side of the family, and 2 on my husband's side), I would wait until 20 weeks unless of course the belly pops out sooner....

LM915 · October 2011

super close friends will know as soon as we go out to dinner and I'm not drinking. but they also know we are ttc and two of the couples are also ttc. so we're all very open about it with each other.

we will tell our parents probably within the first few weeks. they live 2 hours away, so we see them about once a month... so we will wait to tell them in person.

everyone else will probably find out once we're out of the 1st tri. although I may wait even longer to announce on fb... I think we'll just see how we're feeling.

Jessrof · October 2011

My grandmother immediately (because she will probably guess it before hand anyways. She also knew my hubby and I eloped before we told anyone!)

We have decided to tell close family and friends at 6 weeks.

The rest of the world will know at 12 weeks.

This of course is all in theory seeing as most of our tailgating friends know we are ttc since I no longer drink (which is a huge deal for me seeing as we are ECU fans )

MrsRabb · October 2011

I probably would't be able to not tell my mom. So her right away

After for the rest of our immediate families, (if this cycle is bfp) Christmas. If any other cycle, I would try my hardest to wait 12 weeks but most likely 8 weeks for them.

But 12 or longer for the rest of the world.

argonne · October 2011

With DS, we told the immediate family (Mom, Dad, MIL and FIL) right away. I told work when I was about 7 weeks along. I told work this early because we have very long projects and I wanted to create the smallest impact I could. This way they were able to schedule me with projects that would be complete or near completion by my EDD. It worked wonderfully and nobody on my team was left with a huge pile of my work.

PinkPhotog · October 2011

With DS- We told parents and g-parents at 6w when we found out. Everyone else, it was 8w because I was really sick and certain people needed to know.

With DD-We told parents at 3w/4w when we found out and everyone else at 6w when I started getting sick.

With the next one, we'll tell parents when we find out and everyone else when I start getting sick again.

**Mine wasn't just "morning sickness". I was diagnosed with hyperemesis gravidarum with both DS and DD. I fully expect the same with any other pregnancies and if not I will be pleasantly surprised! I would love to not have to go to the hospital again!

ETA: We didn't FB announce until 12w with DS and about 16w with DD.

Pistol4066 · October 2011

Well once we get out BFP, we will tell family after the first Dr. appointment. I will probably tell my two best friends then too. As for Facebook and the rest of the world, definitely not until in the second Tri... not sure I will even post it on FB until just before we're due. Not sure I want all those people all up in my pregnancy business. LOL

sunflowers4AC · October 2011

We will most likely wait until after our first Dr. Appt until we tell our family. As for our friends it will be case by case, I have a select few friends that will know early on probably before family. For the general population friends we will wait until after 1st Tri.

Jnmac83 · October 2011

We will tell our close family and friends pretty early. They all know we're TTC anyway. Everyone else we'll tell after the first trimester.

I am curious though, when do people usually tell their bosses/coworkers/employers? I have been thinking about that lately and not sure when I would share the news at my office, specifically to my manager.

OCfish82 · October 2011

SO- the minute I get my BFP. Our parents/siblings- soon after that. Everyone else- the day I give birth. j/k

I would say after 12 weeks, my SO is private and doesn't like attention so I'm sure that will be his request just in case.

PinkPhotog · October 2011

Jnmac83:
We will tell our close family and friends pretty early. They all know we're TTC anyway. Everyone else we'll tell after the first trimester.

I am curious though, when do people usually tell their bosses/coworkers/employers? I have been thinking about that lately and not sure when I would share the news at my office, specifically to my manager.

I'm a SAHM but DH is a minister and he needed to tell some people so that they were aware he might have to work from home from time to time to deal with my "morning sickness". We told as soon as I started getting ill at 6w.

MrsBlindLove · October 2011

If I get KU this cycle we will announce to our family on Christmas which would put us around 11 weeks. We still will announce at Christmas if we get KU next cycle too which would put us around 8 weeks. Our big facebook reveal won't be until around 20 weeks probably.

tombomb84 · October 2011

We will tell parents and immediate family as soon as we see them to tell them in person. Friends will know probably around 10-12 and I don't plan on making a facebook announcement.

melgeorge7189 · October 2011

I plan on pulling an Elaine from Seinfeld and hiding it as loooong as possible. I think people in my life are too wildly inappropriate to handle a tragedy like m/c with grace.

Charlotte648 · October 2011

My closest friends will probably know as soon as I do, our immediate families as soon as we can tell them in person and the rest of the world (including Facebook and my blog) at 12 weeks. I'm kind of worried about m/c, so my rule of thumb is to not tell anyone before 12 weeks that I wouldn't want knowing about a m/c. I'm pretty open and big on social support so that's probably like 10-20 people.

ghantous11 · October 2011

I have to tell my work almost immediately because there are a lot of things I cannot do at work if I'm pregnant and DH and I have decided we probably won't tell anyone else until 12 weeks unless we aren't able to hold it in after we hear a heartbeat!

RaeDae29 · October 2011

tombomb84:
We will tell parents and immediate family as soon as we see them to tell them in person. Friends will know probably around 10-12 and I don't plan on making a facebook announcement.

This is exactly what we will do.

Vonbabe · October 2011

DH and I will probably wait until I am about 12-14 weeks along to tell family. With our first pregnancy, we told everyone at 7 weeks. Unfortunately the pregnancy ended at 14 weeks but, I was glad we told family because we really needed them for support through such a rough time.

The reason we will wait longer next time is to make sure all is well with the baby and also not to add any more unneeded stress. Plus it will be easier for us to keep it a secret now that we live 1,000 miles away from family.

abfromva · October 2011

I will have to tell my mom soon because I see her so often and if she sees me not drinking wine.. well she will definitely know then! I will tell parents and sister pretty quickly and the rest will be sometime after 1st tri.

ETA: Facebook will not be until late 2nd tri when I am fairly confident everything is going well.

RaeBerler · October 2011

10 to 12 weeks for Family, 20 weeks for friends. Work will depend on what my responsibilities include at that time.

SGC29 · October 2011

Last time we told immediate family (Moms, Dads, Sibs) right away, and other family at 8 weeks when we saw the heartbeat. We told everyone else at 10 weeks when we heard the heartbeat on a fetal doppler at home.

We'll do the same next time around.

NeverKnew · October 2011

Likely what we did with the last one. Parents right away, close friends and family (only those we could trust to keep their yaps shut) after the first sonogram (6-8 weeks), then the world after our NT scan (~13 weeks).

siple1am · October 2011

After having 2 losses, one which was announced to the world (thanks to our mothers), I am still on the fence. Yes, it was not fun to un-tell everybody, but I will be so excited, and I know I can't keep my mouth shut.

That being said, DH and I have talked about it, and our immediate family right away (and work), everybody else at the first of second tri. We will see though.

bell2belling · October 2011

If it happens this cycle, or next cycle we'll tell our family at Christmas. Then we'll tell our friends after that. I probably won't have to make a Facebook announcement, no one I know has a filter and I know someone will mention it on there.

gplove94 · October 2011

I'm telling my best friends and parents/siblings right away. I'm sure MH will want to tell his mom although I'm not sure how I feel about that and will try to get him to wait for that until 8 weeks. I'll announce to the rest of my family/the world at 12 weeks. If it happens this cycle that will be Christmas and that will be an awesome family announcement time.

tayray1 · October 2011

kofmkg:
As with #1, we'll tell folks right away (family first, then others). Those who would share our joy, would share our grief if we lost a little one-- we'd want that support.

Yes

LadyButton · October 2011

For DD, we waited until 14 weeks (Mother's Day), but this time, we will tell our parents/siblings and close friends (think bridal party) right away. If my mom let's it slip to my aunt, I'd also be okay with that.

The rest of the world probably when we find out the sex at 20 weeks (same as DD).

Work, I would wait as long as possible. I'm sure I will show earlier this time, so we will have to see how things go.

EllaBelle2010 · October 2011

As many PP's have already said, I'm going to wait as long as possible. Preferably until the end of First Tri. but I'm sure I'll let my closest friends know right away. I'll be too excited to keep it in. Plus, they'll all know something is up when I refuse mimosas and wine. Big Smile

Shayliz · October 2011

Our parents and siblings will know right away.. as for friends/FB, not until we hear a heartbeat or the 2nd tri, whichever I can hold off until.

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