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December 2010 Moms
Stuck between a rock and a hard place - NBR - vent, gotta get it off my chest!
H's best friend, well, he's turning out to be a real douche. the BF and his wife are about to go on a 2 week vacation, as soon as they get back she has to take a quick business trip ...well, while she's gone, the BF is going to pack up his stuff and leave his wife. ...She is unaware of this plan. H and I have known for quite some time that they have an odd relationship ...he can be quite irresponsible, and so she ends up being a "party-pooper" because she has to be the responsible adult. The reason he's leaving ...he's "met someone" - REALLY? 10 years you're throwing down the drain. UGH.
They don't have any kids - but 10 years, man your life is completely intertwined with your spouse by then.
She and I are not friends, but we are friendly and get along really well when the 4 of us get together. H has sworn me to secrecy ...and I hate it. H said he really laid into his BF about the way he's going to leave his wife. There are going to be a LOT of unanswered questions for her.
I hate this. No one deserves this crap! If I ever see the BF again I'm going to smack him as hard as I can across the face.
Since I can't tell anyone IRL, I had to put it here - I can't keep it in!
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Re: Stuck between a rock and a hard place - NBR - vent, gotta get it off my chest!
Holy drama. It sounds like in the long run she is better off without him if he is such a coward.
Crazycakes.
Yeah, she will be. H and I agree she was strong before, she'll be strong after. I just HATE that he's leaving her this way. I really hope what H said to him gets through his thick skull and he actually lets her know he's leaving.
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Seriously, this guy is a totaly douche!! Why can't you tell her again, because his royal awesomeness says you can't warn his wife about his shitastic intentions? Eff him and tell her. I know you don't really know her but you do know her somewhat. As a human being I would have a hard time biting my tongue on this. Like so much that I wouldn't bite it.
Sorry you are in such a hard place. Esp. for such a jerk!!
UGH.. I'm sorry.. what a terrible situation. I totally feel for you, as my DH has a friend who just got engaged and we know through mutual friends that he has/was/ might still be? cheating on her with someone else. I finally had to tell the mutual friend who was telling me this information that I just don't want to know. I really like the girl he's engaged to and feel terrible for her. But I think if I told her, she'd marry him anyway. So I'm not going to get involved.
I'm sorry. Sounds like this guy is a complete DB!
This. What a piece of crap.
They have had some troubles ...hell, he's financially cheating on her. But overall, I think she will be completely blindsighted. She makes the money in the relationship, though he has a job, they've had to cut his pay - and she has an awesome job and gets paid great. So, as long as she can keep it together and keep her job, she'll be OK.
I've reached out this morning - asking if she wants to get together. I put, "if the boys can go out and get drinks, so can we. Want to get together?" ...waiting for her response.
I asked H why BF and wife were still going on vacation, he says because they've already paid for it. Can you imagine? Maybe he'll man up and tell her towards the end of the vacation. ...
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If her wants to leave, then she should tuck her $$ away safely and at least be prepared. My fear would be that while she's away on her work trip, he'd set himself up nicely & literally leave her high & dry. Esp. with his track record. Ugh!
BF told H that he was going to leave all the money in the joint account. They have separate accounts for the most part - I don't think she trusts him financially ..which is good considering he is in quite a bit of financial debt to H and I. ...she also does not know this.
UGH, what a damn mess. I'm glad H told me this, I think its eating him up to. He told BF that if his wife askes my H about anything, he will be completely honest with her. That he likes the wife (they've all known each other since high school) and has no reason to lie to her just because BF is chosing to lie.
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Fvck that. I'd tell her. People like to say 'it's none of your business', but it IS your business. It became your business the moment DB BF told your H and suddenly transferred all his guilt onto your family as well.
I'd send her an anonymous snail mail letter. If you got an anonymous snail mail letter you'd think it was serious.
What a jerk.
it apparently all started because BF found this old high school friend/chick on FB ..they hung out and "connected" or some BS. H and I are not huge fans of FB ... When they hung out, H was invited - they were going to some bar to play some trival game thing, H decided he didn't want to go and he just came home. I can't help but think, had he gone, BF wouldn't be pulling this bullsh*t. H keeps him in check when they are out. ...which is sad...he shouldn't have to keep a married man in check.
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