Do you think two middle names is pretentious?

YaraC · October 2011

I have my reasons for wanting two. This will be the last grandchild on either side and our last child. I want to get my maiden name in there and another relative. Plus, my maiden name doesn't sound right with the first name we have chosen but we don't want to change that either.

Sorry this is so vague, but we are committed to keeping the full name under wraps until birth.

I generally only see multiple middle names on royalty and high falutin' (sp?) types so I'm not sure how it would be received.

ELF4321 · October 2011

Honestly, I don't think anyone will really spend that much time thinking about your kid's middle name to worry about whether there are one or two. Most people don't end up using their middle names for anything except filling out official forms (where it might actually be a little bit of a PITA for your kid if there isn't space to put the whole thing in there). If it's what you want to do, go for it.

Katietwin · October 2011

I don't think it's pretentious when it's to fit in a significant family name. In this case, it makes perfect sense to me that you'd like for your maiden name not to "die out". Your kid will seldom hear both middle names repeated back to him - it's more a documentation of his rich family history than anything. I say go right ahead.

varkeyr · October 2011

No it is not pretentious. Stars do it all the time. My daughter has two middle names. The reason is I wanted her named after my grandmother and DH wanted her named after his mother. His mother not only wanted her name, but her baptized name as well. I insisted on using my grandmother's first name because I knew I would never have another girl. I already had 3 boys and sure enough I am having another boy.

Huahine · October 2011

Not at all.

My last name is different than DH's. We are planning on naming our kid as follows:

firstname firstmiddlename mylastname hislastname.

Our last names are both long, and I'm not willing to burden the kid with two long last names or with the hassle of hyphenation, so my last name will be his second middle name. We also travel a lot. And it is important to me to have my last name somewhere on baby's passport in case we are ever clearing customs without DH.

tlquist · October 2011

Katietwin:
I don't think it's pretentious when it's to fit in a significant family name. In this case, it makes perfect sense to me that you'd like for your maiden name not to "die out". Your kid will seldom hear both middle names repeated back to him - it's more a documentation of his rich family history than anything. I say go right ahead.

This!! Exactly! My newphew is Thomas Michael Vincent......We have a very large family, however it is mostly alllllll girls. When my sister discovered she was having a boy, after 3 girls, she wanted to give the "men" of the family a place of honor.....Thomas was my grandfather and also my BIL (the father of the baby) name, Michael is our only brother, and Vincent is our Dad!

Thomas is now 17 and realy loves his name...he thinks it's "cool" to have a little bit of everyone in there!

I say go for it! You only get to name you child once, so make sure you like it!!

YaraC · October 2011

Thanks all. I've really been bothered by the fact that I don't like the sound of our chosen first name with my maiden name but unwilling to budge on either. Adding the additional name fixes that and gives an important man a place of honor.

bigv44 · October 2011

I actually have 2 middle names :-)

Story:

My mom had 4 boys, then her 5th child was a girl (my sister); so she gave my sister ALL the names she liked for a girl- Torin, Janelle, Victoria. She was afraid she would probably NEVER have another girl; so she put all of them on my sis.

Well she got pregnant w/her 6th child (girl-me), and my name is: Valarie, Melissa, Giavanna. She felt that I shouldn't get cheated out of 3 names so that is me. I thought the story was soo sweet; so my DD has 3 names: Cree, Nyree, Alexis :-)

Her 7th child was a boy, so it ended there, and all of my brotheres have just 1 middle name. I guess us girls were special :-)

If this lil' one is a girl; I guess I have to come up w/3 more names...LOL But hoping for a boy.

cmorganopie · October 2011

I think that is really is a personal choice. My Son will have two middle names. One for my father and one for DH father. Along with a first name and a hypenated last name. The only person who will care is the clerk at SS office when she has to put it in the computer. Good luck, remember that lots of children have more than one name or a complicated name.

MrsJordanalmond · October 2011

ha! this makes me laugh (very hard) because my boys have 5 middle names (plus a first and last)

i don't know if it's a lebanese or arabic or middle eastern thing, but dh said the tradition is to keep adding to the whole family name. my son (and soon to be) will only have a first, middle and last on the official birth certificate ... but they will be taught the entire family name.

so, no, i couldn't possibly thing that two middle names is pretentious : )

blush64 · October 2011

I gave my kids two middle names and I plan to with the next ones as well.

Punter2009 · October 2011

We had 2 middle names for my son to keep the family names alive. He will only use one middle name for school and other purposes though. It just to have on his birth certificate to remind him of his heritage.

Go for it

ChavayJakov · October 2011

No

pinksandbermuda · October 2011

I don't think its pretentious, a little cumbersome though.

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