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Lately I've been feeling like putting LO in day care full time. I love him to death and I enjoy our time together, which is why I work part-time. But lately, he's been very difficult to deal with. He doesn't listen, fights me on a lot of things and doesn't stop for a second. On the days I'm home with him, I'm exhausted by nap time. And lately he's been fighting naps too, so on those days nobody rests and I'm about to lose it. I don't know if it's a phase or what but my BFF's 3 yr old is completely nuts and I hope LO doesn't get like that.

I don't want LO to go to daycare all day every day but let me tell you... some days it's very tempting to do that so I can have a life! I can't even go shopping for simple stuff. The house is a mess, I'm a mess, and I have to reschedule appts 3 times before I can make it. It's hard b/c DH's schedule is crazy and basically I'm a single mom b/c I have little help from him due to his long hrs and working weekends.

I know it will get better but I feel like I've aged 10 yrs in the past 2 years!!

Me: 44 DH: 42. DS born healthy at 40 weeks 8/24/09. TTC since then with no luck or ART. Surprise BFP 8/6/14... MMC @ 8 weeks 4 days... Miss you everyday sweet baby angel.
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  • KerryHSKerryHS

    So, first, ((hugs)).  Kids are fabulous, but tough.  Being a SAHM that is basically a single parent is super tough.  I have worked full time since my first daughter was born 11 years ago.  I have done both nannies and daycare and I am a big fan of daycare.    Daycare was an amazing thing to experience.  They could get a roomful of children to sleep all at the same time.  They potty trained groups of 3 years old all at the same time.  I used to call it "potty training support group".  It was really a great experience for both of my girls.  The only reason why I am using a nanny now instead of daycare is because I need someone who can both take care of the baby and drive the older children to their activities.

    So, if you do decide to go back to work full time and chose daycare - don't doubt it.  My kids thrived while they were there.

    However, it just sounds like you are going through a really rough patch with you LO.  I hope that you can find a balance (or close to a balance) soon.  Good luck.

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  • newbee36newbee36 member
    That sounds rough. I feel for you. I still have ways to go, but I think if I were you, I would do full time daycare. For sanity... As much as I love my child, there is no good in driving each other crazy all day long. In daycare he would have friends to play with, somebody who is paid to take care of him, and I would have opportunity to do something not child related. 
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  • mwdmwd member

    I don't know how many hours you work, but this stage of being 2 is exhausting!  I relished naps as well.  I work full time, and occasionally I will take a day off and clean the house, just so I can stay sane.  If you can't put him in full time due to finances, what about one more day each week?

    Another alternative is a "mother's helper", which will come and play with LO for a few hours on the weekend, so you can clean, pay bills, do whatever!  I use my friend's daughter, who is 15, and her mother is not confident that she could take care of both kids by herself. It's a treat for both kids to have someone new to play with, and gives me a break!

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  • PeskyPesky member
    funny because we didn't experience it too bad with DD but DS -- uh, wow.  Yeah.  First of all, for naps, maybe start quiet time.  He can play in his room but has to stay there for at least 1-2 hours (DD has quiet time while DS still naps).  Also, just be consistent in what you are doing.  It's all a phase and he will eventually grow out of it.  And ditto going to get a sitter or something so you can do what you need to.  Also realize that some preschools start at 3  (our DC is a combo DC/preschool/private kindergarten) so that might be a good option to consider even though it is a bit of a ways away.


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  • steverstever member
    That's not flameful at all. It's hard freakin' work spending all your time with a 2 year old.

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  • ateytelbateytelb
    I hear you. I work FT and we have had FT nanny, but I am not shure I would have been able to handle working PT and taking care of J during the day. He started going to preschool/daycare FT when he turned 3 even though we still had the nanny at home during the day, who took care of E. We figured, if he goes to preschool PT, he might as well stay there FT. It seems to be working so far.
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