Bedwetters- Come In

MsAng02 · October 2011

My DD#1 (7yrs old) has VCR and had 2 kidney procedures a few years ago. She still wets the bed about 2-3x's a week and wears Pull-Ups/Good nights. I suffered with it until I was 11/12, my mom was a bed wetter and her mom was also. Here's my question- what do you put your DD or DS in? We stop liquids early in the evening and she uses the restroom before bed (all that general avoidance stuff). She isn't bothered by it because I haven't raised her to be self-conscious of it but her and I were both wondering what other people do..

Any thoughts, ideas, suggestions?

TIA!

ccm1203 · October 2011

DS still wets the pull up (Goodnights) nightly. We don't do liquids after dinner. Nothing seems to help.... I will bring it up at his yearly routine check up until either he starts staying dry at night or his pedi sees it as a problem.

Wahoo · October 2011

(I don't know what VCR is).

When DD was still wetting the bed, we purchased a water-repellant mattress cover and she went to sleep in pull-ups. We did the no liquids 1.5 hours before sleeping, restroom before bed, etc. I think there were certain foods we avoided late at night, too (which can be found on a lot of websites about bedwetting).

When she her friends started talking about sleepovers, she REALLY wanted to stop and started getting upset. At that point, we just stopped wearing pullups cold-turkey. It was a rocky road, b/c obviously she knew when she wet the bed at night and would be upset, but I started counting her "dry" nights and would say "before (this time when you wet the bed), you had FOUR dry nights! The time before that it was only TWO!

She slept with a nightlight (which I have in every room in the house, b/c I don't like to bump around in the dark), and if she woke up in the night to pee, I would go with her and turn on the bathroom light. I know people who have woken their child up in the middle of the night as a "preventative" measure, but I never did that - she would wake up on her own.

However, I'm sure the "cold turkey" wasn't the only part that was working. At that time, she had reached 60 lbs, and I noticed that she had stopped peeing while she napped, so something physical changing with her as well.

MsAng02 · October 2011

VCR= vesicoureteral reflux

Urine flows both ways thru her tubes. (family history) Bedwetting is the most common side affect of it and most kids have don't have sever cases.

Cristine · October 2011

I have a waterproof matress cover and wash the sheets every morning that they have an accident. We stopped using pullups because my older son would just not bother to go to the bathroom when he had it on.

Angela814 · October 2011

We have DD1 wear a pull up every night. We actually need to start limiting liquids because she's just started leaking out of her pull up occasionally.

GinandTonic · October 2011

DS is six and still wears a pullup at night. His pedi said that something like 16% of 6 year old boys have this problem and it goes down by one point a year, so there are still tween boys with this problem. He's SUCH a heavy sleeper, it's even hard to dream-pee him.

The pedi said the biggest problem is when they want to do sleepovers or campouts and it's a social thing.

I tried going cold turkey with the pullups because I thought he was using them as a crutch, but it was a mess. So, for now - it's pullups.

And it's so weird - DD has been night-trained since well before 3...

shouldbworkin · October 2011

My sisters had it and wet the beds often until they were much older. Personally, it's not something I would push if there is an underlying medical condition.

neverblushed · October 2011

I use a waterproof mattress pad. DS wets the bed occasionally, but it's not enough to justify pull-ups. I did have him in pull ups for a while, but it seemed like he was less aware of the need to wake up and hustle to the bathroom when he had a pull up on. I'm not saying this would be the case for every kid, but it seemed like it was making it worse. AND the pull-ups weren't even holding all the pee. I was spending a fortune in pull ups, and still having to wash sheets and pjs every other day!

Right now he'll go for 4 - 6 weeks without an incident, then have a week where he wets the bed several times in a week. It tends to happen most when he's really tired, like after a school vacation or after a trip, etc. DH had the same issue. He was about 10 when he started to get control of it. My pedi says there's definitely a hereditary aspect to bedwetting.

What helped DS go from fairly consistent accidents to rare accidents was when my son made a concerted effort to empty his bladder RIGHT before bed. He concentrates on letting it ALL out. He reads in bed after we tuck him in, and now we'll often hear him get up and go to the bathroom one more time before he turns out his light. This seemed to be a big turning point for him. It was something he could control to at least get it to the point where the accidents were few and far between.

sassyandskinny · October 2011

Actually, limiting liquids and dream peeing aren't effective ways deal with bed wetting. Bed wetting is actually more about brain/body communication and deep sleeping than amount of liquids. Kids who are deep sleepers are more likely to wet the bed simply because they sleep through the brain signaling the body to wake up. In fact, limiting liquids can lead to constipation in kids, which can lead to bed wetting. Using pull ups does not give a child "permission" to pee the bed, if they are going to pee, they are going to pee. Our pedi office offers a "dry night" clinic and it was a godsend for my DS. Basically it's lots of teaching on how to use a bed wetting alarm. It took DS 10 weeks total of using the alarm to stay dry all night. We haven't had even one issue since stopping the alarm. He was 5 when we did it, butnthey say 6 is the best time to start. Our son was super motivated because he hated wetting the bed, even though we never complained or told him it was his fault, because it's not, kids really have no control over it. Our younger DS has never had a problem and stopped wearing a diaper to bed when he potty trained at 2.4 years. These are a must for the time-being... https://www.onestepahead.com/catalog/product.jsp?productId=6773&parentCategoryId=85192&categoryId=85255 Use a water proof mattress pad to protect your matters, but use these to protect the sheets. When they wet, just pull this off, put a fresh one on (so buy two) and you can go back to bed. Wash the sheet saver in the morning and repeat. Seriuosly, these are a must. Saves so much time making the bed and saves on laundry.

sassyandskinny · October 2011

Sorry about the formatting, iPads don't put in the paragraph breaks!

ctbride08 · October 2011

I'm so relieved to see this thread. My son is still soaking his pull up every night (he has literally never woken up dry), and I have the constant internal conflict over whether he's just not ready or if its me not pushing him enough. My pedi is completely unconcerned but *I* just cant let it go.

SueBear · October 2011

sassyandskinny:
Actually, limiting liquids and dream peeing aren't effective ways deal with bed wetting. Bed wetting is actually more about brain/body communication and deep sleeping than amount of liquids. Kids who are deep sleepers are more likely to wet the bed simply because they sleep through the brain signaling the body to wake up. In fact, limiting liquids can lead to constipation in kids, which can lead to bed wetting. Using pull ups does not give a child "permission" to pee the bed, if they are going to pee, they are going to pee.

I guess every case is different, but I disagree with a lot of your post.

Limiting liquids 1-2 prior to bedtime will not result in constipation if the child receives adequate liquids during the morning and afternoon.

Also, pull ups might not give a child permission to pee, but they can prevent a child from realizing they are peeing and waking up. If that response needs to be learned (even subconsciously), it needs to be learned.

We limit bedtime liquids, as well as caffine all day (no soda, limited chocolate) and make sure DC goes to the bathroom before bedtime.

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