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ruthymusney · October 2011

How am I supposed to hold my baby when she's born and then give her away? I dont know how I'm gna do it

HappyAardvark · October 2011

Oh Ruthy, I am so, so sorry. My heart is broken for you.

ludicrous · October 2011

Ruthy, I am so sorry, I don't know how you are going to do it either but I know you will take as much or as little time as you need getting to know your little girl and I don't think you will regret doing it one bit. I know I don't *know* you that well but I wish I could be there to hold your hand or stroke your hair or whatever else you may need. I am thinking about you.

frootloop · October 2011

*hugs*

Ruthy babe... has anyone contacted Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep for you? A professional photographer will come take photos of your beautiful angel... memories of her...

You are in my heart, my thoughts, and my prayers.... I have a friend who has offered me her email address give to you, she went through the same as you, at 41w. Let me know if you want it and I will inbox you.

mmkaye · October 2011

I am so so sorry that you are having to go through this. I think you should take as much time as you need getting to know your precious daughter. I wish there is something I could do to take away some of our pain. Giant hugs.

robinsokj · October 2011

ludicrous:
Ruthy, I am so sorry, I don't know how you are going to do it either but I know you will take as much or as little time as you need getting to know your little girl and I don't think you will regret doing it one bit. I know I don't *know* you that well but I wish I could be there to hold your hand or stroke your hair or whatever else you may need. I am thinking about you.

Ditto lambie. She said it better than I could have.

mrsadamc 05 · October 2011

robinsokj:
ludicrous:
Ruthy, I am so sorry, I don't know how you are going to do it either but I know you will take as much or as little time as you need getting to know your little girl and I don't think you will regret doing it one bit. I know I don't *know* you that well but I wish I could be there to hold your hand or stroke your hair or whatever else you may need. I am thinking about you.
Ditto lambie. She said it better than I could have.

eloquent, heartfelt, and exactly what I want to say.

krate24 · October 2011

Take as much time as you need. Don't feel rushed. And ditto contacting Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep. Your hospital may already work with them/a photographer. I didn't know it existed when my girl was born still, but they took a lot of pictures and I'm glad I have them.

Hugs. This is probably going to be one of the hardest days of your life. I pray for your strength.

baze2 · October 2011

I wish my tears could wash away your pain! I agree with everyone. Take the time you need. Get Photos, kiss and hug her, Say a pray, Etch her into your mind! Know that we all care and are praying for you and your family!

CarrieLiz · October 2011

I wish I had the right words...I'm so, so sorry. Take all the time you need. You'll be in my thoughts and I'm sending you lots of love and big hugs.

AJplusKev · October 2011

I don't know how you're going to do it, but I know you will love on her as much as you need to. I'm so so sorry you're going through this.

Dee1028 · October 2011

It's just not right. I am so sorry, Ruthy. I have been thinking of you and your family non stop.

Excitedtostart · October 2011

Ruthy, the girls are saying it better than I can. This isn't fair, it's so horrendously wrong that you have to do this. Please know how much you are loved, how much your baby girl is loved. We are praying for you, for your family, praying for strength and peace for you. I wish I could make this better, but I can't. You are in my heart.

greenclown · October 2011

Ruthy, Lambie said it well. I just want to give you more hugs.

ellephunt · October 2011

ludicrous:
Ruthy, I am so sorry, I don't know how you are going to do it either but I know you will take as much or as little time as you need getting to know your little girl and I don't think you will regret doing it one bit. I know I don't *know* you that well but I wish I could be there to hold your hand or stroke your hair or whatever else you may need. I am thinking about you.

This times a million. I wish I could be there for you.

magdalina.h · October 2011

Ruthy, hold on to her for as long as you want. It's the most difficult thing to leave them behind. The ONLY thing that got me through leaving Aidan was to remind myself that it was just his body as he was already in heaven. ((hugs))

ashley0616 · October 2011

I am so, so sorry you have to go through this. Like everyone has said, take all the time you need with your little girl. I'll be thinking about you and your family and praying for peace for all of you.

kaydee_2008 · October 2011

Ruthy I'm so sorry I wish there was something I could do. You and your family have been in my thoughts none stop. Sending you so much love sweetie ((hugs))

weelass24 · October 2011

Ruthy, just try to remember every second that you have with her. Bathe her, dress her, hold her, kiss her, photograph her pray with her. You'll know what to do.

armandos_girl · October 2011

I don't know either sweetie. Just take your time, breathe her in, memorize every wonder of her and know that we are here for you if you need to scream, cry, vent, or escape for a little while. We'll keep praying for you.

Unwritten524 · October 2011

Oh honey. ::wraps you in a big giant bear hug::. I don't know how you will do it, but trust me when I say we are ALWAYS stronger than we think we are. Especially when faced with life changing moments. You do what you need and want to do with your angel, and do it knowing it is right for YOU. Cry, scream, hold her, kiss her, hug her, whatever. There is no right way, only your way. We all love you here and please let us know if you need anything.

horizon1322 · October 2011

I cannot even imagine, Ruthy. We love you and are here for you whatever you need. Take as much time as you can with your daughter, sweetie. You are a wonderful mommy! I am just so sorry you're going through this.

Lyssapee · October 2011

I just found out. Ruthy, I am so very sorry. I can't even imagine the pain and suffering you are dealing with. My heart is broken for you. I hope you and your family are able to find some peace.

ASmallWonder · October 2011

mrsadamc 05:
robinsokj:
ludicrous:
Ruthy, I am so sorry, I don't know how you are going to do it either but I know you will take as much or as little time as you need getting to know your little girl and I don't think you will regret doing it one bit. I know I don't *know* you that well but I wish I could be there to hold your hand or stroke your hair or whatever else you may need. I am thinking about you.
Ditto lambie. She said it better than I could have.
eloquent, heartfelt, and exactly what I want to say.

I feel the same way. I'm so sorry

joanithegreat · October 2011

Oh Ruthy, I wish with all my heart that you didn't have to deal with this. As everyone else said, take all the time you need with your sweet baby girl. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

SBma · October 2011

Big hugs, Ruthy. I'm thinking of you and your family.

jensneb · October 2011

Ruthy, I'm so very sorry you are having to go through this, no mother should have to do this, but take as much time as you want to with her, cherish those memories, the way she looks, the way she smells, she's your baby girl no matter what. You have so many friends and support here, and we all care you for and your family.

MrsSparklesMcGee · October 2011

mrsadamc 05:
robinsokj:
ludicrous:
Ruthy, I am so sorry, I don't know how you are going to do it either but I know you will take as much or as little time as you need getting to know your little girl and I don't think you will regret doing it one bit. I know I don't *know* you that well but I wish I could be there to hold your hand or stroke your hair or whatever else you may need. I am thinking about you.
Ditto lambie. She said it better than I could have.
eloquent, heartfelt, and exactly what I want to say.

Exactly this. I have been thinking about you and your family ever since I heard yesterday. I am so, so very sorry.

Sara&Mike07 · October 2011

First off I am so so sorry for your loss. I have been where you are, I was induced with my son after finding no heartbeat also at 39 weeks and 4 days. I am not going to tell you it is easy, but I will tell you that you are more capable of doing what you must then you think you are. Do not let anyone rush you into when to let go, you will know when that time has come, and until that point you hold and you snuggle and tell that little girl how much you love her. People you have do. It will be the hardest things you have ever done, but you will make it one minute, one hour, one day at a time, I can tell you that, and always remember what an amazing mother you are to that sweet angel. So many hugs to you my dear, please feel free to PM me if there is anything I can do.

Elaine&Matt · October 2011

hippotree · October 2011

I don't have any words right now so I will just give you hugs and send you all my good thoughts.

Ace1599 · October 2011

I am so, so very sorry you are having to go through this. Huge, Huge hugs and prayers coming your way. The others said it best, take your time and just hold her. Hugs.

mommaJen10 · October 2011

Ruthy, I'm praying for you to have the strength & peace that you need. I'm so sorry.

easjer05 · October 2011

The thing about a loss like this is that you can't imagine it. You can't imagine it happening, you can't imagine how you would then deliver, how you will hold your baby and let them go, how you will go home alone, how you will get up again the next morning, how you will ever smile or laugh again, how you can possibly survive under something so big and crushing.

And the truth is, like that, you can't. But you will. You will find yourself surviving, taking the next breath and the one after that, eating a meal, and even, eventually laughing (it might be at the blackest humor, but it will happen) and you'll wonder how that dichotomy works, how it can be that your daughter is dead and you can laugh, but you will because you will live. Because you will find the strength - not to heal or get better or get over it or move on - to put one foot in front of the other. And you keep doing that, and sometimes you'll have to stop and rest, but at some point, you'll realize with surprise that you've been walking this entire time.

When Gabe was born, we kept him with us for three hours. That isn't much time, but when they were ready to move me off the maternity floor, we left him with the nurse. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done. Take your time with your little girl, don't be afraid to keep her with her as long as you need, don't be afraid to ask for her back again. You'll know when you are ready to step back.

Love to you, dear one.

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FutureMrsOKD · October 2011

I don't know how you will, because no one should have to. But I know that you will find a strength you didn't know you had in the coming hours and days. You and your family have been in my prayers, I will continue to pray for you strength, peace, and healing. Love on your little girl, hold her as long as you need to, memorize every detail of her, pray with her, baptize/dedicate her (if you are religious), sing to her, tell her about her big sister.

I am so sorry, and I know that doesn't help. I hope you know how much you are loved from coast to coast right now.

CinnamonBun · October 2011

Ruthy, my heart breaks for you. I am so sorry that you have to go through this. We are all here for you, and even though you may not know what you need - know that you have our support.

Kristinmo · October 2011

((hugs)) I don't know how you will either but I know you can. Sending you love and strength.

MrsShrek1028 · October 2011

easjer05:
The thing about a loss like this is that you can't imagine it. You can't imagine it happening, you can't imagine how you would then deliver, how you will hold your baby and let them go, how you will go home alone, how you will get up again the next morning, how you will ever smile or laugh again, how you can possibly survive under something so big and crushing.
And the truth is, like that, you can't. But you will. You will find yourself surviving, taking the next breath and the one after that, eating a meal, and even, eventually laughing (it might be at the blackest humor, but it will happen) and you'll wonder how that dichotomy works, how it can be that your daughter is dead and you can laugh, but you will because you will live. Because you will find the strength - not to heal or get better or get over it or move on - to put one foot in front of the other. And you keep doing that, and sometimes you'll have to stop and rest, but at some point, you'll realize with surprise that you've been walking this entire time.
When Gabe was born, we kept him with us for three hours. That isn't much time, but when they were ready to move me off the maternity floor, we left him with the nurse. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done. Take your time with your little girl, don't be afraid to keep her with her as long as you need, don't be afraid to ask for her back again. You'll know when you are ready to step back.
Love to you, dear one.

Ditto eas. When mckenzie was born we kept her and held/loved/kissed her for many many hours.

danlexi04 · October 2011

greenclown:
Ruthy, Lambie said it well. I just want to give you more hugs.

This. I'm really horrible with words. I can offer more hugs. I'm so so sorry and so sad for you.

brookelynpaisley · October 2011

I don't post here and I know you don't know me, but I just wanted to say again that I'm just so sorry. I read your post with tears yesterday, and I've thought of you often since. I'm sending you and your family love, peace, and strength. No one should ever have to go through this, and I hope you take all the time you need to love on your sweet girl. Hugs to you..

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