To watch or not - Sex & the City Movie?

kristinamh6 · November 2008

Hey everyone! I still haven't seen this movie, but I have heard all the spoilers. This weekend I am going home to San Diego for a Spa Night with my Mom and all my high school girlfriends. Someone suggested we watch this movie, but I was already thinking this might not be a good idea. They all know we are suffering from IF (to different extents), and they are all great women but they haven't been through it. I am afraid watching this movie will make me emotional, and will reinforce the idea that we should just stop trying/adopt and we will get pregnant. Damn media! Am I over-thinking this or should I suggest another movie? My friends are awesome, but I am afraid watching this movie will bring up some unwanted advice/discussion. TIA!

lovemymonkey · November 2008

I vote "watch it!" :-) I didn't even watch the series, but I went to see it with a friend of mine (after she gave me a recap of the show over dinner) and I really liked it. I cried my eyes out, but not because of Charlotte's story. It was a great "girlfriend" movie.

Have fun in San Diego! I'm jealous... a spa night sounds SO fun!!

Kimmilou · November 2008

You know, it depends on your mood. I've seen it twice, and I absolutely loved it! But, I will admit at that part in the movie I did get a little emotional and cried. But, I have to say other parts of the movie made me cry, too!

My friends and my mom were completely understanding and overall, I am really glad I saw it.

CBL · November 2008

I vote for watching it. It's just a movie - not real life. Try to keep it in perspective. Have a fun weekend.

schmoodle · November 2008

I'm sure I'm going to be in the minority, but my vote is DON'T watch it. Aside from the extremely irresponsible IF storyline, it was just a horribly sh*tty movie (in my humble opinion). I hated it.

theworms · November 2008

It was emotional for me and my friend (my only IRL friend who dealt with IF).

Are your mom and friends supportive or do they try to give you just relax advice? If yes, find another movie.

Or you can use it as a teaching moment and say that only like .8% couples actually get pregnant after suffering from IF.

If go with not watching, here are some chick flick recs

Love Actually, The Holiday, Pride and Prejudice (kiera knigthley version)

kristinamh6 · November 2008

theworms:

It was emotional for me and my friend (my only IRL friend who dealt with IF).

Are your mom and friends supportive or do they try to give you just relax advice? If yes, find another movie.

Or you can use it as a teaching moment and say that only like .8% couples actually get pregnant after suffering from IF.

If go with not watching, here are some chick flick recs

Love Actually, The Holiday, Pride and Prejudice (kiera knigthley version)

No one is unsupportive, but my Mom and SIL are the only ones who know details. My Mom is my best friend and is extremely supportive, but she is also of the "life goes on" mentality. I am just afraid because none of them have been there so they don't "get it". You know?

If I am feeling brave and open, I may just warn them beforehand that movies are not a realistic portrayal of IF so please don't get any wrong ideas.

Thanks for the suggestions for the other movies!

CardsfanSM · November 2008

I ((heart)) the whole series. I loved the movie. My bffs and I went opening weekend for my b-day. Yes, I got teary during some of the Charlotte scenes (I was actually pre beta from my IVF at the time), but knowing my friends were there on either side of me was a great feeling.

theworms · November 2008

You are very welcome. I hope you have a great time, I love to spa.

(HUG)

duke'sgirl · November 2008

I loved the movie!! It did make me a little emotional with the whole Charlotte pregnancy but not too bad. I do understand where you're coming from, but if they make any comments, just have a good response ready. Maybe some statistics...haha! Good luck and have fun!!

Echloe · November 2008

Watch it. ?That being said... the Charlotte getting pregnant thing actually made me happy. ?Like maybe there is a shot in hell that after all that heartache and all that time that she ends up pregnant. ?I'm a sucker for a happy ending. ?