Pelvic rest slip-up

JocelynMcC · October 2011

I've been on pelvic rest for complete placenta previa since early on in my pregnancy. My guy and I have been so good about abiding by the "no sex" thing, but we messed up this morning. I feel horrible. I've been watching for bleeding and checked the baby's heart rate with my doppler right after..everything seems fine. Still, it leaves me feeling like a bad parent. Has anyone slipped up like this in a past pregnancy or during this one? I'm assuming it will be okay as long as we don't make a habit of it. I just had to put this out there :P

Texas77again · October 2011

when was your last u/s to check the position of the placenta?

JocelynMcC · October 2011

14 weeks

Texas77again · October 2011

was it still totally covering the cervix?

JocelynMcC · October 2011

I believe so?

Texas77again · October 2011

i'm just a little surprised because it's totally normal to have a low-lying, partial or complete previa early in pg. most will totally resolve, like around 90% of them.

have you been having problems with bleeding? did they tell you to be on pelvic rest until it resolves?

JocelynMcC · October 2011

I had problems with bleeding from a sub chorionic hemmorage at 7 weeks. That has since resolved itself, but while monitoring that they discovered the complete previa issue. I have had no bleeding since 7 weeks and yes, they told me complete pelvic rest until further notice. At my last ultrasound he didn't update me about the position of the placenta, I just figured it hadn't moved. That was 12 weeks. My friend who is a nurse gave me a training ultrasound at 14 weeks and said she could see the placenta still covering the cervix, but I couldn't take anything that was diagnosed as real medical advice, if that makes sense. Last week I went in for a cervix ultrasound to check the length and that was healthy. No word on the placenta, I just figured it was still there.

BitsKD13 · October 2011

If you're worried I'd call your OB to be on the safe side. You may get a stern talking to but it may help you worry less.

Alliebooberz · October 2011

I guess I'm just kind of confused about this ... I don't think pelvic rest is really a joke, and I'm not saying that you do think it is... but I don't understand a slip up like that. And I think slip up would be an inappropriate term... it almost seems like it's more like, "we-were-thinking-about-ourselves-and-only-ourselves-and-not-the-baby-or-the-potential-complications-this-few-minutes-of-self-pleasure-could-cause"

Maybe it's just me... but I will do (or not do) anything I can to make sure this babe gets here safe and sound. Just seems kind of selfish to have sex when you're not supposed to for the sake and health of your baby.

texasweetea · October 2011

Alliebooberz:
I guess I'm just kind of confused about this ... I don't think pelvic rest is really a joke, and I'm not saying that you do think it is... but I don't understand a slip up like that. And I think slip up would be an inappropriate term... it almost seems like it's more like, "we-were-thinking-about-ourselves-and-only-ourselves-and-not-the-baby-or-the-potential-complications-this-few-minutes-of-self-pleasure-could-cause"
Maybe it's just me... but I will do (or not do) anything I can to make sure this babe gets here safe and sound. Just seems kind of selfish to have sex when you're not supposed to for the sake and health of your baby.

Yes i agree with allie. i thin it's selfish not only on your part but your dh's half too. but let me know how that works out for you... my friend had placenta previa so i know it sucks but have a little self control for a few months. you might find it's worth it.

FIRST311 · October 2011

As someone on pelvic and bedrest. All I can say is this makes me very very sad. We aren't 16 any more. You both are going to have to show some self restraint. You can make up for lost time after the baby comes. Right now the reality is your decisions directly effect your baby. Wait till you get the clear from the Dr.

You cant undo it. If your SO is needing something buy him a magazine and some lotion and tell him his child is more important.

Good luck I know its not fun but be strong.

JocelynMcC · October 2011

You're right. It was incredibly selfish. And I didn't put myself out there not expecting to hear these kinds of comments. I posted because I felt remorse over it, and wanted to hear if anyone else had done this. What I did does not mean I'm going to be a bad mother, or that I don't love my baby, because I do. Thanks for the feedback.

momamatthews · October 2011

JocelynMcC:
You're right. It was incredibly selfish. And I didn't put myself out there not expecting to hear these kinds of comments. I posted because I felt remorse over it, and wanted to hear if anyone else had done this. What I did does not mean I'm going to be a bad mother, or that I don't love my baby, because I do. Thanks for the feedback.

Pelvic rest is hard, especially when you feel like you are having a hard time connecting with your husband without sex. No one is perfect, no mom is perfect, and anyone who says they are is lying. My husband and I were on pelvic rest and I was also on strict bed rest. I followed to the best of my ability but who is to say that I didn't get up and walk to the bathroom too many times per day or walk to the kitchen too many times per day. You aren't the only who has had sex while on pelvic rest. Don't beat yourself up over it, just try and do better next time. Thats all you can do. I would just pay really close attention to your body for the next few days, as if you aren't already, and call your doctor with any changes. The most important thing is to tell your doctor what you did if a problem arises that way he/she can treat you with full knowledge. Good luck!

danlexi04 · October 2011

I'm trying not to judge but I can't help but judge a little bit. I don't think you're going to be a bad mom but I do think it was very irresponsible. I'm sure you feel remorse now, but you'll feel even worse if God forbid something happens to your baby.

amor_eterno · October 2011

JocelynMcC:
You're right. It was incredibly selfish. And I didn't put myself out there not expecting to hear these kinds of comments. I posted because I felt remorse over it, and wanted to hear if anyone else had done this. What I did does not mean I'm going to be a bad mother, or that I don't love my baby, because I do. Thanks for the feedback.

So, what did you expect? Did you want people to say, "Oh, it's ok honey. Put you're baby in jeopardy because you and "your guy" were too horny to not have sex." No one is saying you don't love your baby or will be a bad mom, but the situation you're in requires you to put your baby first. Adults know the difference between needs, wants, and situations that require sacrifice. If you're on pelvic rest, then it's time to be an adult and sacrifice your wants for the sake of your baby.

Mrs_MBed · October 2011

momamatthews:
JocelynMcC:
You're right. It was incredibly selfish. And I didn't put myself out there not expecting to hear these kinds of comments. I posted because I felt remorse over it, and wanted to hear if anyone else had done this. What I did does not mean I'm going to be a bad mother, or that I don't love my baby, because I do. Thanks for the feedback.
Pelvic rest is hard, especially when you feel like you are having a hard time connecting with your husband without sex. No one is perfect, no mom is perfect, and anyone who says they are is lying. My husband and I were on pelvic rest and I was also on strict bed rest. I followed to the best of my ability but who is to say that I didn't get up and walk to the bathroom too many times per day or walk to the kitchen too many times per day. You aren't the only who has had sex while on pelvic rest. Don't beat yourself up over it, just try and do better next time. Thats all you can do. I would just pay really close attention to your body for the next few days, as if you aren't already, and call your doctor with any changes. The most important thing is to tell your doctor what you did if a problem arises that way he/she can treat you with full knowledge. Good luck!

This.

Pelvic rest sucks - I've been on it since 14/15 wks. There is a reason you were put on it, so be sure that your doctor knows about this.

danlexi04 · October 2011

amor_eterno:
JocelynMcC:
You're right. It was incredibly selfish. And I didn't put myself out there not expecting to hear these kinds of comments. I posted because I felt remorse over it, and wanted to hear if anyone else had done this. What I did does not mean I'm going to be a bad mother, or that I don't love my baby, because I do. Thanks for the feedback.
So, what did you expect? Did you want people to say, "Oh, it's ok honey. Put you're baby in jeopardy because you and "your guy" were too horny to not have sex." No one is saying you don't love your baby or will be a bad mom, but the situation you're in requires you to put your baby first. Adults know the difference between needs, wants, and situations that require sacrifice. If you're on pelvic rest, then it's time to be an adult and sacrifice your wants for the sake of your baby.

I like you.

amor_eterno · October 2011

danlexi04:
amor_eterno:
JocelynMcC:
You're right. It was incredibly selfish. And I didn't put myself out there not expecting to hear these kinds of comments. I posted because I felt remorse over it, and wanted to hear if anyone else had done this. What I did does not mean I'm going to be a bad mother, or that I don't love my baby, because I do. Thanks for the feedback.
So, what did you expect? Did you want people to say, "Oh, it's ok honey. Put you're baby in jeopardy because you and "your guy" were too horny to not have sex." No one is saying you don't love your baby or will be a bad mom, but the situation you're in requires you to put your baby first. Adults know the difference between needs, wants, and situations that require sacrifice. If you're on pelvic rest, then it's time to be an adult and sacrifice your wants for the sake of your baby.
I like you.

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