If this is 2+ for you

greengirl0909 · October 2011

The how long will you stay in the hospital post got me thinking. If this is a 2nd or 3rd or more baby for you, how will that influence the amount of time you stay? At my hospital, our mother baby rooms have full size beds and dad is welcome to stay with mom.

Last time of course he stayed the entire time I was in the hospital. T his time, DS will be with grandpa while we labor/deliver, but then I'm unsure. Does dad go home and stay with DS while I'm in the hospital? Does he stay with me and our new LO? I don't want DS to feel like we disappeared and came back with this new annoyance to his life, but I don't want dad to miss early days with our 2nd. What are you doing?

JLG95 · October 2011

DH and I talked about this today. We're thinking DS will stay with grandpa and nana while I labor/deliver. And then on subsequent days while we're still in the hospital DS will go to daycare like a normal day while DH visits in the hospital. Then DH will go home with DS at night.

jf198400 · October 2011

DH will stay in the hospital overnight with me. DD will be staying with DH's parents, and will come with them to visit. DH usually goes home to shower, so he may accompany DD back to the grandparents, get himself cleaned up, and then come back.

JhawkCE · October 2011

I didn't want to be there the first time and my stay just solidified my resolve to get out as quickly as possible this time. Plus I don't relish the idea of leaving my other one at his grandparents. If I end up having to stay the night I will send my husband home to be with our son. He'll have to be back at the hospital the next morning for work stuff anyway.

4-Ever-Young · October 2011

I've been tossing around the idea of having DH go home at night to be with DD and have my mom sleep in the hospital with me. Then during the day I would want DH to come to the hospital while my MIL watches DD. I'm not sure if my mom is going to come before we get released from the hospital so that plan may change. I would not want my MIL to stay the night with me so it's either my mom or DH. We will see closer to the day.

I'm also going to be a bit more demanding in asking the hospital to release me after the required 24 hours. Last time I gave birth at 6pm so they made me stay 2 nights because they couldn't release me at night. I don't like to be a pain to working people but I'm not buying into that this time and want to be released after 24 hours so I can go home to DD.

greengirl0909 · October 2011

I'll be eager to get out ASAP also, but last time I was Group B + which means I'll have to stay 48 hours after delivery. Then we had to wait for me to be released and my doc was in surgery a long time. We checked in on Tuesday and didn't leave until late Friday afternoon. It was a nightmare!

shouldbworkin · October 2011

this is #3 for me. I stayed in the hospital 4 days after I had #2. DS stayed at home with GPs and DH came home every night to put him to bed and took him to daycare in the AM before coming back to the hospital to see us. I felt that it was really important that DS's schedule remain the same b/c disrupting that would upset him more than me not being around. It worked out really well to have DH there for key times of the day. DS came to visit a couple times, but by the 3rd day I said not to bring him. He was really only interested in checking out all of the hospital stuff and had no interest in seeing me or DD. lol he was only 22 mos at the time and really had not much concept of time, he was happy when I was home, but I don't think he realized I was gone for almost 4 days.

This time around, I'm hoping to have a RCS on a Wednesday and home by Saturday. Kids will be on Spring break so they will be able to come visit and as long as there is some entertainment, I think they'll be able to stay awhile. They're old enough to miss me, but seeing me every day will help. Honestly, they'll probably be bummed about having to leave the baby the most. DH will still go home to put them to bed and DH will be there in the AM to get them breakfast and situated. GPs will bring them up to visit and will watch them during the day.

I will definitely not come home early. I tend to overdo it, especially where my kids are concerned and I know I will just hurt myself. Besides, that time in the hospital is so precious! I didn't realize it until #2 was here, but the hours we spent alone getting to know each other are still fond memories for me. I just knew that it wasn't going to be that easy once I got home and I soaked up every second I had alone with her those first few days.

sapphirebride06 · October 2011

We've decided that ideally my mom will have DS, but H really wants my mom in the room when I have this baby, so we hope it happens when DS is at school. If so then my mom will bring him to meet the baby, then he will go home with DS and my mom will stay with me - mainly because my son would rather be at home with daddy even though he adores my mom. Then H can bring him up to see me the next day and hopefully take us home if all goes well and we are released.

If this doesn't work out conveniently (haha, I'm sure it won't!) then my mom will be on duty for my son and then depending on the time line she and H will switch and H will get DS and mom will stay with me at that time. When time goes on and as it gets closer I'm going to explain to DS that it's close to time when the baby comes so mommy, daddy, or grandma might be there to pick him up so if daddy or grandma do it then that means the baby is coming and I will see him as soon as I can and the baby is ready to see him too. He's very mature for a 3 year old and I think he would understand this with ease so I'm not too worried. I just want to prepare him as much as possible.

sunnyday016 · October 2011

We haven't 100% decided these logistics yet, but I'm thinking I'll end up staying the night(s) in the hospital by myself with the baby. I'm okay with that, and so is DH. They had a super crappy pull out couch for him to sleep on anyway, so I'm sure he'd rather be home in his own bed!

KRISTA555 · October 2011

We live about 5 minutes from my parents and sister, so Maddie will most likely stay the nights at my parents house, and spend the days bouncing between my parents and my sister.

I think we'll just cross that bridge when we get to it. DH stayed with me the whole time with DD, and it was very helpful, because there were times I wanted him to help me instead of the nurses (for modesty reasons).

I also remember that I was VERY emotional and hormonal with all my hormones crashing and going crazy, so his support would be very nice. I would also like him to be there when they take the baby to get his shots, etc.

goosh24 · October 2011

It all depends on how it goes. If I'm induced again like last time, I think DD will go to the babysitter's for the day and then my SIL or one of the MIL's will pick her up. Then they will probably stay the night with her at out house (that part is for sure). If everything is totally normal again, then I'm hoping to get out of the hospital after 24 hours. I was miserable in that bed last time and I'd rather just get on home. If I'm there for more than one night, I'll send DH home to stay the nights with DD.

treble_clef · October 2011

My MIL is coming to help us, and I'm confident that she does a good job taking care of my son, but I'll send my husband here and there to check on my son. He'll be almost 5 by the time the baby comes, and I want to make sure to take care of him emotionally. He can come to visit me as much as the hospital allows. I also want to make sure I'm medically okay to go home, so unless the hospital stay is horrible (I'm going to give birth at a different hospital than last time), I'll stay as long as necessary.

ghdst1 · October 2011

DH and I have discussed this a little but we don't have a full blown plan yet. I think it would be best for DH to be at home with DS at night to put him to bed and get him up in the morning. Then during the day have him go to his daycare while DH comes to stay with me at the hospital.

sapphirebride06 · October 2011

guppysown@yahoo.com:
I'll be eager to get out ASAP also, but last time I was Group B + which means I'll have to stay 48 hours after delivery. Then we had to wait for me to be released and my doc was in surgery a long time. We checked in on Tuesday and didn't leave until late Friday afternoon. It was a nightmare!

I was Group B strep + too and they released me after about 30 hours. My DS was born at 3am on Tuesday and I was released by noon on Wednesday. I will hope to do the same this time around - one night in there was enough! The baby next door to me was up all night long screaming and I think the nurses had even had enough - they kept going to help the mom but I still heard the baby crying all night. I was exhausted!

sandy02 · October 2011

I was out after one night, I needed out. I needed to see my son. DH was there for the birth and there much of the time, and DS was with my BIL that lives about 5 minutes from the hospital so DH went back and forth, put E down for naps and bed, etc.

This time Im using a birth center and will be going home 4 hours after delivery, that sounds like heaven.

EllasMommy2010 · October 2011

DD will be staying with my mom while we are at the hospital. If it is during the week, she will go to daycare during the day and then grandma will pick her up, bring her to visit at the hospital, etc.

My last delivery had a lot of unexpected complications, so DH doesn't want to leave me there alone.

Katefor4 · October 2011

Last time I was induced and my parents came to stay at our house while I had the baby. They went to preschool during the day. DH stayed with me the entire time-24 hours before we were released. My parents brought my girls to visit the new baby at the hospital. Then took them back home for the night. We were home the next morning. Hoping that might work again if not my in-laws are availble to watch my other children.

Punken13 · October 2011

WE will probably do what we did when I had DS#2...we live like a mile from the hospital so DH will stay home at night, take the boys to daycare and then go to work. After work he will visit for a little bit then pick up the boys feed them dinner than bring them over for a visit. My sister stayed with me the first 2 nights with DS#2 and then I was alone for the last 2. It really worked out very well for us. My mom also stayed at our house to help with DS#1 I am sure she will do the same this time since she is now retired

cathom7 · October 2011

I stayed 4 days with DS and DH stayed with me the whole time. This time, I am hoping for a VBAC and leaving the SECOND they let me!!! If I VBAC, I can leave within 24 hours, and will. Meanwhile, DH will go home each day and night to be with DS. I refuse to let him be alone while the rest of his family is together at the hospital. It just feels mean to me. He will feel a lot of left out feelings as it is;0( Plus, I will have my sisters with me to help out, if I need it. Come on, VBAC!!!! ;0)

Sept1799 · October 2011

I will have a c-section so I know when this one will be born. My parents will come to our house early that day and get dd ready. If we have to leave before they are ready then they will meet us at the hospital.

For the majority of the day dd will be at the hospital. Therefore so will my parents. Then my parents will go back to our house and spend the nights with dd. The next day they will bring dd back to the hospital and spend the day with us again.

DH will be with me and the baby the entire time.

mamabear0813 · October 2011

my dad will watch DS during the labor/delivery. Depending on the time of day I deliver if I have to stay an "extra" night I will have my MIL watch him that night. DH will stay with me and LO as much as possible because he won't get more than a couple of days off work.

diana.filipi · October 2011

I will likely have a c-section. I was in the hospital for 5 days last time (4 for me then I stayed 1 more with DD). I will come home as soon as I am allowed. DD will stay with my folks on their farm for at least 1-2 days :-)

messfam07 · October 2011

My sister had her daughter there when she labor and delivered. I plan on the same. our hospital has a daycare for patient use also. So we plan on taking advantage of that also. We have plenty of people to help with her is she starts to fuss. But i want my family together.

ryry1977 · October 2011

Well, since we only stayed the min 24 hours after DS was born, we will be doing the same this time around. Ours also has the double bed and is a 'home like' setting...so it is really nice. But we prefer to be home. My MIL or my parents will have DS while we are in the hospital (depending on MIL work). So we are not worried about him and since we won't be in the hospital too long (hopefully). DH will be staying with me and the new LO this time around as well.

CalMum_Momma · October 2011

I think this time DH will go home, but we haven't decided for sure yet. I may want him to stay the first night. I think it will depend on how things go. Last time, after my c/s, I kind of needed DH to get DS out of the bassinet for me to feed him through the first night. I'm hoping for a VBAC, so I can go home ASAP!

bwm2bmw · October 2011

Oooh good question and one I havent even thought of yet. My first instinct is that my folks will come down and babysit DD (and dog) while I deliver DS. I think I'd like DH to stay with me that first night but then if I stay another night I'd stay by myself? Can you even leave the next day? I guess it depends what time you deliver. 1am to the the next day 36 hours later is a lot different than 11pm and the next morning in 8 hours.

HopingForOne · October 2011

DH will stay with me, if he's allowed. They only let your DH stay if you have no roomate, and there are very few private rooms in our hospital currently (although if they put me in a semi-private room and there is no roomate, he can also stay). Last time it took me many hours to feel my legs again after the epidural, so if that happens again, I'll need help with the baby.

Last time we both feel like we left too soon (as soon as we could, basically). This time we might opt to stay longer, however, if I do get struck with a roomate this time I'll probably want to get the heck out as fast as possible again. Plus I'll want to get home to my daughter.

So really, I have no clue.

GCavvv · October 2011

I am having a repeat C-section. so I will be there for at least five days. I have to admit, I am not looking forward to being away from my little man for so long. He will be staying with both grandparents.

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