How long is DH taking off work? (If any)

citydancer1 · October 2011

So I've just been wondering... how long are most of the daddies taking off work to be home with you and the baby? John is a teacher so he needs to get planning for subs, I'd like to know what's the norm.

J&JSuiter070205 · October 2011

My husband is also a teacher. Our 1st was born between Christmas and New Years so he was on Christmas break already. Our 2nd was born the end of February and he took 3 days off. This one (our 3rd) is also due during Christmas vacation. DH won't take more than a few days off, if needed.

bethios · October 2011

DH works for a small company so things are pretty negotiable, at his next performance review he is planning on trying to negotiate two weeks paid leave. Let's hope!

jennjenn524 · October 2011

I am due on April 18th. My wife is planning on taking a week and then using the rest of her sub days throughout the year to be home as much as possible. This is our first baby.

HopingForOne · October 2011

Slightly off-topic, but since both of your husbands are teachers, this reminded me of when my dad was on the bargaining committee (or whatever it's called) for his teacher's federation.

They were trying to have it so that male teachers whose wives had babies during the school year could take two days off paid around the birth of their child (even if they had to use their sick days). At the time, there were totally at the mercy of their principle, and were not guarenteed any time off, even unpaid.

The reply my dad got was "if men want to be there when their babies are born during the year, they should arrange to have them on weekends."

My dad then asked if they had any clue how incredibly stupid they sounded.

Apparently, they had to officially apologize later for their error in logic :P

DevonPow · October 2011

He will do the same as with DS - one week out of the office but he will need to do work from home. He will also alter his travel schedule (he is usually gone one week every month with international travel - he won't go the month after the baby comes). He works in corporate finance.

J&JSuiter070205 · October 2011

Re the teacher post above. My DH gets "family sick days" to use when he or our kids or sick, and he can also use them after we have the baby. Unfortunately, he only gets like 5 days per year.

Christina_Diane · October 2011

MH is going to quit his job so he can return to school full time. He will stay at home with LO during the day and go to school in the evenings. We won't see much of each other except for on the weekends, but at least I'll make enough next year to support the both of us. So he is basically taking a couple years off.

namara5532 · October 2011

MH will probably take the first week off after the baby is born. He's going to see about negotiating one day a week off for the first month or two after that so he can have some more time at home to help. We're going to play it by ear for the most part though. I'm unemployed, so we need him at work to be able to continue paying bills.

greengirl0909 · October 2011

DH took off a week last time. He had been at his job a while and had plenty of time saved up. He just switched jobs and won't have as much time built up so we'll play it more by ear this go 'round.

learningfromlife · October 2011

My husband gets 6 weeks off. He gets paid 100% for the first 2 and then 70% for 4 but he can either supplement with sick time/vacation or go in for a few hours a week.

CTri17 · October 2011

one week most likely, that is what he did with the first

JosF21 · October 2011

My husband gets 3 days paid from his company, so he will take those for sure, maybe a week at the most.

GCavvv · October 2011

He took two weeks when our son was born and plans to do the same thing this time around.

soralette · October 2011

DH is hoping to take 4-6wks, but we'll see. We just found out on Monday that one of his teammates is due a month after we are, and potentially having two of their team gone for weeks would be really hard on the rest of the team! It's pretty dependent on how much vacation time he has left by then, too.

He'll probably do some working from home and half-days, though, to stretch things out.

BigAppleBiggerBelly · October 2011

He gets two weeks of paid paternity leave and will get five weeks of vacation next year, some of which he'll use to stay home longer. We've talked about him only taking a couple of days at first and then using the rest when I go back to work.

laf10 · October 2011

We're planning on him using 1-2 weeks of his vacation/sick leave, depending on how much he has by then (he accumulates days each month).

ryry1977 · October 2011

DH will be doing the same he did for when our DS was born. He gets 1 week paternity leave and will be taking off 2 weeks of paid leave (vacation/comp time). So a total of 3 weeks. Which for the first baby was a little bit much, I didn't need him off that long. But he enjoyed baby bonding time too! With a toddler and a new baby, I am really looking forward to those 3 weeks!!

nonoemily · October 2011

I wish I knew for sure... Everything is wait and see for us.

I am a planner. I like to plan. Sad

PhysChic7685 · October 2011

My husband is also a teacher, and he's planning to take a week off. His school is being very nice and letting him use up his sick days for the whole week instead of having to take personal days (he gets paid for every personal day he doesn't use at the end of the year). He's already working on a 1-week stand-alone type unit that a sub can run so he can throw it in anywhere (not completely independent, but can be run any time within a 1month period and still be appropriate), depending on when the baby comes.

nattyk · October 2011

My husband is planning on taking a week off when the baby gets here, then another week when I go back to work.

Lawren · October 2011

DH is also a teacher and he is taking off 2 weeks.

TKx2 · October 2011

DH took a week off after DD, he's planning on doing the same this time.

JhawkCE · October 2011

Mine has to schedule at least 3 months in advance to be sure of time off. With our first I delivered Tuesday night after hours and he worked on Wed. Luckily he does most of his work at the hospital so he was able to come back down and hang out between his cases.

He took off about a week when the baby was 3 months old.

Laouli · October 2011

DH is planning to take at least two weeks off..

eav2c · October 2011

DH gets 19 paid vacation days a year + 'unlimited' sick days (within reason). It's a pretty flexible job. He'll probably take a week and then keep those extra days open in case he needs to stay home for more.

On a side note: For people whose DH's are having a difficult time getting off... Some states require that men be given their own maternity leave--otherwise it can be viewed as discrimination. A friend of mine's DH had a difficult time getting off so that thing made news... He felt he deserved maternity leave. He didn't carry the baby or give birth--but he deserved the time to bond with his child. I'm not sure what states have laws for this... but I know at least some do!

mben1119 · October 2011

MH is a teacher as well, and he is taking 2 1/2 weeks total. 2 days are Thanksgiving break.

KimbaleeZay · October 2011

DH is taking 12-16 weeks. He gets paternity leave. He took 12 with DD#1 and will prob take the same this time. We are very fortunate.

JennyVinny · October 2011

my hubby is also a teacher and plans on taking a weeks off right after the baby is born (I'm due at the end of January). I think he is using some sick or personal days.

Mrs.Wifey318 · October 2011

Last time DH took a week off, since DD was born on a Friday he ended up having 10 days off. This time he will take a week and then go back the second week Tuesday and Thursday.

Megan Stahl · October 2011

My husband is in the air force and he is required to take 10 paid days for a regular delivery and 30 paid days for a c-section.

jcsntms06 · October 2011

My DH will most likely get a week off of work.

Tina272 · October 2011

Wow you ladies should all appreciate how lucky you are. DH manages large construction jobs (think 40 story apartment building) and only gets 5 vacation days a year. Last time he stayed at the hospital with me and then was off one extra day.

Luckily my mom flies for free and will come up as soon as she hears I am in labor. She stayed 3 weeks last time.

salt78 · October 2011

He's taking 2 weeks.

kasslynne · October 2011

I have asked H to take a week. It is hard since he owns his own business and he feels like he HAS to be there 24/7.

I asked a week do to the fact I had horrible PPD and I am still dealing with depression during this pregnancy that I am at high risk for cycling in the PPD department again. I need that week

MommyOfTwo1012 · October 2011

My SO took the first few days off, he's a manager somewhere and couldn't really get a ton of time off they were short so he took the first few days off, but we needed the money and everything. With this one, he actually has 1 week vacation (and right now) they are staffed good so he plans on taking his weeks paid vacation the week after she is here. It really depends, some places have now something called "paternity leave" for the dads. I think a week or 2 is good, to get into a routine and what not, but I'm more hands on I'd rather do it myself (not that I don't trust him lol). Plus with our son, I felt like he was afraid he would hurt him so I did most of it anyways (he would let me nap or sleep in a few hours but other than that I just took over). If you have lots of family that will be visiting or you will be visiting then he might need more time.

acooper18 · October 2011

Probably no time

We're both in school still and I'll be delivering at the end of the semester. He'll be home when he can and my mom will be here for a little while. I'm not super worried about it though.

BOTB2011 · October 2011

DH can take unpaid paternity leave if he wants. However he will have (in his words) "all this vacation time to use" since we don't have any trips planned so most likely he will take a day here and there while I am home on FMLA.

Plus my mom and possibly MIL (ugh) have offered to help with the first few weeks.

secst26 · October 2011

DH has been saving vacation time so his leave can be paid. He can take up to 12 weeks unpaid, but he will probably use 2 weeks of vacation time, maybe 3 weeks, we haven't decided yet and his work is pretty flexible.

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